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should the guy always initiate contact first?


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Yes :) think about yourself for awhile. It's hard to separate that from thinking about a guy, believe me, I know. But try hard.

 

Yes, your right, i am getting way too wrapped up. THere is such a thing as overkill.

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Keep in mind that in posting on this Board I have a certain role to play, that of Rules Girl :) but I am trying to be pragmatic.

 

To make sure he does not lose interest, stop texting altogether. Just stop it.

Immerse yourself in YOURSELF aside from him or men at all.

 

He will likely notice the difference and initiate, to which you should respond less frequently and put less of yourself out there.

If he does not text, you have your answer and you can feel relieved.

 

Bold part doesn't sound right. If you want someone to do something more often you should reward them when they do it. I like when girls initiate, so whenever they do I always try to respond quickly and enthusiastically because I want them to avoid feeling that anxiety. That way they don't feel any hesitation the next time. I would only respond less frequently if I DIDN'T want them to initiate.

 

Same goes for the other side. I'll initiate whenever I want to so long as I'm getting a good reaction. That means that the other person is still enjoying it. But if I'm not getting a good reaction then I figure they're starting to want a little more space so I'll initiate less.

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