Author oneheart Posted February 20, 2010 Author Posted February 20, 2010 Crikey Stung! Thank goodness for people like you (and others on here) who can sum it all up in one paragraph like that! That really helped... thank you. I've accepted the new place... just waiting for them to reply. I've just got to get through the packing back at our old home together. Most of it I will be in my own company... well.. with my cat.. who I'll have to find a temporary or permanent new home for I'm dreading it. Can't bear to see his stuff and be there for hours on my own packing up everything.. it's a sad ending.. despite the sense in leaving - and I see it- I am going - I am still broken hearted and will miss the good times. I think the crazy thing is - is that he's all bull****. He's not even being honest with himself. I think that's why I forgive him when he's angry. Although it hurts when he is nasty - I know the behaviour is because he hurts... My mum's fiance says it's a happy ending because I got out and don't have to put up with it any more.
Stung Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 Crikey Stung! Thank goodness for people like you (and others on here) who can sum it all up in one paragraph like that! That really helped... thank you. I've accepted the new place... just waiting for them to reply. I've just got to get through the packing back at our old home together. Most of it I will be in my own company... well.. with my cat.. who I'll have to find a temporary or permanent new home for I'm dreading it. Can't bear to see his stuff and be there for hours on my own packing up everything.. it's a sad ending.. despite the sense in leaving - and I see it- I am going - I am still broken hearted and will miss the good times. I think the crazy thing is - is that he's all bull****. He's not even being honest with himself. I think that's why I forgive him when he's angry. Although it hurts when he is nasty - I know the behaviour is because he hurts... My mum's fiance says it's a happy ending because I got out and don't have to put up with it any more. The fact that he can't be honest with himself is a huge problem, even bigger than him not being entirely honest with you. He will never be an understanding person capable of empathy and open to compromise because he can't stand being challenged to look inside himself at his own behavior and motivations. Your mom's fiance is right, it is a happy ending for you even though it doesn't feel like it now. In ten years you will look back on this guy and laugh and wonder what the hell you were thinking. I am sorry about your having to find new quarters for your cat, though. Good luck with everything, Oneheart. You can do this.
2sunny Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 it is hard to imagine that you thought you were in love with someone - only to find out that you were only in love with the person you thought he might be. big difference... be grateful to realize the truth of what he actually is.
Author oneheart Posted February 21, 2010 Author Posted February 21, 2010 I've moved this thread over to breaks and breaking up now..... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2668029&posted=1#post2668029 Thanks to everyone who has helped... you've been very kind.
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