Author USMCHokie Posted February 16, 2010 Author Posted February 16, 2010 (edited) verrry smooooth. Hahahah...I have no idea what you're talking about... Edited February 16, 2010 by USMCHokie
famke Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 okay, so I get you guys. I agree. You can't totally get over your ex untill you fall in love with someone else. I think it's true.. BUT what if I don't want a relationship soon. I want to be single, I want to love it. I want to be comfortable with being on my own. All my friends (who are girls) have boyfriends.. Almost ALL of them. I don't want a boyfriend for about 1 or 2 years. I want to focus on sports and school. but can I get over my ex if I don't choose for a new love? or is my situation hopeless?
Leia Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 okay, so I get you guys. I agree. You can't totally get over your ex untill you fall in love with someone else. I think it's true.. BUT what if I don't want a relationship soon. I want to be single, I want to love it. I want to be comfortable with being on my own. All my friends (who are girls) have boyfriends.. Almost ALL of them. I don't want a boyfriend for about 1 or 2 years. I want to focus on sports and school. but can I get over my ex if I don't choose for a new love? or is my situation hopeless? It is possible, it just takes longer for some. I have only been in one serious relationship and it took me less than a year to get over him. We were off and on for a couple of years so maybe that was why it was easier for me to get over him, to top that off he cheated on me and when someone cheats on you, it's a breeze to get over them. Do your own thing, make lots of plans with family and friends. Concentrate on school/sports. Then when you're ready, go out and meet new guys.
Author USMCHokie Posted February 16, 2010 Author Posted February 16, 2010 okay, so I get you guys. I agree. You can't totally get over your ex untill you fall in love with someone else. I think it's true.. BUT what if I don't want a relationship soon. I want to be single, I want to love it. I want to be comfortable with being on my own. All my friends (who are girls) have boyfriends.. Almost ALL of them. I don't want a boyfriend for about 1 or 2 years. I want to focus on sports and school. but can I get over my ex if I don't choose for a new love? or is my situation hopeless? I understand that you want to focus on yourself for a little while and be happy living life on your own. That's something everyone really should be doing. Unfortunately, too many of us base our happiness solely on our relationships with other people and forget to look inward for happiness first. This leads to unhappy relationships, unhealthy relationships, infidelity, and even divorce... I wouldn't say your situation is hopeless...as time passes, your memories of your ex will become just that...memories...and your emotions will become more and more detached from those memories...so you certainly won't forget about him, but it becomes easier to function without him...it just takes time...like Leia said, it's different from person to person... I think that finding someone new just speeds up that process...
Meaplus3 Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 So now I find myself in an infinite loop with no way out...and it's driving me nuts... No. There is a way out... it's called No Contact. If you stick with it.. it won't fail you. It's most important in order to break free from the relationship. You can do this.. and you can get out of that loop and back on a straight line once again. Mea:)
Leia Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 No. There is a way out... it's called No Contact. If you stick with it.. it won't fail you. It's most important in order to break free from the relationship. You can do this.. and you can get out of that loop and back on a straight line once again. Mea:) Hokie is in NC, no?
Author USMCHokie Posted February 16, 2010 Author Posted February 16, 2010 No. There is a way out... it's called No Contact. If you stick with it.. it won't fail you. It's most important in order to break free from the relationship. You can do this.. and you can get out of that loop and back on a straight line once again. Mea:) Almost 5 months of NC here and doing great from that standpoint...I definitely feel like I'm free of the relationship itself...but not completely free of the person...the loop I feel stuck in is getting myself out there to date again...and now I'm not sure whether it's my past relationship or my own issues that are stopping me from feeling enthusiastic about dating again...I want to meet and date someone new... I need a wingman...like Barney Stinson...I need Barney...
Author USMCHokie Posted February 16, 2010 Author Posted February 16, 2010 Hokie is in NC, no? No, he is in VA. Close enough...
Leia Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 Almost 5 months of NC here and doing great from that standpoint...I definitely feel like I'm free of the relationship itself...but not completely free of the person...the loop I feel stuck in is getting myself out there to date again...and now I'm not sure whether it's my past relationship or my own issues that are stopping me from feeling enthusiastic about dating again...I want to meet and date someone new... I need a wingman...like Barney Stinson...I need Barney... You'll get out of the loop, Kelvin. You're a marine I love Barney Stinson! :love:
Author USMCHokie Posted February 16, 2010 Author Posted February 16, 2010 No, he is in VA. Close enough... This was a HUGE fail on my part... NC did not mean North Carolina... And I couldn't edit... I'll go away now...
Leia Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 No, he is in VA. Close enough... :rolleyes: You're lame
Author USMCHokie Posted February 16, 2010 Author Posted February 16, 2010 You'll get out of the loop, Kelvin. You're a marine I love Barney Stinson! :love: Awww, thanks! I need to buy some suits...
Leia Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 Awww, thanks! I need to buy some suits... I hope you're nothing like Ted! He's kinda sweet but he can be so lame! "You know what Marshall needs to do. He needs to stop being sad. When I get sad, I stop being sad, and be AWESOME instead. True story." He's Legen .... WAIT FOR IT .... daaary!
Author USMCHokie Posted February 16, 2010 Author Posted February 16, 2010 I hope you're nothing like Ted! He's kinda sweet but he can be so lame! "You know what Marshall needs to do. He needs to stop being sad. When I get sad, I stop being sad, and be AWESOME instead. True story." He's Legen .... WAIT FOR IT .... daaary! Hahah, no, I wouldn't be caught in just a blazer....! Hahahah, yes, it's time to be awesome. SUIT UP!
Meaplus3 Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 Almost 5 months of NC here and doing great from that standpoint...I definitely feel like I'm free of the relationship itself...but not completely free of the person...the loop I feel stuck in is getting myself out there to date again...and now I'm not sure whether it's my past relationship or my own issues that are stopping me from feeling enthusiastic about dating again...I want to meet and date someone new... I need a wingman...like Barney Stinson...I need Barney... Mea is very sorry.. I read your post wrong. Time for new glasses. And now time for new advice. You know it is VERY normal to feel sort of on the edge about putting yourself back out there. After all, you just came out of an R.. that clearly did not work, and I'm sure your a bit antsy.. that is NORMAL. Just take your time.. and it will happen. My best to you. Mea:)
Author USMCHokie Posted February 16, 2010 Author Posted February 16, 2010 Mea is very sorry.. I read your post wrong. Time for new glasses. And now time for new advice. You know it is VERY normal to feel sort of on the edge about putting yourself back out there. After all, you just came out of an R.. that clearly did not work, and I'm sure your a bit antsy.. that is NORMAL. Just take your time.. and it will happen. My best to you. Mea:) S'ok... It's been almost 6 months since the breakup, and I feel pretty good now. I understand why it didn't work and accept it for what it was. But you're right, although I'm excited to get out there again, I'm also a little bit antsy...because it's not something I can force...no matter how much I'd like to be with someone...I can only put myself in situations to meet new people and see where it goes... But thanks...
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