SoConfusledandHurt Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Hi guys, Ive always been curious about these things...so I figured Id type it out and ask. When you masturbate do you always have to be visually stimulated? Or do your fantasies get vivid enough that you dont need to look at a pic or watch a vid? My fiance says that he always has to look at something. He masturbates all the time when single or he said in his past relationships but says he never has to with me, even though we dont have sex everyday. I get confused by this...but chalk it up to he is probably bored with more time on his hands when single or alone. Im home most of the time when he is so he doesnt have much alone time anymore, since being with me. Doesnt seem to bother him and he seems content with our sex life. Also when masturbating from thought, and this is especially for the guys who are just into looking at the female form (playboy, maxim type), what percentage of the time do you think about your wife/gf versus random hot chicks youve seen throughout the day or week or whatever? I dont know why I think about these things, lol...guess Im a dork. Ive asked my fiance, but I feel like he is being politically correct because he doesnt want to hurt my feelings by being totally honest. LOL, he says "of course I ALWAYS think of you and I NEVER masturbate" which Im not sure if he really does or not LOL, because he knows Im perfectly ok with it, even a little turned on...but he still says nope dont do it! Im not upset or jealous, more curious really...
Enema Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 Don't always need to look at something. Can just visualize when in the shower for example, but if there's an option - always choose to watch something. Probably think about my wife 1-5% of the time. Think about hot chicks have seen on the street 0% of the time, never enough to go on.
Jeff1962 Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 The best porn in the world in right here in my head. I think about my wife. Situations with my wife. Of course I'm not blind to other women but I don't beat off to them. Mass-mas-mass-tur, Masturbation is normal. Sorry my hand was stuck in rythm. Each persons fantasies vary. So what do women think about?
Author SoConfusledandHurt Posted February 16, 2010 Author Posted February 16, 2010 Well I guess Im a rarity as a woman, because when I masturbate I actually enjoy watching porn. LOL You would have to ask other women who dont watch porn what they think about. lol cuz Im as disgusting as a man and find the raunchiest porn I can LMAO! I guess Im just curious about my guy because he says he never does it. I dont know if I really believe it, but all signs lead to he is telling the truth, unless he spanks off while in the shower...but he says he doesnt do that either...I wish he would so I could "catch" him...Im pretty sure I would cream myself instantly hehe
Jeff1962 Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 I guess Im just curious about my guy because he says he never does it. I dont know if I really believe it, but all signs lead to he is telling the truth, unless he spanks off while in the shower...but he says he doesnt do that either...I wish he would so I could "catch" him...Im pretty sure I would cream myself instantly hehe Share this fantasy with him. You might get lucky.
Author SoConfusledandHurt Posted February 16, 2010 Author Posted February 16, 2010 Oh he knows lol...we are very open sexually...I guess when you hear people say "all guys do it and if they say they dont their lying" it makes you think... He tells me he likes to save it for me...sometimes when life gets a bit busy and we go for longer than 3-5 days without, I start wondering...and um...fantasizing... There was one time in the first year of our relationship that I had taken our cat to the vet and he spanked off while me and the kids were gone. I knew he did because when I came home from the vet and went to wash my face, my two year old knocked over the trash and when I was picking it up I picked up his wet tissue with his cum and cinammon lube all over it, and got all horny...I wasnt going to say anything to him about it, but we were having drinks on our porch and he was telling me how it was nice to be in a relationship with me because now he never has to jack off anymore...I thought it was strange and asked him the last time he had and he lied and told me it had been months before this instance. (At this point he also knew that I was so freaking turned on by it...so he shouldnt have felt shame or anything) I told him what I found and it was one of our first big fights. He still will not admit that, I dont bring it up specifically but have let him know that I "know" he has lied to me. Sometimes when I think about that I think its so silly of him to lie to me about it...but there was nothing I could do, so I just chalked it up to him thinking it would really hurt my feelings or something and thats why he has decided to take this stance and lie. As far as I know he really is an open book...but owell... Sorry for the book there...just ramblings!
Blindsidedagainalive Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 "of course I ALWAYS think of you and I NEVER masturbate" - This is a lie, so your sex life is not as open as you think it is. We are very visually stimulated, so yes, masturbation is aided by looking at a person or porn.
Author SoConfusledandHurt Posted February 16, 2010 Author Posted February 16, 2010 I wouldnt go as far as to say our sex life isnt as open as I think it is...but you do have a point. When he has asked me "why do I need to do it, you take care of me anytime I want" I usually casually respond "um..because it feels good" I seriously dont know where he does it or when...I kind of believe him when he says he doesnt. Well the shower is the only thing...but he takes the quickest showers and is not the quickest cummer...so hmmm...maybe I will have to peak in more! Ok new Q For the men who masturbate in the shower...do you do it at the beginning or end?
carhill Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 For the men who masturbate in the shower...do you do it at the beginning or end? Been awhile, but beginning for me. As to your OP, I'm an outlier so not indicative of the norms, but I generally have fantasized about someone with whom I had intimacy (not necessarily sexual); this happened mostly during the period where my stbx ignored me in general. I fantasized about what I was missing in my M, when communication failed to rectify it. Most guys just have a slideshow. I get a bit of that, but it isn't random; rather a collection of intimate moments which made emotional memories over the decades. You did ask
Author SoConfusledandHurt Posted February 22, 2010 Author Posted February 22, 2010 Thanks guys for answering, maybe I might get lucky and sneak a peak and find him taking care of business...only to help him "close the deal" hehehe:love:
FeelingLonely98 Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Ok new Q For the men who masturbate in the shower...do you do it at the beginning or end? At the beginning or end of ... what? The shower or the "equipment"?
Gerhard Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Thanks guys for answering, maybe I might get lucky and sneak a peak and find him taking care of business...only to help him "close the deal" hehehe:love: It sounds like he does masturbate but he doesn't want you to know he does. It's also clear you have a fascination with mens masturbation. Might I suggest you and him share sexual fantasies and you tell him you'd like to watch him masturbate. Even if he doesn't agree to it, you'll learn something from how he reacts to your suggestion.
Author SoConfusledandHurt Posted February 23, 2010 Author Posted February 23, 2010 Oh he knows, we have talked about it and he will masturbate in front of me...and when we were apart we played on the webcam, he just says I do it better than him and so he doesnt do it...
KikiW Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 Heh, I used to do it watching porn clips, but - and I swear this is true - the last time I figured I'd give it a go I got horribly bored and gave up. My SO is better than porn!
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 Oh he knows, we have talked about it and he will masturbate in front of me... What would you do if he decided he wanted to do it on his own and not include you? I know a lot of people, while liking to incorporate it into a sexual relationship still enjoy doing the deed in privacy. Would you be offended if he wanted some 'alone time'?
linwood Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 I can visualize a fantasy in my mind just fine. Most are memories of previous acts. Mostly my wife. I`m not attracted to the women I see in my daily life so that may be a factor. My frequency of masturbation can be daily but if I have an active interested frequent sex partner I abstain. So your guy may be telling the truth about his habits.
Author SoConfusledandHurt Posted February 23, 2010 Author Posted February 23, 2010 What would you do if he decided he wanted to do it on his own and not include you? I know a lot of people, while liking to incorporate it into a sexual relationship still enjoy doing the deed in privacy. Would you be offended if he wanted some 'alone time'? First of all...this HAS happened about three times. After my surgery was once when he casually told me after I woke up from a nap that he had taken care of business. I just giggled and told him I couldnt wait until I was able to have him again. Nothing more was ever said about it.
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