Joe Normal Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 What kind of age limits do you have when dating or looking for a serious relationship? Also, how flexible would you be in bending your normal limits depending on other qualities the person might have? For example, let's say you are 30 and you'd go for 25-35 year olds. If you met an attractive 21 year old who was mature for his/her age, and seemed a good match in other areas, would you bend your age limit? Or if it was a 40 year old who looked 35, in good physical condition, and was more worldy wise but still with a youthful outlook, would you be flexible?
jqb05443 Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 I am 30 and I have always said at this age I wouldn't date older than 35. That is my cutoff. However I find myself head over heals for a coworker who is 46. Never in my life did I think I would but this guy has done a number on me. I don't think he knows how I feel but I think about him constantly and find him soooo handsome. So in my case, I do have an age limit but this man has broken my age boundary with other qualities.
carhill Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Historically, dating, mostly in my 30's, partners have ranged from 10 years younger to nine years older. The lady I married was three months older. I'm seeing someone now who's three years younger. At 50, I can't envision dating someone substantially younger simply because I don't think it would be a good match for a LTR as I age, and that's all I'm interested in. Luckily, there are and I've met a number of non-fling-minded ladies near my age, since I've read it's common for such ladies to become involved with much younger men. Something for everyone I guess. That doesn't negate the reality that I can and do find younger (and older) women attractive. I'm just looking at it realistically, coming out of a marriage and looking for a similar type relationship in the future.
jennifer4 Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 I've been divorced twice and there wasn't much age difference in those(a year or less). Now I am in a relationship with a man 9 yrs younger.. I'm 37 and he's 28. I was skeptical at first but he's shown me no signs of immaturity. He's actually more mature than the exes who've been close to my age. We may come across problems in the future but so far it hasn't even been an issue.
Cinderella7 Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 For example, let's say you are 30 and you'd go for 25-35 year olds. If you met an attractive 21 year old who was mature for his/her age, and seemed a good match in other areas, would you bend your age limit? ? This is my current situation exactly. I'm about to turn 22 and the guy I'm dating at the moment is 30. He admitted recently that he would normally never date anyone who wasn't at least 25, but after meeting me, he let his age limit lapse for awhile.
greatgirlfriend Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 It depends. In my 20's I dated men at least 10 years old. In several cases the guys were considerably older (when I was 21 I dated a 38 year old). Now I want someone within a few years. My current guy is 42 and I am 39. I don't want to date someone with a considerable age difference anymore. Too much age difference means different goals, interests, values, etc more often than not.
You'reasian Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 What kind of age limits do you have when dating or looking for a serious relationship? Also, how flexible would you be in bending your normal limits depending on other qualities the person might have? For example, let's say you are 30 and you'd go for 25-35 year olds. If you met an attractive 21 year old who was mature for his/her age, and seemed a good match in other areas, would you bend your age limit? Or if it was a 40 year old who looked 35, in good physical condition, and was more worldy wise but still with a youthful outlook, would you be flexible? To calculate for a male: Take your age, divide by 2, add 7 - that's your lower bound limit lol (props to math geeks!) Note: Rule only applies to men 22 and up in the US. But if her age were slightly less then that limit and if I would want to take her derivative (...to lay tangent to those curves!) and her emotional maturity/mental maturity was at a maximum point... I would consider it.
USMCHokie Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 It depends. In my 20's I dated men at least 10 years old. I would certainly hope so...
greatgirlfriend Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 I would certainly hope so... 10 years older. 10 years old is way too young.
USMCHokie Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 10 years older. 10 years old is way too young. Heheh, I just had to point out the typo... I like to stay right around my age...give or take a couple years...I mean, anyone outside of that range seems so hard to talk to...
dave22 Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 For me, being a 32 year old man, I would not date anyone more than 2 or 3 years older, unless they look much younger than their age. I know it sounds shallow, but I have tried dating older and I am just not physically attracted to anyone that looks older than I do. As for younger, it depends more on maturity level than anything. I have known women as young as 22 or 23 that I could see myself dating. Generally, though 25 or 26 would be close to the lower limit.
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