Man.. Not holding up too well. What Can I do to get her to contact me?

[luvthisbar]

Been going out with my ex for 4 years. She turned 21, moved out from a strict family in a small town in florida and moved to a big city and started partying/clubbing/drinking to the max. Obviously as anyone would do with their first taste of freedom. She decided a relationship is not what she wanted right now and told me she needs space, her family and friends all think she needs to "experience life" rather than being so committed at such a young age. She says she doesnt want another relationship and wants to be friends.

 

Obviously after 4 years I couldnt be her friend so I told her I simply couldnt do that and asked that she not text or call me anymore. In 4 years we have never ever broken up and havent gone a day without talking to each other.

 

Now that I have been on NC for 2 straight months now I miss her like crazy. I have been healing but lately it seems from friends that she is moving on and doesnt care. Telling mutual friends we broke up and it gets back to me. I have gotten restricted calls at 2am twice in the past 2 months and no one said anything. I could only assume it was her.

 

I would be a fool to call her or contact her. She wanted space from me. I know she loves me and I know she misses me. I think moving out for the first time and making new friends got to her head. Now with this NC, I know its designed to help me heal, but I just want her to contact me in any way but I think we both have to much pride to pick up the phone and call. I hate to see this relationship and so much just go down the drain. Is there anything I can do to make her want to call me? I just disappeared out of her life. deleted her on fb, make sure mutual friends dont post any pics of me up, no calls, no texts no nothing... flat out fell off the face of this earth.

Edited February 15, 2010 by luvthisbar

[USMCHokie]

Is there anything I can do to make her want to call me?

 

No.

 

 

I just disappeared out of her life. deleted her on fb, make sure mutual friends dont post any pics of me up, no calls, no texts no nothing... flat out fell off the face of this earth.

 

You are doing EVERYTHING right. Keep this up. I know you miss her and want to talk to her again...but that isn't up to you do decide if or when the time is right...

[wizer]

I know she loves me and I know she misses me.

 

You're just fooling yourself.

 

It's nothing to do with pride, and even less to do with her loving you and missing you.

 

She wanted out, it's been 2 months and you haven't heard a word from her.

 

She's done with you man.

 

Accept it and move on. Because you haven't done either.

[fresh-one]

i know how ur feelin man. i was wit mine for 4 years until she left. and after about 6 months of zero contact she randomly started talkin to me. but if ur like me and ur hopin she will talk to you to try to fix things than ur setting yourself up for a world of hurt. i thought the 6 months was bad its even worse after you hear from them again ecspeacialy if u have high expectations

[bluestraps]

You could try not communicating with her at all . Problem is if she's not wanting a long term relationship , your options are limited . If she is the kind that is very needy she may wonder how you are doing