ladyjane83 Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 I posted on here a couple of times about the guy I met online. I went out with him a couiple of times but then he said that he wouldnt beable to get over the amount of boyfriends I had had because that was too much for him (it was 5...im 26!!) then he decided to give it another try because he like me so we went on 2 more dates and then he broke it off again..said he cant get past his issues. I assumed it was about the number of guys again..but some people on here suggested that was an excuse and that he wasnt that into me. That was 2 weeks ago...no contcat since then, and it was fine. we had only been out 4 times so I wasnt like heartbroken. Anyway....when we were dating he thought it was really funny and strange that I had never eaten curry in my life because I was scared of it (dont ask!) but Thursday night my friend cooked me dinner and it was curry...so I was brave and ate it. The next moring I thought I would text him because he would find it funny.... What followed was the most confusing exchange of texts ever!!.... ME: Hey, hows its going? Sorry but had to text you because you will find this funny...guess what? I had my first ever curry last night and it didn't hurt and was actually quite nice!!..are you impressed?! haha x HIM: My god thats wierd...I was just thinking about you last night. I must have been holding your hand through it ha ha ha ME: Very weird. I only ate it because my friend cooked for me and so I was being polite! HIM: AWWW well we will have to go for one one day. Curry is my fave ME: I know it is. But dont know if I'd be that brave yet...this one was extra mild expecially for me! GAP OF ABOUT 6 HOURS HIM: ok,well I will text you to see if you want to meet up some time for food. you will or you wont. ME: No I will, its fine. (I was doing the aloof, we can be friends, im not bothered thing!) but not sure about a curry HIM: Yes curry! I will take you someplace where you will be able to find something you like. Hows the dating going? ME: Datings going alright thanks HIM: Great! found someone then? ME: Not sure yet.. HIM: I know you wont jump into anything, but please be careful. So far Im confused....I went on to say how Im just dating, not sure Im even interested in the guys yet. he said he is the same..not interested in dating at the moment. I said that I'm interested in dating..just not sure about the people and he said thats what he meant...that he is giving up because he isnt going to beable to find his one, partiularly not in this country (he is australian living in UK) I took this as a bit of an insult and I said the I have just realised that he went out with me and it has made him give up on woment completely! he replied with yeah..you have turned me gay haha. later on he text again just general stuff asking what I'm up to tonight etc and then... HIM: I bet your mum and dad hate me dont they? ME: no not really HIM: yeah I bet ME: No really, they dont know anything HIM: Dont they ask? ME: They asked if Im going to see you again and I said I dont think so no.they dont ask for details HIM:ok good. even my mum asked... ME: what did you tell her...or do I not want to know?! HIM: Nothing bad! there's nothing bad to say ME: hmm, I though that you thought lots of bad things No reply. Im so confused!! Im not interested in him anymore...that isnt what this is about. Ive started dating someone else. I just want to know what he is thinking!! we only went out 4 times...he doesnt owe me anything like staying friends. Other girls that he has dated but not worked out with he just cuts contact...so why talk about going out for food etc. Its like at first he was maybe having second thoughts about me...but then changed his mind so decided to ask about dating to make sure I didnt get any wrong ideas!! but then texting asking what I was up to and saying that his mum was asking about me etc (the first time he broke it off he told me his mum was asking about it, right before saying that we should give it another go) Like I said..Im not interested, I dont want to give him another chance. I just want to know what he is thinking because he was such an a*se to me that it will be satisfying to know that he is having second thoughts!
dave22 Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 I don't really see anything in there that would make me think he is having second thoughts...
whichwayisup Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Why waste time on this guy? He bugs him that you've had 5 boyfriends, and I noticed too, he took a shot at you I know you wont jump into anything, but please be careful. And also asking if you are dating..It's HIS way of letting you know he isn't interested in pursuing anything serious, but is OK with hanging out as friends. My advice? Don't bother. You said he treated you poorly and was an a-hole.. What's the point of talking to him?
Greenpeacer Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Text: wish you luck in finding someone. please date more so when you meet the right one then you'll know how to be nice to her and make both of you happy. try meditation or yoga at least meaning the more women who reject him the more he can correct his ego
Author ladyjane83 Posted February 16, 2010 Author Posted February 16, 2010 soo since I text him that day about the curry (which I was in no way intending as a try to get him back text)he has pretty much text me every day! It was as if he has been wanting to get in touch again (ie when he said he had been thinking about me) but didnt think he could because maybe thought I wouldnt want to hear from him...but know that I have been in touch he keeps texting. Anyway...he text me tonight telling me to put this tv channel on because its a programme about cooking chinese food (he knows I love chinese) texts as follows: ME: why did you have to go and tell me that...now Im going to be craving chinese food! HIM:well know you know how to make it...bring me some round when you're done ME:Hmm, I think I'll have to get a takeaway tomorrow night now. HIM: well enjoy it and be thinking of me. I have to go shopping to *local shopping centre* and I really dont want to. ME:How can you not want to go there? its like my Mecca. haha HIM: come with me if you want? Im shopping for jeans ME: Why? do you need a girls opinion? ok if you want HIM: Great! looking forward to it! I'll even treat you to a KFC hahaha ME: KFC? oh wow, I do feel special! haha Then continued to text all evening jokey banter back and forth about all sorts of things. So..looks like Im going shopping with him tomorrow. Is this a date?? This is the second time he has asked me to do something now this week, like at the start of the week he asked about going for food. I know people my say its just as friends...but I dont get it. He always said he doesnt saty friends with exes or people he has dated because he doesnt see the point. So why be friends with me? we only went out 4 times and werent friends before hand
Author ladyjane83 Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 Well I went shopping with him....and it was really good fun. We got on very well, as we have done everytime I have met up with him, and laughed all night. I was helping him pick out clothes etc and it was so comfortable and relaxed and felt like I was shoppin with my boyfriend, at one point he even like squeezed the back of my neck. near the end of the evening I mentioned that I am craving chinese food because there was a chinese cookery programme on the night before...and he said well what are you doing friday night, I said nothing and he said ok, I'll come over and we can order chinese in. He then text me later to check if I had got home ok. And today he text to ask whats happening tomorrow (friday) and if I still want to get chinese. Im soooo confuse. Yes it might just be friends but that leads me to 2 thoughts...1) he said he never stays in touch with exes or girls who havent worked because doesnt see the point and 2) WHY would he want to be my friend?...we have only been out 4 times and met online so werent friends before. My friend said that maybe I have confused him..that he thought he knew the type of girl that he wanted on paper, but then we have a good time together and its made him question what he wants. I just want to know if he is seeing me as a friend or if he is seeing me as somethink more...what do you guys think?? If its something more and he has definitly decided that this time I would be willing to try, because I do like him, but I would have to make it very clear that I am NOT going to be the girl he just "settles" for. He would have some mega explaining to do. hmmm.
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