hellopeople Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 So, I've decided to get closure. I'm sick of wondering why it ended and what signs I missed. I need to know. Its been a month of NC. He contacted me almost 3 weeks ago and I ignored it. But I feel like I need to clear the stupid tension in the air whenever I see him. I'm done letting pride get in the way. I'm done with following the so-called rules of being the "dumpee". It's come to a point where I feel that if I don't really know what happened I'll lose my mind. I have the right to know.
iheartboobs Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 Go for it. As I understand it, NC is a way to get over your ex and move on... if you can't move on because of it, it's not doing it's job. Find out what you need to know.
LostInLimbo Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 NC is a way of healing, not trying to win your ex back, its obviously playing on you and think that only you can make the best choice for yourself, not go by what ppl tell you to do, in all fairness others on here only suggest and give advice, its up to the user to take from it, what they will. I have gone NC when my ex left me a 3rd time, broke that and it was a nightmare, as I only boosted her ego and put her back in control, putting me back to day one. This is the 4th time she walked out on me and I am NC, ONLY because I don't need closure to why she left, fact is, she left. I think you NEED that closure and there is nothing wrong with that, just always be prepared for the truth and then if not interested in working things out, go NC - LC Best Wishes... LiL
Author hellopeople Posted February 16, 2010 Author Posted February 16, 2010 NC is a way of healing, not trying to win your ex back I don't want him back. I just want to clear the air. I see him every other day and there's so much tension between us. I mean we dated for 3 months - not long at all. Seems kinda stupid to act this way...
skydiveaddict Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 I don't want him back. I just want to clear the air. I see him every other day and there's so much tension between us. I mean we dated for 3 months - not long at all. Seems kinda stupid to act this way... If you don't want him back, then there is no need for NC. I think if talking to him will "clear the air" for you, than I would do it.
Author hellopeople Posted February 16, 2010 Author Posted February 16, 2010 Well, honestly. The way I see it, after taking some time to think it over... he hasn't contacted me. That pretty much sums it up - he doesn't want to talk and apparently doesn't feel the tension between us. So, I'm not going to address it. It would look pretty bad if I said something about it and he denied feeling anything.
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