soup Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 I broke up with my girlfriend just over a week ago, lots of good reasons some of which I have posted about: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t221126/ After that she has alternated between anger/blame/suicide threats and saying sorry for all the stress, she loves me, one more chance etc. In short, even though there were some very good aspects and I miss her a lot, the relationship was bad, I don't want to go back. There are too many memories of really incomprehensible arguments and bad moods, for me the negatives outweigh the positives, even though I do care about her, I'm very worried about her. We speak once a day and I try to encourage her to go back to work, to eat, to talk to someone other than me about her feelings. I feel that more than this would be giving her false hope. She always cries, says "i love you" and asks for another chance. I just change the subject or go quiet. I hate not telling her what she wants to hear but I don't want to lead her on. I don't want to break all contact because she really is unable to talk to any friends or family. Even though the relationship is impossible, I feel guilty for making her feel bad. I know I can't sacrifice my happiness and mental health in order to promote hers, I'm past the decision of going back. I just don't know how best to deal with her to not do further harm. I don't want her to take another overdose. How am I doing?
kwyser Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 You are doing good. What she is doing isn't fair to you. Tell her that you can't keep doing this if you haven't already.
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