ladyjane83 Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Hey, I have been talking to a guy online for a while now. We sent a couple of emails a week...not everyday, but regular. We get on well. About 2 weeks ago he emailed and at the end he said "well, we could sent these emails back and forth all year and not get anywhere, so one night we could meet up if you want?" I replied and said yeah that would be nice. I also gave him my phone number. So far nothing has been arranged. Continued to email as norm..but no setting up of an actual date.Why bother asking if I want to meet up if he isnt then doing to ask me out properly!?? He hasnt used my phone number either, despite me giving it to him. This was last weekend, this weekend it was valentines day and also his birthday, so a couple of friends said maybe he is waiting untill after this weekend because he doesnt want the awkwardness of starting something just before a sigificant date in the calendar. hmm. He is also VERY laid back. Well it was his birthday yesterday so I facebooked him (private message) saying: Hey you ...HAPPY BIRTHDAY! hope you're having a lovely day and that you're enjoying your 4 day weekend!..although it's not quite as good as the whole week that I have off I dont have much planned for the week so let me know if you fancy doing something one day/night, you've got my number... Enjoy the rest of your birthday! x So today he replied with this: Hey, I'm not on here for long, just wanted to say thanks for the birthday message. Enjoy your week off and hopefully I'll get some free time and I'll text you, bye xx Sooo....do we think I will be hearing from him?! hmm. I know people willl say that he just isnt that into me...but if he wasnt interested why mention going out in the first place if your not going to follow up with it. And why bother replying...if he wasnt interested he could just delete me off facebook its not like he owes me anything x
Author ladyjane83 Posted February 15, 2010 Author Posted February 15, 2010 oh and he def hasnt got a gfriend or is married because I would have been able to tell from his facebook
wizer Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Why wait for him to set up a meeting? Tell him that it's been long enough and it's time for a face to face if he's interested in taking it to the next level otherwise goodbye and goodluck. As it stands you're giving him all the power and control and look what he's doing with it.
Rulebreaker Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Again playing my devil's advocate role around here, leave it alone. He has squarely placed the ball in his own court. He sounds lame to me. How did you meet him? Rules for Online Dating says, if no request to meet within 4 e-mails, NEXT! In this case you had the request but no follow up. Still, I think you have enough information here.
Author ladyjane83 Posted February 16, 2010 Author Posted February 16, 2010 Why wait for him to set up a meeting? Well, I didnt want to say a definte date or time..I would rather him ask me. Afterall it was him who suggested going out int he first place. This is the 2nd time now that I have said "let me know if you're free for that catch up" so I have definitly put the ball in his court.
counterman Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 Yep, the ball is in his court. It keeps his options open if one day he decides that he does want to take up that meeting with you, IMO. Just don't sit around and wait literally but, rather, get on with your life! If he calls, then you can decide whether you still want to meet up.
Leia Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 After 2 emails or so and yet, he hasn't given you a call? Or you didn't either? Ppfftt. Let it go.
DustySaltus Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 This guy is either married, in a relationship or is juggling numerous women. His actions do not show that you are his priority, they show that you are an option. I know that you don't want that. Forget about him.
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