nolagurl07 Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 So ive been seeing this guy for about 5 months now everything seemed to go good. We always got along really well we have alot in common. Im actually in nursing school right now and hes a paramedic. Weve talked for hours on numerous accounts of what we would do if things worked out between us where would we live work etc. What kind of house we want blah blah the usual but things ive never really talked about with a guy before so while it was all new i finally felt like i was going to have it. Even though we talked about it weve never actually said i love to each other. I didnt want to say it too soon and he never said it either but i just figured give it time u know things like that need to be said at the right moment. He had to work on Valentines day so we ended up having our time together on that friday before. Things went well that night i spent the night but wen i woke up i felt like something was wrong i was trying to remember if maybe i had a bad dream but not that i remember i just started crying and i kissed him while he was sleeping and i remember thinking im never going to see u again am i why would i do that he woke up to let me out cuz i had to go meet my sister. I tried to kiss him bye but he pulled away and he always says ill see ya later but he said bye he never says bye is it possible he was thinking the same thing i was but i never said anything out loud i just woke up that morning and felt like it was over i dont know why things were good that night before. I left and I tried to just let it go maybe it wasnt what i thought so i texted him that night and said is there something bothering u i just felt like this morning was weird maybe u can call me later and we can talk. Hours go by i dont hear anything he texts me back finally and this is what he said u are incredible you treat me great you go out of ur way to do nice things for me. I want a girl like u in my life sooo bad but when i kiss you i feel nothing i want to soo bad and thats why i just keeping hoping everyday that at some point ill feel the way i wish i did im sorry what the hell why would he say this now i mean weve been seeing each other for 5 months i was ready to put the L word out there and this is what he says i told him i felt like he lied to and led me on he says he never tried to lead me on he was hoping his feelings would develop since we had so much in common why would somebody do this and how should i react to it what should i do? i just feel so crushed ive just been sitting in my room for the past 2 days crying and staring at the wall how could this happen what do yall think went wrong? do yall think it was his plan all along to do this i mean we slept together too b/c i mean its been 5 months weve gotten so close i just get it why didnt i see this and what was up with me feeling that way that morning?
LostInLimbo Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 I know it hurts, but I can only say this, its better to know now, then to start a relationship on false hopes and hope it works on its own, because by that time, months could go by, ppl could go by and your in a relationship, to what you though was, when he didn't and ends up leaving, with you crushed more then ever... In other words, better to hurt for a alittle then to go on pretending everything is ok and only your hearts in it, which in turn means hurt for a long duration... Best Of Luck.... LiL
EYECANDY000 Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 Hi Nola gurl Im sorry hun you are hurting , but trust me it will get better. Luckily it was only 5 months that passed by and not a year or so. I dont think he led you on purposely, but I just think that he felt like the connection wasnt there. People can have a lot of similarities and still not be compatible for each other. its ok to cry, sometimes you need to let it out. But start focusing on yourself. Do things to get your mind off of it. One thing that has helped me is talking about it. It has been 8 days since my ex broke up with me. and I have brke down a few times. But the more I talked about my feelings the better I became. I started to feel like I was telling the same old story over and over again. If this guy is saying that absolutely nothing was wrong in the relationship then give him his space. give him time to really miss you. Dont contact him at all. I know it sounds hard but resist the urge. Let him see that what he had was a good woman who stood by him. But he cant miss you if you start to call and nag him. Let him have his air.. hope everything goes well with you. keep us posted on your well being..
MizzBella Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 Nolagurl, It doesn't sound like he hurt you on purpose, but I know that doesn't help relieve any pain you're feeling. You'll see the same advice again and again on this site - and I think it really works - you need to avoid calling and texting him. If he ever changes his mind, he will come to you. If you're calling him crying and texting him, you'll just look like an unattractive option to him. So, post on here, hang out with friends, delve into hobbies, etc. Just do anything to keep your mind off of him.
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