Who do i choose?

[maz]

Hi

 

I have a right dilema that well I never planned to happen. Ill cut a very long story down but here goes.

I started dating my school crush a few months back now. I was totally in love with him at school and well the feelings never died 10 years later. We went out on a few dates and well my feelings just grew then things well started to disappear in my eyes, not my feelings to him but the way he was to me. He would seem distant and well i never knew when id see him next. Thats when out of the blue another man came on to the scene. He came to fit some tv equipment in my home and well it seemed as though i had known him for years even though we had never met. He asked me out for a friendly drink and well things just developed. I fell in love with him to.

My school love ill call him then just before christmas opened up and told me how he feels and that he loves me so much. I felt so happy when he said that then i felt terrible in the next breath. The other guy had been there for me from the time we met, He even came rushing to my bedside in hospital and stayed with me day and night till i was well again. My school love just sent a text saying he dont like hospitals and will see me soon.

Its now got to the crunch that i need to choose between the really good looking and same age school guy that i have had feelings for for so long and the thought of loosing him breaks my heart. Or the older guy (10 years) who isnt the perfect oil painting but has the heart of gold and makes me feel happy and loved and whom I do love aswell.

 

Please who do you think I should choose? Its constantly on my mind and i really dont know what to do.

 

please help

 

maz

[meerkat stew]

You should move this to dating, as you didn't cheat on anyone unless your school love and you had an exclusivity agreement.

 

Doubt anyone can help you choose. Sounds, though, as if the school love hasn't fully chosen you yet but the cable guy has. All other things being equal, in such situations, I choose the one who wants me the most and has proven that over time.

[boogieboy]

Youre going to lose with both of these guys. The older guy youre not really physically attracted to, not as much as the other guy, and you will lose feelings for him eventually. Your old crush will let you down in another way, since youre already splitting hairs with him. Dont do either.

[skydiveaddict]

I flipped a coin and the older guy won.