vram1223 Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 hi, basically its like this, my boyfriend and i have been together for 7 years total now, however a few months back we separated for a short while. While separated my then ex had began dating his bestfriend's sister who is much older than us both. After the excitement of the new thrill faded my bf(Lets call him Ed) realized he was still in love with me and decided he'd rather mend our relationship then continue in the one he was in with ( lets call her Jill). A month after they'd broken up and we'd gotten back together I learned that I was pregnant with my first child and I was very happy. My happiness was short lived when a week later I received news that Jill was in fact pregnant as well and worse, that she was claiming Ed as her child's father. I asked Ed if he thought the baby was his (Ed already has two kids by another woman) and he told me that he would never deny a child that was his but that there was something in his gut telling him that her child wasnt biologically his. He'd said that he knew she was the kind of girl to have unprotected sex with men her first time sleeping with them. With this information aside, I myself feel that the baby is indeed Ed's. However, we'll have to wait and see. So I was two months pregnant and she was three. Besides the thought of her I was actually happy and excited about my pregnancy. Again my happiness was short lived when the day of my first ultrasound i learned that i had lost the baby. This killed me emotionally but Ed continued to stay by my side supporting me. Now some time has past and I'm dealing with issues i shouldnt be dealing with. Jill is becoming a real pain in my ass. I tried being nice and supportive towards her pregnancy only to have her call me pathetic and desperate for mourning my baby's passing. She constantly rides by our house, waiting for me to leave so that she can stop by to relay another "baby" message (yeah rite). she has posted personal information about me on the internet, and has done things to try and get me to think that Ed is having an affair with her, yet i know he isn't. I've tried being understanding, patient, mature and classy, but its becoming increasingly difficult. She continuously rubs her pregnancy in my face, and in a way i feel that she got pregnant on purpose as an attempt to keep Ed when she had him. Ed is becoming irritated with our "feud" and i dont blame him. THis is driving me crazy... a part of me wants to get revenge on her while the other part of me just wants to ignore it (which is really Hard). Ed loves me and we are planning on getting married next year but now I'm second guessing that because this is too much drama and its a drama that i'll have to deal with for 18 years if i marry Ed. Although i love Ed with all of my heart Im not sure if I'm strong enough to handle the huge load that comes with being in a relationship with him.. i just wish Jill would dissapper... then i could have my life and love back. what do u think?
jennie-jennie Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 What kind of signals is your boyfriend sending to Jill? I know when my SO and I got back together after a few months apart while he had had a relationship with another woman, she kept popping up for years. She was using his feelings of guilt towards her to manipulate him into seeing her. She was like a leech you can't get rid off - always having some excuse why she had to see him. Not until he firmly put his foot down and wrote her a letter telling her to leave him alone, did she give up. Of course it is more complicated when there is a baby involved, but what I am saying is that your boyfriend needs to make the boundaries clear between him and Jill. He needs to make her respect that all they share is the baby, nothing else. Perhaps you could have a talk with him about this, to help him figure out if there is something he can do about the situation.
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 i just wish Jill would dissapper... then i could have my life and love back. To be honest, I'm thinking that your best shot at life and love would be for ED to disappear, or at the very least you pick up stakes and you disappear. There is no way I'd share any man with that much drama filled ex's and ex's multiple children. You will never be free of it as long as you are with him.
norajane Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 To be honest, I'm thinking that your best shot at life and love would be for ED to disappear, or at the very least you pick up stakes and you disappear. There is no way I'd share any man with that much drama filled ex's and ex's multiple children. You will never be free of it as long as you are with him. I completely agree. There are better men out there, with a lot less drama and fewer or no baby-mamas. This man isn't good for you.
Jeff1962 Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Vram. I am sorry that you lost your child. Do yourself a favor though. RUN as fast as you can away from this guy. Sounds like a total LOSER. Your choice.
bittersweet memories Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 hi, basically its like this, my boyfriend and i have been together for 7 years total now, however a few months back we separated for a short while. While separated my then ex had began dating his bestfriend's sister who is much older than us both. After the excitement of the new thrill faded my bf(Lets call him Ed) realized he was still in love with me and decided he'd rather mend our relationship then continue in the one he was in with ( lets call her Jill). A month after they'd broken up and we'd gotten back together I learned that I was pregnant with my first child and I was very happy. My happiness was short lived when a week later I received news that Jill was in fact pregnant as well and worse, that she was claiming Ed as her child's father. I asked Ed if he thought the baby was his (Ed already has two kids by another woman) and he told me that he would never deny a child that was his but that there was something in his gut telling him that her child wasnt biologically his. He'd said that he knew she was the kind of girl to have unprotected sex with men her first time sleeping with them. With this information aside, I myself feel that the baby is indeed Ed's. However, we'll have to wait and see. So I was two months pregnant and she was three. Besides the thought of her I was actually happy and excited about my pregnancy. Again my happiness was short lived when the day of my first ultrasound i learned that i had lost the baby. This killed me emotionally but Ed continued to stay by my side supporting me. Now some time has past and I'm dealing with issues i shouldnt be dealing with. Jill is becoming a real pain in my ass. I tried being nice and supportive towards her pregnancy only to have her call me pathetic and desperate for mourning my baby's passing. She constantly rides by our house, waiting for me to leave so that she can stop by to relay another "baby" message (yeah rite). she has posted personal information about me on the internet, and has done things to try and get me to think that Ed is having an affair with her, yet i know he isn't. I've tried being understanding, patient, mature and classy, but its becoming increasingly difficult. She continuously rubs her pregnancy in my face, and in a way i feel that she got pregnant on purpose as an attempt to keep Ed when she had him. Ed is becoming irritated with our "feud" and i dont blame him. THis is driving me crazy... a part of me wants to get revenge on her while the other part of me just wants to ignore it (which is really Hard). Ed loves me and we are planning on getting married next year but now I'm second guessing that because this is too much drama and its a drama that i'll have to deal with for 18 years if i marry Ed. Although i love Ed with all of my heart Im not sure if I'm strong enough to handle the huge load that comes with being in a relationship with him.. i just wish Jill would dissapper... then i could have my life and love back. what do u think? This guy has babies everywhere...run while you can..
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