My ex is a total jerk, so why am I jealous?

[Sadbutrelieved]

I don't know why these feeling of missing him and jealousy that he just moved on and is all snuggled up with someone else already keep coming back, but I am going to list a few of his less-redeeming qualities here hoping that maybe it will knock some sense into my head.

 

1. Lies, lies, 24/7 lies. He lied about things that were so easily verified I could call him out within minutes. Would never admit he lied, but if he did I wouldn't have believed him anyway, that's how much he lies.

2. He's a braggart, and exaggerates everything to a ridiculous degree. Has to be the center of attention at any cost.

3. Manipulates people into feeling sorry for him and loaning him money, which never gets paid back, or buy him something out of pity.

4. Had numerous personals profiles all over the net nearly the whole time we were together. He said it was just to get women to send him pictures and couldn't comprehend why it bothered me.

5. He's a drunk. He's had alcohol poisoning several times and I spent my share of nights poking him and rolling him over so he wouldn't vomit and choke on it. I regret that now. I should have left him alone.

6. Got so drunk he soiled himself and puked all over a really nice hotel room we were staying in for a long weekend the first night we were there.

7. Loves to ruin holidays. Whether he's turning his nose up at the food or waiting until seconds before the party starts to throw a tantrum and refuse to go, leaving me in the lurch and having to show up and make excuses for him, he finds a way to ruin every holiday. His birthday, however, has to be an expensive extravaganza every year and God help anyone who messed it up.

8. Picks his nose. A lot. In fact, he picks a lot of body parts a lot.

9. Questionable hygiene at times.

10. His idea of foreplay was to roll me over and try to jam it in.

 

I'll stop at 10, but there are more. I must really hate myself to be jealous of his new relationship, huh? Feel free to tell me I'm much better off without him. ETA: I forgot the big one: he cheated.

[MizzBella]

hmmm...he sounds awful...so who knows why you're jealous. I'm certain you can do better!

[CaliforniaSunshine]

Number 10 is especially awful. Horrible!!!! The sad thing is my ex was THE best...ughhhhhhh.....why!!

[sedgwick]

Ewwwwww!!!!!!! That's a good list -- by which I mean a really horrible one, but good for helping you move on!

 

My ex had terrible hygiene too (I once asked him if he would consider just wearing deodorant when he was with me, if at no other time, and he laughed and said deodorant was stupid) and wasn't so great in bed either. And I question constantly why I am still in love with him!! All I can do is dream of there being someone out there who could love me enough to wash his pits for me...

[Sadbutrelieved]

Mine was "allergic" to deodorant, laundry soap, and shampoo...yet he sprays Axe all over to cover the smell. It doesn't work.

[twinklecat]

I don't know why these feeling of missing him and jealousy that he just moved on and is all snuggled up with someone else already keep coming back, but I am going to list a few of his less-redeeming qualities here hoping that maybe it will knock some sense into my head.

 

1. Lies, lies, 24/7 lies. He lied about things that were so easily verified I could call him out within minutes. Would never admit he lied, but if he did I wouldn't have believed him anyway, that's how much he lies.

2. He's a braggart, and exaggerates everything to a ridiculous degree. Has to be the center of attention at any cost.

3. Manipulates people into feeling sorry for him and loaning him money, which never gets paid back, or buy him something out of pity.

4. Had numerous personals profiles all over the net nearly the whole time we were together. He said it was just to get women to send him pictures and couldn't comprehend why it bothered me.

5. He's a drunk. He's had alcohol poisoning several times and I spent my share of nights poking him and rolling him over so he wouldn't vomit and choke on it. I regret that now. I should have left him alone.

6. Got so drunk he soiled himself and puked all over a really nice hotel room we were staying in for a long weekend the first night we were there.

7. Loves to ruin holidays. Whether he's turning his nose up at the food or waiting until seconds before the party starts to throw a tantrum and refuse to go, leaving me in the lurch and having to show up and make excuses for him, he finds a way to ruin every holiday. His birthday, however, has to be an expensive extravaganza every year and God help anyone who messed it up.

8. Picks his nose. A lot. In fact, he picks a lot of body parts a lot.

9. Questionable hygiene at times.

10. His idea of foreplay was to roll me over and try to jam it in.

 

I'll stop at 10, but there are more. I must really hate myself to be jealous of his new relationship, huh? Feel free to tell me I'm much better off without him. ETA: I forgot the big one: he cheated.

 

Wow, bar the alcohol related stuff, this is my ex, and ya know I feel the same at times, get jealous and upset about his new relationship and how he could just drop me, but ultimately he's done me an absolute favour, we can both do better and will, we're definitely WAY better off!

 

~twinkle x

[Sadbutrelieved]

Thanks Twinklecat. I think what's ticking me off and making me jealous is that he just found someone else to con and never has to feel any repercussions from it. He just goes on his merry way and leaves me feeling bad. I hope someday he develops a conscience, but I don't think that's possible.

[nobmagnet]

hell yes its possible!

 

 

lowly left. foud his love soul mate (like he did with me) anyhoo Karma plays its great hand. just take a deep breath. want them or not time and time again they get it my love.............its a kinda double edged sword but if you work relly hard on you.............it hurts less my love.

 

Nobby xx

[Elizabrary]

You have me cracking up. I needed that today. For some reason I've been feeling the same way, especially today and my STBXH is the biggest loser EVER! I KNOW I'm so much better off without him, but some days I guess I get lonely. And I feel like you- he could care less and just hurts anyone and never thinks a thing about it. It makes me mad that I feel bad. But I look at it this way- I am capable of loving and caring for someone, which means I hurt when it ends. I would rather be like that than unable to form a true bond with anyone like they are! I do believe I will find a good man some day. It's just hard to wait sometimes.

 

And my ex used to freakin' lick a q-tip and then clean his ears with it. MOST DISGUSTING HABIT EVER!!!!

[Sadbutrelieved]

Ewww! At least he didn't lick it after LOL

 

I really need to keep myself under control, because I have hit the stage where all I think of is revenge. I know that the best revenge is moving on and being happy and leaving him to his miserable existence, but damn I have to fight the urge!

[sedgwick]

Mine was "allergic" to deodorant, laundry soap, and shampoo...yet he sprays Axe all over to cover the smell. It doesn't work.

 

EWWW! I don't know which is worse, body odor or cologne. It's like hippie patchouli stink. NOTHING COVERS REEKING PITS, FOLKS!

 

I will never understand why people have so much trouble taking care of their basic personal hygiene. I mean, it takes five minutes to take a shower or throw your clothes in the washer. What is so difficult about this?

[Sadbutrelieved]

I could tell you some real horror stories about him, but I wouldn't want anyone to have a nightmare tonight