MySweetie'sGone Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 ....my ex just called to wish me a Happy Vday!!! wth?? He was clearly trying to keep the convo going too. Let me know that he was out of town with his guy friends and not with another girl. He suggested I go look at his fb page to see some new footage he has up. (I want to but don't want to bc I've ben doing so good with not looking!). Then he asked what were my plans for my bday...told me it would be around his break. Then he went on to say that I should be able to "catch"somebody if I go out of town to a party in a party city for my bday...wth? Told me to keep him informed on my life and if I decide to move out of town for school...I'm so lost. 'm glad he called...but not glad at the same time. Can anyone interpret? Help!!
alphamale Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Can anyone interpret? Help!! depends on who broke up with who
alphamale Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 He broke up with me then hes just messin' with you
USMCHokie Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 then hes just messin' with you Agreed. He sounds like a douchebag, telling you that you need to keep him up to date with your life...he seems to think that you're willing to hang around and be completely cool being just his friend... You need to NC his ass...
nobmagnet Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 OMG yes darling. NC all the way! sad lowly flipping git should be left to wallow. V. day is now your day spend the money on you!!!!!!!!! i did and it was good. Nobby xx
Author MySweetie'sGone Posted February 14, 2010 Author Posted February 14, 2010 Yea...I totally didn't intend to pick up...but I didn't recognize the number.
wwk2265 Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 its hard to say....depends on what kind of person he was......i m a guy and would never call my ex just to mess with her....but ive know people who get a hair of lonlyness ...and do....lots of people expect their ex s to call and come back immediatly wanting a relationship....most of the time this isnt the case..theres pride...ego...nerves...and plenty of hang ups to make things hard....esp if you are young.....they have been fine for a while and are ok with the way things are.....but he s at least opening a door to be back in his life...maybe testing the waters again....then who knows....just depends on if you can handle the possible fall again....things need to start out slowly after a break....love is tough and hard to get right....its always worth a shot....and you should always start back as friends...then good friends...the further....but not door mats...you are smart and should be able to tell the difference in time
Author MySweetie'sGone Posted February 14, 2010 Author Posted February 14, 2010 Yes, he's def not the type to intentionally hurt ANYONE or mess with anyone's head purposefully. He's a good guy...just has issues with depression and anxiety which led to our breakup
Author MySweetie'sGone Posted February 14, 2010 Author Posted February 14, 2010 its hard to say....depends on what kind of person he was......i m a guy and would never call my ex just to mess with her....but ive know people who get a hair of lonlyness ...and do....lots of people expect their ex s to call and come back immediatly wanting a relationship....most of the time this isnt the case..theres pride...ego...nerves...and plenty of hang ups to make things hard....esp if you are young.....they have been fine for a while and are ok with the way things are.....but he s at least opening a door to be back in his life...maybe testing the waters again....then who knows....just depends on if you can handle the possible fall again....things need to start out slowly after a break....love is tough and hard to get right....its always worth a shot....and you should always start back as friends...then good friends...the further....but not door mats...you are smart and should be able to tell the difference in time Thanks so much for your insightful answer!
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 It sounds like he is talking to you like a friend would. I wouldn't read too much into it.
Author MySweetie'sGone Posted February 15, 2010 Author Posted February 15, 2010 Let me also mention that he still has up that we're engaged on Myspace...all the pics and his description me are the same. He hasn't changed anything 3 mos on...
Author MySweetie'sGone Posted February 15, 2010 Author Posted February 15, 2010 & last year on valentine's day one of my guy friends called to say hello...not even happy valentine's and my ex (then bf) felt disrespected by the guy and asked y in the world a "friend" who supposedly "didn't even like me" would call me on VDay.
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Unless he says "I love you, I want you in my life and I want you back" I wouldn't read too much into anything else.
Author MySweetie'sGone Posted February 15, 2010 Author Posted February 15, 2010 Unless he says "I love you, I want you in my life and I want you back" I wouldn't read too much into anything else. you're so right. def not getting my hopes up. I just know that I would never do this anyone. There are guys who I know have liked my since highschool...I don't lead them on in any way and most certainly would NEVER call and wish them a Happy Vday. i'm not for messing with people's heads and go out of my way not to day anything that may vaguely resemble that...
Author MySweetie'sGone Posted February 15, 2010 Author Posted February 15, 2010 I TOTALLY lied to myself. I said I wouldn't look too much into it and here I am exactly 24 hours later analyzing everything he said yesterday. I wanted him to call...thought if he didnt it meant that I never meant anything to him...and now that he did I feel like that was a very insensitive thing for him to do. Call and when I say hello brightly chirp "Happy Valentine's Day" like everything is peachy keen. Then ask me if I'm going to school out of town and what I'm gonna do when my lease is up...like he's concerned about me leaving and going back to my home state. I can't. stop. analyzing! Everyone is so tired of me talking about this situation in general no one wants to help...they forget how much it hurts to be broken up with. Everyone is always so selfish...I always go out of my way to help and sympathize with other people...and when it's my turn, when I need help, no one wants to help/listen. I am SO TIRED of being a good/nice person and it infuriates me that I can't even be mean if I want to...believe me, I've tried...I just don't have it in me. Oh well...no one will probably answer anyway...I just needed to vent.
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