Chitowngirl Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 So I dated a guy for 4 months..he was a good guy, but didn't "do it" for me..you know when someone really drives you crazy..he was just "meh". But I hung out with his friend a few times when we were at events together, weddings, bars, etc and actually was more attracted to him physically, and him and I had more in common than my bf at the time. I have stayed in touch with my ex, he is a good guy and all, but am wondering if I should contact his friend? Granted nothing would happen since I live in a different state now..but would he be flattered or disgusted that his buddies ex gf, (we've been broken up since Dec 09) thought he was hot? Guys, how would you feel? Flattered? Disgusted? Would you tell your friend?
harmfulsweetz Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 You say nothing would ever happen because you live in a different state to him, so why not? If all you are doing is contacting him for friendship, there's certainly no harm. I have this issue now, except it's my ex's good friend who is after me. Personally, I wouldn't, no matter how attracted I was. Destroying a friendship (and it will do that, because they will never look each other in the same way ) isn't worth it. Treat others the way you want to be treated is my rule book, because how would you feel if he made a pass at your friend? Think about it honestly. Would you feel OK if your friend accepted? Even though it was fairly lukewarm between you two, I imagine he'd feel fairly rubbish about the both of you. Give it a couple of months, then think about it again.
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