Awesome Username Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Hi guys! So I have had a crush on this guy for about a month now, and I think we finally got together. :3 This news is awesome, and he's really cool. But I'm finding now that I'm suddenly kind of scared that I'll be all excited about him, and he wont be excited back. I don't think that this has anything to do with him - my last relationship ended when my boyfriend said he was moving back to Texas, and literally didn't have the heart to tell me until the fact the night before the plane left. The guy before that was in love with another women and when we broke up, I was ready but really sad about it, and he mentioned that at least he wasn't as sad as he was with his last girl (They were never even together and she was married, by the way). I'm a very old fashioned "nice" type of girl and I don't really yell or start arguments too often. Sometimes it seems as though more pushy women get men that love them, and that more passive types like me get guys who are just along for the ride. For all of the prospects that I get, sometimes when I'm in a relationship I wish I was alone. I don't think that any guy I've loved has ever truly loved me back; and if they did show it, it was because I was leaving and it was too late. I saw pictures of this new guy and his ex in his room, and it was obvious that they were really close (this was in there before I was in the picture, romantically). This is a actually good sign in a way, which means that he has long-term potential (You're never above the treatment of his ex, I say!). I just hope that it's really over between them because I've been with two different guys who have secretly loved their exes and were with me just because I'm "pretty" and "interested." I don't want to take things too fast with this new guy because I really don't want to be taken for granted. Thanks for listening loveshack, and please give me any advice you can. This guy sure doesn't deserve me being jealous of past girlfriends and hyper-sensitive because I've been burned before. Darnit, I wish I didn't have such a big, fluffy heart.
whichwayisup Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Just take it abit slow and shield your heart..Don't jump in with two feet. Fact that he has (afew?) pictures of him and his ex up is a slightly odd, but see how things go. He may put them away once you two get to know eachother more. Also, since he didn't try to explain WHY he has picture up, chances are higher that it isn't important, kind of like he's forgotten they're there.. Enjoy the crush, let things happen naturally.
bananaboat11 Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Wow... why can't I meet someone like you?
Hot Carl Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Hey. It seems like if you needed to move a cart somewhere using a horse, you'd get carried away and start moving the cart up the road yourself, and the horse would be left standing behind you wondering what the hell. Slow your mind down a little. It's like you have a bunch of eggs and you're already making deals for the chickens you think are going to pop out of them. You never know either way at this point, A. Let the horse and the chicks do their thing.
Author Awesome Username Posted February 15, 2010 Author Posted February 15, 2010 Thanks for the kind words and advice, guys! I might as well take advantage of the horse I have!
alphamale Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 what exactly is the problem summed up in a couple sentences?
Author Awesome Username Posted February 15, 2010 Author Posted February 15, 2010 what exactly is the problem summed up in a couple sentences? I'm irrationally afraid that this relationship will fail because either I like him too much, or he is still in love with his ex like many of my old flames. How do I deal with these feelings?
alphamale Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 I'm irrationally afraid that this relationship will fail because either I like him too much, or he is still in love with his ex like many of my old flames. How do I deal with these feelings? time will tell all AU, besides that there is nothing you can do so just relax
Author Awesome Username Posted February 15, 2010 Author Posted February 15, 2010 time will tell all AU, besides that there is nothing you can do so just relax Okay, you're completely right Alpha. Time to let my speedy mind chillax and do some laundry.
bluestraps Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 No one likes to be a rebound. If he does turn out to be a turkey, it would be a shame for him.
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