tigressA Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 This is a spinoff from another thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=221447, wherein I targeted a portion of a post by Kamille that states: "BUT, exclusivity is a step towards a more serious form of relationship. For a lot of people it is, in fact, almost synonymous to being bf-gf." I've always thought that being exclusive with someone DID mean that you were their boyfriend or girlfriend, but I've found that's not the only meaning. Apparently the other meaning of exclusive is that you agree to not sleep with anyone else, but you're not an official couple. So I'm putting it to you guys. To you, exclusivity means: 1. Becoming an official couple. OR 2. Agreeing to not sleep with anyone else, but not becoming an official couple. If you have any other options/explanations, please add them.
Lost-n-confused Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 From:http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/exclusive ex·clu·sive 1 a : excluding or having power to exclude b : limiting or limited to possession, control, or use by a single individual or group 2 a : excluding others from participation b : snobbishly aloof 3 a : accepting or soliciting only a socially restricted patronage (as of the upper class) b : stylish, fashionable c : restricted in distribution, use, or appeal because of expense 4 a : single, sole <exclusive jurisdiction> b : whole, undivided <his exclusive
Kamille Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 uh... So, lost-and-confused... What does "being exclusive" mean to you?
rina_r Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 Cant help you...I have never had any exclusivity talks in any of my relatiosnhips. It was all pretty clear without it.
Star Gazer Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 For me, it's in between (1) and (2). It obviously means you're exclusive in that you're not seeing anyone else, but being BF-GF ups the ante a little bit. That usually occurs some time after exclusivity is established... You can be exclusive with a FWB, for example, and obviously not be a "couple."
txsilkysmoothe Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 It could mean either which is why communication is so important. Traditionally, it did pertain to a relationship but I have heard it used more recently in reference to an FWB.
Vertex Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 For me, it's in between (1) and (2). It obviously means you're exclusive in that you're not seeing anyone else, but being BF-GF ups the ante a little bit. That usually occurs some time after exclusivity is established... You can be exclusive with a FWB, for example, and obviously not be a "couple." This is what I interpret that to be as well.
Lost-n-confused Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 uh... So, lost-and-confused... What does "being exclusive" mean to you? When I asked my girl to be exclusive I said with the meaning that we both see only each other and I mentioned that. A week later I asked her if we were official. I think they both mean the same but exclusive could mean that you’re just dating each other only and official mean you are officially boyfriend and girlfriend. Its some place between 1 and 2 but I’m leaning towards 2. Although we did change our facebook status after the exclusive talk so I guess we were boyfriend and girlfriend.
txsilkysmoothe Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 It obviously means you're exclusive in that you're not seeing anyone else, but being BF-GF ups the ante a little bit. This is odd to me. Why date exclusively if you are NOT bf-gf?
Sharla Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 I think John Gray's explanation always made the most sense: Attraction…Uncertainty…Exclusivity…Intimacy…Engagement
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