Zeta4PhiSius Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Apparently I've started attracting some pretty good looking women. Which is odd for me because the opposite always happens. It's a great ego boost after the crap I've been through lately. :cool: One had asked a few weeks ago if I was available that weekend and was asking me if we could get together on the weekend. I said sure. But then there was no follow up almost like they're flaking out on me or something. Am I supposed to be doing something beyond answering in the affirmative when this happens? We'd already knew eachother both in person and online and it's not like they don't know how to contact me either way if they wanted to follow through with it. So what's up?
dave22 Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 What are you doing waiting for her to contact you, man? Take the initiative and call her yourself!
Sith Apprentice Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 You gotta close dude. When she wants to do something with you then get the phone number first. Call her and make plans.
soulm8 Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Dude!! What makes you think these women are going to chase you down to confirm plans? They're not flaking out - you're wussing out! You contact them to follow through with it.
Author Zeta4PhiSius Posted February 14, 2010 Author Posted February 14, 2010 dave22: What are you doing waiting for her to contact you, man? Take the initiative and call her yourself! Because if they're going to approach you they're going to follow through on that aren't they? I have no idea what I'm doing and I can't do instant initiative type things unless I'm already good at what I do. I need to rehearse and learn and need to know exactly what I'm going to do when it happens. Otherwise I become a nervous wreck, stutter, and become a blithering idiot and make a fool of myself. I'm the literal opposite definition of smooth. Basically, I suck. No one ever taught me this stuff. Sith Apprentice: You gotta close dude. When she wants to do something with you then get the phone number first. Call her and make plans. FINALLY I now know what to do if the situation comes up again. I thought by logic if someone's really interested they're going to follow up anyway. That's what friends do. soulm8: Dude!! What makes you think these women are going to chase you down to confirm plans? They're not flaking out - you're wussing out! You contact them to follow through with it. Because we already knew each other. I don't want to play games - I want to keep it real and I expect the woman to do just that. If they're playing games then they're going to flake- that's what I expect.
Author Zeta4PhiSius Posted February 14, 2010 Author Posted February 14, 2010 Also anytime that I've ever taken the initiative on some fool thing like this I always end up being the one that gets hurt and humiliated and nothing ever becomes of it. I went through 250+ women with not a single yes based on what I read in this forum about the average man having an average of 1 in 10 saying yes. It's better that I not go through that again.
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