DudeMan27 Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 For the past year, I have been destroyed by a breakup. I feel like I lost my perfect chance at marriage and happiness. I also lost my job 3 months ago. Since then, I have been drinking alot, sleeping all day, and just being miserable day in and day out. Not too long goes by each day that I dont think of my ex and the mistakes I made that led to my unhappiness. It's caused me to be in the worse shape of my life, low on money, unmotivated and the worrying has made my hair thin. I used to work out 6 days a week. I wasnt in top shape, but I didnt have the gut I have now and had some muscles. Last summer I had a trip to the beach. I did the atkins diet and by the time I got to the beach, I had bigger biceps and no belly at all. I looked good. But the time I returned I became even more depressed over my breakup. I exchanged working out for going out with my friends and drinking/eating. I'm overweight, my complexsion is terrible, and I haven't even tried to look for a job. I dont think anyone has ever let themselves to in a 6 month period like I have. My clothes don't fit well, I dont even like going out because I feel so disgusting. Well I decided I have to change and I have to do it now. I'm dropping the weight and getting back to how I was on vacation. I'm sick of being miserable. I'm sick of not wanting to get out of bed. I feel like I'm not even apart of society anymore. I want to move. My friends are all settled down and they never want to leave their homes. I'm 28 and feel like i've wasted my youth. Until I met my ex, I never traveled. I never wanted to do anything but hang on the couch with my friends. She got me out of all that. She lived in a bigger city, there was always something going on. We went to places I never dreamed I'd be. I want that now. I want the bigger cities, I want the traveling. I want an exciting life and I want to do it before its too late. Problem is, I have no idea how to start. I dont know the first thing about looking for a job in a different city.But first things first. I need to drop this weight and work on my appearance, at least so much so I dont feel like a slob whenever I'm out. I was never a runner, but when I was working out for the beach, I pushed myself and pushed myself. And could actually run a mile without stopping. I want to get back to that and run at least a 5K in May. I guess I just needed to write this down incase I got off track I could look back to it. Anyone have any tips, or motivational factors that could help me. It feels like such an uphill climb and its so easy to give up or not try as hard. I guess I just need some motivation or maybe someone wants to share their personal experiences.
You'reasian Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 for run training www.runnersworld.com Its a good site for run training. Congrats on the 5K! My best pace on the 5K thus far is 7:12 - that was with only a few months training under my belt. Today, I'm running 5 miles (8K) at a 7:58 pace, still very slow but showing improvement. Good luck!
skydiveaddict Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 (edited) It feels like such an uphill climb and its so easy to give up or not try as hard. I guess I just need some motivation or maybe someone wants to share their personal experiences. Join the Army/Navy (yes hokie that includes the Marines) Air force. You will lose the weight guaranteed! Plus feel better about yourself, Nat'l guard ( like me) is another option. But it's still the same BCT (boor camp) as regulars Then I sugesst skydiving, then you're well on your way to a war. Beleive me no one comes back froma war ''fat" Edited February 16, 2010 by skydiveaddict
emzenz Posted February 28, 2010 Posted February 28, 2010 Well.. first off congrats on your singledom! I know it feels like it sucks, but the sky can only get bluer from here (I almost mean that literally. Spring is only a few weeks away!) Being in the same boat as you are, but with a few break ups in my belt, I may have a few suggestions. 1. I'm sorry, but don't join the army because you went through a break up. I'm a reservist myself and I'm proud to say I dropped 30 lbs, but I also was an emotional mess after a I received a "dear jane" letter and I wouldn't wish that bull**** on anyone. Join the army because you want to save the world or something! 2. Working out. Hard regimine to get back into. Do you have any friends that work out? I know I have my pushy best friend calling me every other day telling me I need to go with her, and although I avoid her 95% of the time, the guilt is sometimes enough to at least get me off the couch to do something productive. Otherwise what about a personal trainer? Maybe you need a set time where someone is expecting you to show up! Once you get that 2 mile run in where your heart is racing and you can't feel the muscles in your legs, you realize how great those stupid endorphins feel and want it more! 3. Journaling. Seriously. Greatest gift known to man/woman. I know it sounds ridiculously corny and overrated and all that stuff, but it helps. Two options. First one is an online journal. livejournal.com is great. Not as personal/portable. Second one is a physical journal. I usually go to a bookstore/walgreens and just stare until one of them looks like it was meant to be written in. Modivational quotes on the front are awesome. Anyway, write everything. And I mean everything. Scribble mean terrible bull**** if you have to. Cry your little heart out. But for you in particular, I'd keep a journal of times you've worked out, how it felt, goals, how you plan to keep up, etc. And sometimes it's interesting to go back and read what you've written so far. The ridiculous entries will make you go "geez what was I thinking" and the modivational entries will make you go "oh yeah... i meant to do that. I should get on that." 4. Find friends. And I mean every single one. They'll make sure you get out and about. Make new friends. You never know what's out there until you look. OK. That's my speech for the day. Best of luck to you! I'm in the same work out boat myself so if you need a swift kick to get off the couch or feel like giving me one, let me know p.s. Craigslist.com is the greatest website when it comes to out of town job hunting as well as anything else you might ever need from life.
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