Beolf Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 I've been reading through a lot of threads before deciding to post my own little story. I am well aware time heals all wounds, but it's fresh and I'm still bleeding. So here goes the short version with a ton of missing details I'm sure ... 5 months ago I met this girl, the first thing that came out of my mouth when I met her was, "are you f***ing kidding?", in regards to how beautiful she was. I mean I couldn't stop looking at her, I felt like a little boy all over again. The most beautiful girl I have ever seen. Anyways, she is fresh off of a 16 year marriage from a cheating husband with a 5 year old daughter, (I mean she was still buying furniture for her new place fresh). We hit it off rather quickly and amazingly during this 5 months, we did everything together, we went to a few concerts together, shopped flea markets, went on road trips, we spent 3 or 5 nights together a week and were forever chatting throughout the day with text messages saying, "I love you, I miss you, I can't wait to see you, etc etc..". Then a few days ago I received a text from her saying, "I don't think I can see you anymore. (Ex) is threatening full custody and things are getting messy. I need to focus on (Daughter) and I and you deserve more than what I can give you. This is all happening to soon for me and I'm not ready for a relationship. You make me feel happy and beautiful but I need to learn to feel that on my own to". . . . I paused for the day! Later that night I said my heart felt goodbye to her in an email, she replied and said hers and told me this is a lot harder for her than she thinks I realize. She then apologized for hurting me because it was not her intent. She insisted she doesn't want me completely out of her life but needs time to focus on herself and is leaving it up to me to take the lead on that. Then she wished me well and hoped that someday I would find the peace that I am looking for and that I will meet somebody else and make them a happy girl. . . . . . . . THE END What hurts the most is how fast this happened, BAM it's over and out of nowhere with not a single clue leading to it. I was not expecting this at all. At first I wasn't sure what to think, a million things run through my head. Did she and her ex make up? Has she lost interest in me? Did I do something wrong? Why would she not even want to see me? How can somebody change so dam fast like that? How can you leave me like this after everything you had said to me? But somewhere inside I think I know the answers. She was being honest with me about her needs and I am not the one! Love Bites !! Thanks for letting me vent ..
The Paper Knight Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 (edited) Then a few days ago I received a text from her saying, "I don't think I can see you anymore. (Ex) is threatening full custody and things are getting messy. I need to focus on ... She broke up with you via a text message after five months! Thats alittle cowardly, wanting to avoid her own feelings aswell as yours. You deserve better treatment than that. On the flip side, by doing this she is trying not to hurt you and may really need to focus her emotional energy on the custody. She insisted she doesn't want me completely out of her life but needs time to focus on herself and is leaving it up to me to take the lead on that. What part of her life does she still want you in? This sounds very confusing and would do my head in! Then she wished me well and hoped that someday I would find the peace that I am looking for and that I will meet somebody else and make them a happy girl ouch! What hurts the most is how fast this happened, BAM it's over and out of nowhere with not a single clue leading to it. I was not expecting this at all. That sucks, usually you can see it coming, but don't want to believe it. I would not accept the text/email breakup routine. Go and see her in person and ask her what she really wants. Don't walk away with all those questions in your head. Get a straight answer from her. Good luck. Edited February 15, 2010 by The Paper Knight
Author Beolf Posted February 15, 2010 Author Posted February 15, 2010 ouch! Good luck. I did miss out on a lot of details on this. Her ex was a control freak, you know the type, she was never good enough at anything etc etc .. Shes 33, so ever since she was 17 she has been tied down to this guy and never learned to live and be happy on her own. I really can't blame her for wanting to learn how to do that, it's just hard for me to sink in because of the suddenness of it all, but I do get it. To bad for me I let it go on this long and allowed myself to fall as deep as I did so soon. As for being in her life, I don't see how either. I'm going to call a spade a spade leave it alone, if she wants any more of me in the future she can contact me. It hurts pretty bad to just give up, but it's clear it's over so why would I want to fight. I know I will get over her, just hopefully sooner rather than later.
Author Beolf Posted February 15, 2010 Author Posted February 15, 2010 So I use gmail as my email source, she uses Yahoo .. Going through some history today on my computer, I she did not clear her private data from last time she used my computer. I ended up in her email. She has been chatting to different guys from different dating sites for over a week and seems interested in them. Just a little crushed, but it helps to know it's final! peace out !!
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