j444 Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 (edited) My ex girlfriend broke up with me on Christmas Eve. We have dated for about 2 years. I think she is really confused. On Christmas Eve she bought a wonderful gift. $300.00 to be exact! She gives it to me smiling, and happy. After I open the gift she tells me that she needs time, and space, and that she is essentially dumping me. I was pretty upset. She then told me if I don’t want to give her gifts I don’t have to. I told her they were custom made just for her, and not returnable so open them. Right after this she leaves. It hit me really hard. I was not expecting her to walk back in 30 minutes later. But she did, she took all of her clothes off, and jumped on top of me, and told me she loved me, and wanted to have sex. So we did. Then she left again. Then she came over a few days later, and started to kiss me. I told her to make up her mind. And not to do this anymore. We had a few problems over the past 2 years nothing major. We did have a big argument about her not moving out of her parent’s house. She is 30 and still living at home. Her parents have a lot of control over her, she does not see this like I do. We got past this argument, and I accepted the fact that she lives at home. I also accepted even though we are the same age, we are at a different maturity level. This is something that I know will change with time, and independence I have not initiated contact with her in over a month. She has sent me text messages, called, emailed, and even dropped by to see me once. She has also sent me plenty of mixed signals. (having dreams about me, sends me love songs, and tells me she misses things) I have responded to some, and ignored most. I really do love this girl we were talking about marriage a few months ago; I just bought a 4 bedroom house that we picked out for the future. I am not in a hurry to get married, but I would like to in the next year or so. I wanted to think of a way I could show her I care about her, and do it in a special way. But I also wanted to respect her wish of time, and space, and not to be intrusive. I know how much she loves cards. So I went all out, and made her a beautiful handmade card. This card took me 2 weeks to completely finish, and cost about 20x more than a store bought card. I wrote nothing romantic in it. Just one sentence and I let her know I was thinking about her. I dropped it off at her work, and I got a phone call about an hour later. She was very surprised, and told me she was blushing red. She sent me a text today saying Happy Valentine’s Day! I was happy about that, and then shortly after she sent me another message saying she would like to call me later and talk. She is going to call me later! I am excited. Edited February 14, 2010 by j444
curiousnycgirl Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Wow good luck to you. Just remember to keep it cool - and you'll be fine.
DenverBachelor Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 She gives it to me smiling, and happy. After I open the gift she tells me that she needs time, and space, and that she is essentially dumping me. I was pretty upset. She then told me if I don’t want to give her gifts I don’t have to. I told her they were custom made just for her, and not returnable so open them. Right after this she leaves. It hit me really hard. I was not expecting her to walk back in 30 minutes later. But she did, she took all of her clothes off, and jumped on top of me, and told me she loved me, and wanted to have sex. So we did. \ I can't really tell if that's the best breakup or the worst. I've never heard a story where someone broke up with another only to have sex with them a half hour later. A lot more people might look forward to breakups if that were the case. In any event, good luck. Don't spend your day clutching the phone waiting for it to vibrate. Live your day and life as you have been and just be the great guy you are. Your breakup wasn't that long ago, I suspect she might ask you over or ask to come over tonight for sex. Think of where you will be in the morning and if she's just acting out because of sadness and not necessarily wanting to get back into a long-term relationship. I know some people get thrown back in their progress from a simple text -- to say nothing of having sex with the ex.
Author j444 Posted February 16, 2010 Author Posted February 16, 2010 We talked. I can't say things went how I wanted them to go. But in no way were things bad. This is the first time in 8 weeks she has asked to call. We talked about ourselves, and how everything has been. She also told me when she is ready she will want to sit down, and talk about the issues, and try to fix them. She also called me the next day, and we talked for about 15 minutes. She told me she got her hair cut, and even surprised me, and sent me a picture of her, and a text message saying goodnight! This is a good start, but I know it will take time, and a lot of work to rekindle this relationship. I see it as the first step in the right direction.
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