Pfiend101 Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 I have been dating this girl for about a month and a half. We are boyfriend and girlfriend. Lately she has been acting very distant and hasnt been wanting to kiss or touch much. She came over the other day to cuddle and was very crabby. I was crabby back and we left not in a good mood. She didnt talk to me for a couple days so I told her I would call her this afternoon and we needed to talk. I asked her if we were still dating and she said something wasnt clicking. I told her I just want her to be happy and if that means having me out of her life then I have to accept that. Long story short I bought her a very nice necklace before all this happened and was going to give it to her on vday. She also told me she hates vday. I dont know why. She didnt contact me back that night and like I asked with an answer. So the next day I told her I had made reservations and needed to know if we were going out or not. I let it slip that I bought her this necklace now im kicking myself in the ass because maybe I shouldnt give it to her. She told me she wasnt leaving me and we'll talk. Do I have to give her the necklace now that I told her about it? She still contacts her ex that she broke up with not too recently so When we talk tonight I want to tell her its me or him. Opinions please.
Author Pfiend101 Posted February 14, 2010 Author Posted February 14, 2010 I really like this one and want to keep her. If I lose 300$ trying to show her I care I wont really mind. But I also dont want to try to buy her love.
alphamale Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Do I have to give her the necklace now that I told her about it? She still contacts her ex that she broke up with not too recently so When we talk tonight I want to tell her its me or him. Opinions please. i don't think shes worth your time. save the necklace and give it to your next gf. this current chick's mind is some where else.
Art_Critic Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Alpha is right... she said something wasnt clicking. I know it is hard for you to see but giving her the necklace will not bring her back into your life.. She wanted out and blew you off.. you need to accept that and go find another girl...
skydiveaddict Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Keep the neclace. also I'd blow off even talking to her. You're just going to get the "frienzone speech" anyway.
DustySaltus Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 She's still talking to her ex? Why? That's not cool at all. I would not give her anything.
bananaboat11 Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 i don't think shes worth your time. save the necklace and give it to your next gf. this current chick's mind is some where else. I agree. I think you're her rebound. sorry mate
angelaM Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 No, definitely don't give her the necklace. Sounds like she isn't over her ex. Sorry. Take it back to the store and buy something nice for yourself.
txsilkysmoothe Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Don't give her the necklace - I think it's the only reason she agreed to see you. I would dump her.
Author Pfiend101 Posted February 15, 2010 Author Posted February 15, 2010 We went out to dinner, I gave her a dozen roses and am hanging onto the necklace for now. Things went good and we are going to try and work things out. She said she is used to dating badboys. I used to be but am a changed man. She wants me but is having a hard time adjusting. We are just taking it one day at a time right now.
angelaM Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 I'm really happy you had a good evening with her, but I don't get the part about how she used to date bad boys and why that would make her distant with you. Please be careful, I think I would be a little uncomfortable knowing she's still in contact with an ex who hasn't been an ex for very long.
Author Pfiend101 Posted February 15, 2010 Author Posted February 15, 2010 she deleted him from her Facebook and says she isnt contacting him anymore. I am very guarded after my psycho ex. Thank you for all the advice.
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