Kamille Posted February 23, 2010 Posted February 23, 2010 It looks like playing silly childish games is the way to get attention. Let me put the scenario another way. Say you are out at a bar with your buddies, and a guy who is new in town chats you guys up. This guy, being new in town, laid-back and we'll assume generally nice and well-balanced, is looking to make new friends. What is his best strategy for befriending you guys? Is it to sit down at your table and try to entertain and impress you and your buddies the whole night? Or would he be better off making a few jokes, respond to your comments with a laid-back attitude, introduce himself as new in town and ask where the cool hang outs are - then leave you guys and get back to his drink and watching the game? See, some guys, in trying to approach women in bars, fall into the first category of monopolizing the conversation and feeling like they have to impress- which, of course, generally backfires. Every time a guy approaches me in a bar, I actually worry that he'll spend the whole night trying to impress me and my friends and am relieved if a guy just makes a few comments and gets back to his table; and then comes back later. It's more lighthearted is all. If that's playing games, then yes, in this instance, I advocate playing games.
Yamaha Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 The only women harder to get than a high end club girl is a stripper. I would suggest you watch what kind of guys they talk to and dress/behave accordingly. Also hit the gym and you might consider steroids if you want a quick muscle pump.
Green Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 First off lift weights and do arobic excorcise. You don't have to be in great shape, but if you are atleast trying to take care of your body through excercise and healthy eating it shows. Second, make sure you are still trying to make your dreams happen. Don't settle for some dead end job you hate, stop procrastinating and be that artist or scientist ect. that you always wanted to be. Obviously if your dream was to play pro basket ball and you just don't see that happening maybe move on to a more realistic dream like coaching, or sports agent. Just has to be something you love. Finaly, even if you are some out of shape bum who has no job you can still get women in a club or bar. The thing is if you have the confidence to aproach women in line at the bank, in the supermarket, at the park ect. you will have much better luck then if you approached that same woman in a bar. Not to mention you will get alot more selection of women then just the women at that one club. You already know what to do, but you are just to afraid of rejection. Every time you go up to a woman in a club or in line at the bank ect. and you make a romantic attempt even if it fails you get better at it. Seriously if you just had the confidence to joke around and flirt with every pretty woman you saw in your day to day life from the check out girl at the car rental place to the girls on the dance floor you would have tons of dates. Once you start getting a regular flow of dates its not long until you find a girl you really like and she becomes your gf. You have to make bold moves that put you in a position to get rejected. You have to learn not to care if you get rejected. It means when you flirt, you also make the move of suggesting coffee, dinner, or inviting her to a party. It also means once you have that girl on a date type situation you are confident enough to face rejection again and kiss her on the lips. Seriously, don't let rejection paralyze you with fear. Learn from rejection. When I was single, I learned not to even let rejection hurt me. I just did it by facing rejection even though I was scared. PUA books can help to motivate you, but never forget that some one is just trying to make money and needs to make up a certain ammount of material. The truth is find the confidence to have fun in your interaction with women and you've already won.
Alexz Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Seriously? No really, are you joking right now? Are you really suggesting that the way I meet a girl is to start buying random girls drinks and using the old "So, you come here often?" line? ROFL. I liked the "treat her to water" parts more. I've only seen water in the shape of ice cubes at a bar or dance joint.
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