Author JessaL Posted February 17, 2010 Author Posted February 17, 2010 Hand in hand! I love it! That's exactly what I'm learning to do: not to raise issues 'against' my SO but to raise them and work on them with him. This is DEFINITELY something I need to work on in my communication about issues with b/f. Hey, just to put the thought out there... Have you always been like this? Or only after starting on the pill? Those hormones can affect us more than we realize - sometimes if you fix that, you may not even need to fix anything else. Na, I've always been this way I almost always can control my behavior in these situations, but I want to control my thoughts also, because I'm so tired of my internal drama. There's lots of good stuff here, thanks everyone
meerkat stew Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 Just admitting you have a problem with conflict and drama seeking is winning most of the battle. Now it's just a simple matter of willpower and -choosing- a different reaction. Was ready for another eye-roller of a thread "why can't I act differently? why do these things happen to me? why am I this way?" Those threads sound like "why do I keep putting my hand on the hot stove? why do I keep sticking my tongue in the electrical outlet? why do I keep shooting the neighbors pets with my bb gun?" You seem past that. OP, the next time your anxiety/drama meter goes into the red, try visualizing an electrical outlet and deciding whether to stick your tongue in it or not. Then decide from there. Rinse repeat. Woman: "Doc it hurts when I do this! whenever I do it I feel horrible pain!" Doc: "It hurts when you do 'that'?" Woman: "Yes it hurts terribly! What should I do?" Doc: "Stop doing that."
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