Rulebreaker Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Met him at a party Thursday. He said all kinds of stuff indicating he was really into me, that he was going to call me, that he wanted to date me, etc. etc. He kissed me a couple of times, though nothing super make-out-y. It's Sunday, no calls yet. Am starting to think all the stuff he said were lines and doesn't intend to call (he did hint that I could come home with him if I wanted although it seemed clear that was facetious and that he did not expect me to take him up on that offer), and/or rethought his interest in me in the morning. Or maybe it's just awkward to call a new girl Valentine's Day weekend. Thoughts?
USMCHokie Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Met him at a party Thursday. He said all kinds of stuff indicating he was really into me, that he was going to call me, that he wanted to date me, etc. etc. He kissed me a couple of times, though nothing super make-out-y. It's Sunday, no calls yet. Am starting to think all the stuff he said were lines and doesn't intend to call (he did hint that I could come home with him if I wanted although it seemed clear that was facetious and that he did not expect me to take him up on that offer), and/or rethought his interest in me in the morning. Or maybe it's just awkward to call a new girl Valentine's Day weekend. Thoughts? Being the bitter and cynical ass that I am, I generally assume they don't call the moment you give them your number... But then again I'm at the phase where I don't give or ask for numbers...I am gone long before then...
counterman Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 If I were interested in a girl, I would call her a day or two after I get her number. A few days have passed already, so just continue on with your life as normal. If he calls, he calls. If he doesn't, you weren't sitting, waiting around for him anyways. Personally, I think he is playing a game.
Left in a Lurch Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 If I were interested in a girl, I would call her a day or two after I get her number. A few days have passed already, so just continue on with your life as normal. If he calls, he calls. If he doesn't, you weren't sitting, waiting around for him anyways. Personally, I think he is playing a game. Personally I would wait to call until Monday at the latest. Normally I would call on Sunday, but if it was me and it being V Day it's a little awkward and I would call Monday evening. After that I would feel it was way too late.
counterman Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Yep, Valentine's day was probably taken into consideration. However, I meant not to get your hopes up too high for him to call!
BobSacamento Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 I would take it as a good sign, depending how you want to look at it, that he didn't call you on V Day. If I was calling a woman on V Day that I just met it would strictly be for a hook up.
tkgirl Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Met him at a party Thursday. He said all kinds of stuff indicating he was really into me, that he was going to call me, that he wanted to date me, etc. etc. He kissed me a couple of times, though nothing super make-out-y. It's Sunday, no calls yet. Am starting to think all the stuff he said were lines and doesn't intend to call (he did hint that I could come home with him if I wanted although it seemed clear that was facetious and that he did not expect me to take him up on that offer), and/or rethought his interest in me in the morning. Or maybe it's just awkward to call a new girl Valentine's Day weekend. Thoughts? you met at a party... probably was some drinking going on there right? Then he "jokes" about going home with him that night... I'm betting he "lost" your number the minute he got home. Sorry.. I wouldn't expect him to call if I were you.
alphamale Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Met him at a party Thursday. if there was drinking involved he may just have been drunk and had no intention of calling you. some guys just like the challenge of getting teh digits
sid3 Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 What do the rules say about this? I'm sure there's a rule that more than likely says not to pick up the call for a certain amount of time. So if or when he does call he's likely to get the VM anyhow:laugh:
Curious-One Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 I am like that ... i get numbers easily but when it comes time to call the girl i am the biggest wussy ever. I have gotten so many numbers that i didnt call its ridiculous... i have the balls to chat up the girl and get her number but when it comes to calling i keep pushing it up until i realize that by now she prolly doesnt even remember me now. I have started texting girls now and that seems to work to some extent.
alphamale Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 I am like that ... i get numbers easily but when it comes time to call the girl i am the biggest wussy ever. I have gotten so many numbers that i didnt call its ridiculous... i have the balls to chat up the girl and get her number but when it comes to calling i keep pushing it up until i realize that by now she prolly doesnt even remember me now. I have started texting girls now and that seems to work to some extent. thats a bit strange
dave22 Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 A good friend of mine met a girl in one of his classes and they hit it off pretty well. On the last day of class she gave him her number. Two weeks later he finally decided to call her. They ended up getting married. I'm not saying this happens often, I'm just saying that you never know for sure what a guy is thinking and when he will decide to call. It's best to just try and not think about it too much.
Chicago_Guy Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Met him at a party Thursday. He said all kinds of stuff indicating he was really into me, that he was going to call me, that he wanted to date me, etc. etc. He kissed me a couple of times, though nothing super make-out-y. It's Sunday, no calls yet. Am starting to think all the stuff he said were lines and doesn't intend to call (he did hint that I could come home with him if I wanted although it seemed clear that was facetious and that he did not expect me to take him up on that offer), and/or rethought his interest in me in the morning. Or maybe it's just awkward to call a new girl Valentine's Day weekend. Thoughts? He may have just taken your number to convince you to come home with him that night. I bet he did want you to come home with him - what makes you so sure that he was clearly being facetious?
