CaliforniaSunshine Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 I went to visit my BF--we were trying to make things work. The entire time he was hiding his phone and not being his usual self. I just felt in my heart something was not right. he told me he needed about a week to see where his feelings where. Well---i found out--through some detective work. He talked to someone else the entire time I was with him. THE ENTIRE time. Like a fool I thought he was talking to his mom or brother. I saw the phone records. over 100 calls. Now he tells me--he his on a ski trip--and suddenly the other person's number isnt callign him. I know they are together. I called him over and over for an explanation--and his response was that he called the police on me. I am just so hurt about this. I just feel SO DEEPLY BETRAYED. He was the love of my life I thought. How do you move on? How do I get through this. I want to call him--yet he says it is MY fault for reading the phone records. That if I just would have left the phone records alone we would be together now. So he says I AM the crazy one. But I only followed my instincts.--and I was right. Give me advice. I never have had a break up before---at 32 that is pretty good. Who knew the pain was so hard.
skydiveaddict Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 (edited) IGive me advice. I never have had a break up before---at 32 that is pretty good. Who knew the pain was so hard. I know Sunshine. the pain can seem unbearable. But you will get through this. I'm hurting now too. Dont have anymore contact with him. I mean NONE this is a good place to start (From caliguy). Keep your friends close and start new things. The right guy will come along for you, thats for sure! Hit the gym, and keep yourself busy. BTW, skydiving is excellent therapy for a broken heart. (Lotta single guys too). Believe in yourself and know that you will be ok. 'Cause you will be Edited February 15, 2010 by skydiveaddict
Beeotch Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 I went to visit my BF--we were trying to make things work. The entire time he was hiding his phone and not being his usual self. I just felt in my heart something was not right. he told me he needed about a week to see where his feelings where. Well---i found out--through some detective work. He talked to someone else the entire time I was with him. THE ENTIRE time. Like a fool I thought he was talking to his mom or brother. I saw the phone records. over 100 calls. Now he tells me--he his on a ski trip--and suddenly the other person's number isnt callign him. I know they are together. I called him over and over for an explanation--and his response was that he called the police on me. I am just so hurt about this. I just feel SO DEEPLY BETRAYED. He was the love of my life I thought. How do you move on? How do I get through this. I want to call him--yet he says it is MY fault for reading the phone records. That if I just would have left the phone records alone we would be together now. So he says I AM the crazy one. But I only followed my instincts.--and I was right. Give me advice. I never have had a break up before---at 32 that is pretty good. Who knew the pain was so hard. I understand your hurt and betrayal....Im sorry for it. The good thing though is that he is NOT the love of your life clearly and you were living in an illusion. I know how it feels to feel stupid and silly like how could you not have known, but dont beat yourself up over his lies, deceit and disgusting behavior.There is NOTHING to salvage here and now you know the type of person you dealt with and can begin the slow and hard process of getting away from him, regaining your composure and confidence, improving yourself and moving forward in life to BETTER and GENUINE things.
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