brockreiman Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 its been 6 months going on 7. absolutely no contact yet i still feel the same way i did then. I can't go into the town where i live in fear i may see her. I tried going out with friends...but nothing can make me forget about her. I dream about her everynight. I don't know what to do. You would think after 6 months i could get the picture out of my head and move on. any suggestions. Should i seek professional help??
Odyssey Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 How are you keeping yourself busy? To combat those feelings, I'd started taking care of myself in ways i hadn't before. That meant new clothes, new routines, new hobbies and start dialing up your social life to meet new people. Exercise. Endorphins are great against depression. Doing these things will give you a feeling of control over your own life. You'll also feel like you're making space in your life for someone new when you're not sitting in a rut. OP, you can always hold a place in your heart for an ex, but don't live in that place. Open yourself and your heart to everything else life has to offer you.
aimchase Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Brock, I did this. I was checking at what point I should be over my past relationship with my ex, and was getting irritated with myself that I wasn't moving on half as quick as I thought to be 'the norm'. After about three months people were saying, 'move on', 'meet other people' etc, and I felt a complete loser because I couldn't do what others expected of me. I felt weak, i've always been considered a confident person but here I was, my weakness exposed, unable to move on. Guess what? Screw however many months you've been separated. Still not over it? It doesn't matter! It's who you are and you have to just accept that. Don't berate yourself for it! If it takes five years, it takes five years, but if you take the right steps forward, it won't take a fraction of that, and you'll deal with things better. You need to accept that it's the past and can't be brought back. Easier said than done, but the way you act going forward will help you to deal with that. Concentrate on what YOU want to achieve in your own life, and work at it. Work, friends, family, hobbies - use them all and find your passions. Don't just turn your nose at it and ponder about the ex, as soon as you do that you've stopped moving forward. Take one day at a time. Don't expect miracles, don't expect any sudden cure. Just keep looking after yourself, step by step, and you will get there. The ex was not to be. That's why you're not together, but there is someone out there that you will fall for even more. The future isn't bleak, it's a very happy and exciting place if you choose to take it. Good luck.
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