angel2234 Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 A married man and a woman who used to work together have an online affair that never happens in person, after the woman leaves the company. The guy thinks the woman was trying to "frame" him with incriminating sexual emails, so he never lets their relationship happen. The woman is obviously hurt and never does anything to him. Months go by and the woman is still in touch with the other people in the office. She's invited to someone's birthday party through their work email and replies to all (including him) the night before, saying that she can't make it. He replies to her email as soon as he reads it, in the morning of the party, saying "Hi -----, How are things going? I hope you're doing well." What is he trying to do? Tell her that she can go if she wants to, b/c he has no hard feelings? Or is he trying to connect with her again?
Tony T Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 He's trying to see how things are going. He was probably relieved in a lot of ways that she left the company...that took a lot of pressure and head stuff away. I'm sure he is still fond of this person and would like to be friends. Now that communication is not restricted to company Email, he can feel more free to open up. Just remember, though, the guy is still married. All that was received was a silly Email asking how you're doing. Don't make a big deal out of it.
EnigmasMuse Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 I would just keep an eye on it. This is the man who had an online affair with her, and thought she was trying to frame him. If he wanted nothing to do with her at all, it then he shouldn't have bothered at all to even respond to the email. It doesn't matter if he was just trying to see how she was.
whichwayisup Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 It is what it is. A hello, how are you, hope you're well. End of story. Don't read into it, look for hidden messages and MOST OF ALL, since he's married, don't bother writing back to connect with him again.
bittersweet memories Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 A married man and a woman who used to work together have an online affair that never happens in person, after the woman leaves the company. The guy thinks the woman was trying to "frame" him with incriminating sexual emails, so he never lets their relationship happen. The woman is obviously hurt and never does anything to him. Months go by and the woman is still in touch with the other people in the office. She's invited to someone's birthday party through their work email and replies to all (including him) the night before, saying that she can't make it. He replies to her email as soon as he reads it, in the morning of the party, saying "Hi -----, How are things going? I hope you're doing well." What is he trying to do? Tell her that she can go if she wants to, b/c he has no hard feelings? Or is he trying to connect with her again? He's just being nice and you guys seem to read to much into it. I say leave it alone.
Hazyhead Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 A married man and a woman who used to work together have an online affair that never happens in person, after the woman leaves the company. The guy thinks the woman was trying to "frame" him with incriminating sexual emails, so he never lets their relationship happen. The woman is obviously hurt and never does anything to him. Months go by and the woman is still in touch with the other people in the office. She's invited to someone's birthday party through their work email and replies to all (including him) the night before, saying that she can't make it. He replies to her email as soon as he reads it, in the morning of the party, saying "Hi -----, How are things going? I hope you're doing well." What is he trying to do? Tell her that she can go if she wants to, b/c he has no hard feelings? Or is he trying to connect with her again? Agree with the others; he's saying hello. If she reads further into it she'll find things that will send her spirally again when it mightn't be anything. BUT, keep any response brief but polite.
EnigmasMuse Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 I took it to mean that she was the wife of the MM who replied back to the OW email, but guess its her that she is referring to.
stuckinoz Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 (edited) OR perhaps it is she is the one that is trying to reconnect. She was the one that clicked on REPLY ALL - Wasn't she? Here's a recent example of almost the same thing. A man breaks up with a woman - They dated 4 years. They try to remain friends. They work for the same company - just at different locations. HE now has another girlfriend. (who lives out of state) The EX girlfriend writes a post on the EX boyfriends facebook wall........"Thanks for helping me the other day"....The NEW girlfriend sees the post & is less than thrilled. Maybe in the case of the poster here - The EX girlfriend just wanted to get a rise out of or re-connect with the Ex Boyfriend. Could that be it? It is obviously a "round about" & "Childish" way to go about it. But it does make it seem a little less threatening than going directly to him - or writing him a direct email? (Curious!!) Edited February 16, 2010 by stuckinoz
JackJack Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 So angel2234 are you the wife, or are you the woman that the MM sent the email back too asking how you are?
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 The guy thinks the woman was trying to "frame" him with incriminating sexual emails, so he never lets their relationship happen. This sounds like something a man would tell his wife to mislead her about what is actually going on. That said, perspective is everything - is the poster the W or the OW?
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