lookingforyou Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 How many of you would call a guy and ask him out if he gives you his number?
Rulebreaker Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 How many of you would call a guy and ask him out if he gives you his number? Even before I started following the Rules I generally wouldn't do this. My last boyfriend was what I like to call a "burden shifter." After each of our dates at the beginning he would say, "if you want to do something, call me." I wouldn't call him, and he would eventually e-mail me and ask to get together. Basically he was lazy. You don't really need that. Exception: If he asks for your number and you refuse to give it to him for some privacy reason or something.
Kamille Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 I have received numbers, from very charming men. Once I did call the guy but he never called back :laugh:. (Maybe he follows the rules???). I don't have a set rule, but I do prefer for guys to take the lead and demonstrate interest. I think that were I to be single again I would be a bit more forthcoming. I would call guys up and ask them out, but then the next 'ask out' would be on them (as in, then I would sit back and wait for them to display interests).
Johnny M Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 How many of you would call a guy and ask him out if he gives you his number? I had a first date on Valentine's Day. The girl asked me out. It went fine and I'm planning to call her this week and schedule a second date. Don't listen to women who say that girls should never be asking guys out. That is complete nonsense. Women who say things like that are extremely insecure and tremble at the very thought of rejection. If you are a confident person, go for it.
Leia Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 How many of you would call a guy and ask him out if he gives you his number? I've done that and never had problems after that. They seem to call me back for the second, third, forth date. Whenever I was free then, I'd give them a call to go out for coffee or ice cream. By doing that, it does not make you less attractive. Some men actually find it attractive. I feel that by following rules, you miss out on a lot. That's just me.
Kamille Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 I remembered another time when I was the one to ask a guy out... A guy I dated in undergrad. We went out for 8 months and he could never really make up his mind about me... He was flattered that I was into him but not over his ex-gf. After that guy I decided I was going to let guys do the asking out. Now I realize that I should have ended the relationship the first time he mentioned his ex. Asking a guy out doesn't take away a girl's right to decide what she will or won't put up with in a relationship (and vice versa: asking a girl out doesn't take away a guy's right to decide what he will or won't put up with in a relationship).
sally4sara Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 I have asked men out. I ask my husband out for our first date. I have never asked a guy out, it not worked out, and assumed it was because I asked him out rather than him asking me out. Things will not work out between every person you meet. Sometimes you will just not be compatible with a person and no amount of who asked who out will make up for that. If this were not true, then why didn't it work out with some of the guys who asked me out? I don't understand the "rules" behind women not asking men out. Hasn't anyone met a person at a party or though friends? You enjoy the conversation and it just clicks leading to you wanting to spend more time with them? It just seems like I read many situations on here where it was made way more complicated than it ever really had to be. To me, it has never mattered who asked who. We're all just people.
Thebob Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Tell that to all these prissy girls now days that feel like they are all beauty queens and need to be treated and loved more than anyone else. That they don't need to do any of the work and all of the connection needs to be done by the male. Its rough, and in my opinion better relationships will occur if the girl did some of the asking out instead of the male because it's tough on us guys to do it all the time. Thebob
MalachiX Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 As a guy I find it a mixed bag. On the one hand, it's nice to know a girl is interested and not just going out with you because you're the only guy around or the only one showing interest. It's also nice if you're shy like me to have someone else putting forth a little risk. The down side is, as a guy, it's a bit harder to deal with if you're not sure about the girl. If I ask a girl out and the date doesn't go great or she doesn't seem into me, I usually think, "Ok, that didn't work. I did my best and now I'll move on." On the other hand, if I'm asked out and I'm not that interested I always think, "Jeez, I feel like a jerk not really wanting to call her when she took the risk to ask me out. I know how difficult it can be and how bad it feels to be rejected."
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