lovesparis Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 i've been dating a guy for a couple months now, although i've known him for years. we are not "bf/gf", but are dating. he is separated, with pwk for D, just not finalized. he's a vet with PTSD, and takes anti-dep's. he's been more than open about everything, and D was started before we started talking. i am extremely happy with him, and am looking forward to the D being finalized so we can be official. unfortunately, he will go through periods of not taking his anti-depressant, and will become very withdrawn... to the point of either a) not leaving his house or b) only leaving to go to a bar. he knows it's unhealthy. he knows he feels better on the drugs. but he struggles with taking them when he's feeling good. when he goes off them and withdraws from the people around him (including me) i feel insecure, and it affects my mood.. i worry constantly that it's me, even though i know rationally that it's not. i care very deeply for him, and really want to make this work. but i don't want to be a nag about his anti-dep's. i've let him know (when he is on them) that i can tell when he's not. how do i let him know it's important to me that he stay on them w/o seeming controlling (STBX was/is very controlling). he's got a lot of issues with fam of origin too; i don't think he's used to being really loved or complimented or treated with respect and dignity (STBX would set him up to be made fun of by "friends"). i want him to know i care about him, and us, without feeling controlling. any suggestions would be appreciated! any stories of similar experiences would also be appreciated. we had an awesome vday together and i can't stop smiling. i know it will only be a matter of time until he stops taking his anti dep's again and they cycle restarts. willing to do most anything i can to keep this feeling..........
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