Thebob Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 So I met this girl last summer at the end of July, we were talking till she went back to school a month later, we were intimate and were discussing to make it exclusive. Then i was goin to fly up and see her but then it didnt work out because she couldnt wait that long and we lost contact cause she told me she wanted random hookup nights and wanted to be single. Then 1.5 months later she had a brand new boyfriend. Since then she has contacted me at least 1nce a month to see how Im doing, Guessing prolly that she wants me as a insurance card for the summer since her boyfriend is from Ohio and she is from FL. So Im thinkin she just wants to see where I am at for the summer, do I have the right assumption? Idk what to do, or if I should even talk to her when she comes back for the summer or just use her with no strings attached. Thebob
mickleb Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Thebob - Getting involved with someone who isn't very healthy tends to leave us feeling (at best) a bit wrong. So, all in all, no. Find a chirpier lady to f*ck. x
Author Thebob Posted February 15, 2010 Author Posted February 15, 2010 I don't know lol, I feel I got some unfinished business with this girl and she deserves whatever is coming her way. But your right, but I still have to think about it. Thebob
GrayClouds Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 So I met this girl last summer at the end of July, we were talking till she went back to school a month later, we were intimate and were discussing to make it exclusive. Then i was goin to fly up and see her but then it didnt work out because she couldnt wait that long and we lost contact cause she told me she wanted random hookup nights and wanted to be single. Then 1.5 months later she had a brand new boyfriend. Since then she has contacted me at least 1nce a month to see how Im doing, Guessing prolly that she wants me as a insurance card for the summer since her boyfriend is from Ohio and she is from FL. So Im thinkin she just wants to see where I am at for the summer, do I have the right assumption? Idk what to do, or if I should even talk to her when she comes back for the summer or just use her with no strings attached. Thebob I suspect you stilling feeling a bit bad about your break-up, getting involved with this girl is a method to confirm these feelings. She will be the human equivalent of going out and getting drunk; a momentary high that helps you feel better followed by a hangover that only heighten the hurt.
Odyssey Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 OP, trust your instincts here... This chick sounds like she's all over the place...doesn't know what she wants. I would be careful. I know it feels fantastic to have someone showing interest in you, but... if you're not completely over your ex, hooking up with someone can actually make you think & miss your ex even more later (that's the hangover)! Take care of your heart.
Author Thebob Posted February 15, 2010 Author Posted February 15, 2010 I mean I have done NC since October and she has initiated everytime since then. I have responded everytime but they have been short and to the point where we can't build a conversation off of because I'm followin the Caliguy guide. Maybe she is questioning her current relationship. Like she messaged me on facebook right before her trip to New York with her current boyfriend during christmas break. I really don't have any feelings for her anymore except hurt and how much of a bitch she actually is, but I'm in control now and it will stay that way even if I do get back together and meet up with her over the summer. I'm sure she's doing the same thing to him as she did to me, but this time I'm well prepared meaning she will dump him during the summer to have those random hookups and get back with me, then when summer ends she'll get back with him when school starts again but if that's the case she is in for a rude awakening. =). Thebob
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