D-Lish Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 If I were interested in a girl, I would call her a day or two after I get her number. A few days have passed already, so just continue on with your life as normal. If he calls, he calls. If he doesn't, you weren't sitting, waiting around for him anyways. Personally, I think he is playing a game. That's been my personal experience when meeting someone. Valentine's day does throw a wrench into the mix though. If you don't hear from him by tomorrow, he's most assuredly not worth your time.
Author Rulebreaker Posted February 15, 2010 Author Posted February 15, 2010 (edited) In retrospect a lot of the things he said to me were kind of superlative and extreme, too good to be true. He may have just wanted some booty. Does this change the analysis at all? Within 15 minutes of leaving he texted that he had fun, nice meeting me, talk to me soon. I didn't write back, because I'm following the Rules which say no texting. Also there was no direct question to respond to so all I could have done was written back "me too" or something. I probably would have done that if I weren't following the Rules. I have had a guy call me 2 weeks after meeting me and then we started dating, so I know it's not completely out of the question, but I'm not terribly optimistic at this point. Edited February 15, 2010 by Rulebreaker
carhill Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Also, with today being a holiday for many people, it often finds them traveling or otherwise gathering with family or friends for the long weekend. I would agree with anything after tomorrow being disinterested.
Johnny M Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 The moment he realizes that you follow "The Rules"
Leia Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 In retrospect a lot of the things he said to me were kind of superlative and extreme, too good to be true. He may have just wanted some booty. Does this change the analysis at all? Within 15 minutes of leaving he texted that he had fun, nice meeting me, talk to me soon. I didn't write back, because I'm following the Rules which say no texting. Also there was no direct question to respond to so all I could have done was written back "me too" or something. I probably would have done that if I weren't following the Rules. I have had a guy call me 2 weeks after meeting me and then we started dating, so I know it's not completely out of the question, but I'm not terribly optimistic at this point. Errmmm you could have sent him a reply "same here" or something. Why are you even following the "Rules"?? He probably thinks it was just a one moment off thing since you didn't reply, so why bother calling you.
carhill Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 TBH, I think it was alcohol-induced flirting. Also, an interested and confident man isn't the least bit perturbed by a non-response to a text. He'll just text someone else whom he also might be interested in.
sid3 Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 I'd guess your not replying led him to assume your not interested. I would think most people would come to that conclusion. Although it wasn't your intention, it's likely to have appeared rude. He may still call, it depends on whether or not he took your not replying as a rejection.
Leia Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 TBH, I think it was alcohol-induced flirting. Also, an interested and confident man isn't the least bit perturbed by a non-response to a text. He'll just text someone else whom he also might be interested in. Some men, though. Some would take it as the woman isn't interested. Who knows. A lot of possibilities.
Author Rulebreaker Posted February 15, 2010 Author Posted February 15, 2010 The moment he realizes that you follow "The Rules" I didn't behave like a Rules Girl during our actual interaction at the party, for better or worse. and I'm not sure why it was so imperative that I respond to the text; all it said was "talk to you soon, had a good time." We left on what I perceived to be extremely into each other terms, which is why I'm sort of perplexed by the lack of a phone call. But I haven't dated in a long time so I don't really know how it works. I'm not going to overtly play games, but I don't want to pursue him either. If he had asked me a direct question in the text I probably would have responded. PS, The Rules is an experiment for me, see my blog It's only going on for 6 months and if it results in me not dating, so be it, I could probably use that.
Author Rulebreaker Posted February 15, 2010 Author Posted February 15, 2010 TBH, I think it was alcohol-induced flirting. Also, an interested and confident man isn't the least bit perturbed by a non-response to a text. He'll just text someone else whom he also might be interested in. This is what The Rules think, anyhow.
txsilkysmoothe Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 In retrospect a lot of the things he said to me were kind of superlative and extreme, too good to be true. He may have just wanted some booty. Does this change the analysis at all? Within 15 minutes of leaving he texted that he had fun, nice meeting me, talk to me soon. I didn't write back, because I'm following the Rules which say no texting. Also there was no direct question to respond to so all I could have done was written back "me too" or something. I probably would have done that if I weren't following the Rules. I have had a guy call me 2 weeks after meeting me and then we started dating, so I know it's not completely out of the question, but I'm not terribly optimistic at this point. So in reality he did contact you and you didn't respond. Given that, what do you think he is thinking?????? Good luck with those rules.
carhill Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 TBH, if I was affected by all the non-responsive women I've encountered in my life, I'd had committed suicide by now. On its face, the OP (the post, not the person) was just a random encounter with a bunch of fluff words said by people who didn't know each other. The text was more of the same. Go out on a few dates first before assigning any meaning to anything...
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