BootsElectric Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 I've posted here before, but I had been seeing my girlfriend just over a year. I moved to LA a few weeks back for a new job and to be near her. The first time I saw her was saturday night, but being very uncomfortable made me leave. I woke super bowl sunday morning to her crying hysterically, Basically, everything in the relationship had been going fantastic until a broken condom last year apparently doomed us. Pregnancy and the abortion was a turning point for her. She no longer loved me the way she once did, and decided she couldn't keep seeing me on that level. So super bowl sunday, in a sea of tears, she dumped me. For the love of my life to leave me, I must say, it was a rather clean break. She wanted to remain friends, blah blah, and being too caught up in the emotions, I agreed. Now, the past week I've found how quickly my sadness turned into mind-numbing rage. It actually disturbs me, as only a month ago I cherished this woman like no other, and she herself admits no one has ever been so good to her. Now, I can't get over how she could do this to me, how could she crush the person who mattered most in the world to her? As for the contact, I haven't been initiating. But unfortunately, the place I just moved into is a few blocks away from her apartment, and I've already accidentally seen her twice. What are my options here? I've had problems in the past with my anger, and how self-destructive it can be. I can honestly say I don't want to hate my ex, I wish I could move past my negative feelings, but right now I can't see past it. Being friends is absolutely not an option currently. Thoughts?
Perhaps Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 Ah, I'm in the same boat... there's too much anger. I'd say your best option is to be honest about how you feel -- just like she was Tell her you're really hurt by her decision and you don't want to hate her. So, it's better if you stop contact. Then, you start focusing on your life and slowly, the anger will dissolve away. Best,
Author BootsElectric Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 So nearly two weeks after being dumped, I find the anger isn't constant, it seems to come in waves. I've been doing much better overall I think, but occasional petty thoughts (her with someone else, etc.) still make my blood boil. I'm pretty much relegated myself to this occasional flare up.
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