cabbs1989 Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Hello im a 20 year old boy from england who has been talking to this girl from scotland since the summer, firstly i think we both began talking on msn due to we were both lonely i think. we talk pretty much everyday on the phone & text! bout 4 months she was going to come down to where im based at uni! but couldnt due to family problems her brothers girlfriend was in hopsital so she had to look after her nieces, which was fair enough. the second time she was due to come visit she text me the night before telling me that her & her mates were going to see their friend who had contracted leukemia for the second time so again that was fine! the third time she was going to come down she ignored my tetxes the night before & on the morning said that we shoudl end it before we get hurt in the long run, an hour later she had changed her mind & told me she liked me to much! now we have got to the stage where we have told eachother we love eachother & stuff & I've always been paranoid when love comes into the equation as i was cheated on once before! so like i have become probaly a bit clingy & needed which she has told she gets annoyed bout, so i stopped i just spoke to her on msn where she said that she doesnt know what to do anymore, its got to the stage where its becomming a strain on me but like im giving her space she told me to text her later & i will but i just want it to work so much! shes so far away but i rly like her! shall i keep it up is it worth it ? I cant really imagine not hearing from her everyday & stuff! help please i do apoligise for the punchation btw
zebracolors Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Without really knowing too much about either of you, I would have to guess she is maybe unsure if she is comfortable with the distance, but otherwise wants to keep feeling that way for you. For someone going through as much in her life, as you say she is, an added weight of the stress that an LDR can give someone if they let it, might be too much for her to deal with. I would say you're right to give her space but don't appear needy. I know you say you've been hurt before, but an LDR takes trust and anyone here will tell you, myself included. Encourage her to tell you anything thats on her mind, because secrets can really harm relationships. Otherwise just hang in there, and be there for her when she contacts you. If she is feeling what you feel, she'll keep in touch. Hope this helps a little.
Author cabbs1989 Posted February 14, 2010 Author Posted February 14, 2010 thanks for your help, its such a confusing situation she told me she loved me thursday now shes gone all weird, i dont understand girls
SuburbanOblivion Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 thanks for your help, its such a confusing situation she told me she loved me thursday now shes gone all weird, i dont understand girls No man ever will. Get used to it.
Author cabbs1989 Posted February 15, 2010 Author Posted February 15, 2010 haha i spose im guna have to , she text me today just acting normally & i said hey be cool to have a chat tontie on the phone, she said thats cool then text me saying whats wrong ? do you still wana talk to me ? i replied yes ofcourse.
Author cabbs1989 Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 shes still being weird, but says she doesnt wana stop talking to me.. she also said she still really likes me, such a strange situation its really getting to me
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