cassy_1987 Posted January 5, 2004 Posted January 5, 2004 O.k. I am 16 and I am in a long-term relationship with a 15yr old. he lives three days away from me and I see him like one week outta every year. I feel its worth it and anyways thats not why im posting. I am posting because I met him christmas night and all and this is the only guy that i have acctually gotten butterflies in my stomach with when i talk to/about him. We have already said we love eachother and all, I really feel I mean it and I really feel that he means it, I just want to know if "love at first sight" can really happen? and if so...... hes my dads gfs son so i dont know how to deal with that. our parents just say its up to us what we want to do.I just want to know if you can really fall in love at first sight. please, Im so confused right now!
dyermaker Posted January 5, 2004 Posted January 5, 2004 Love is an emotion that is based on trust, compassion, empathy, concern, patience, attention, interest, and attraction--in that order. (There are probably more adjectives, I'm not feeling too literary today) Lust is an emotion that is based on butterflies. Lust can happen at first sight, but no matter what anyone says, it is my firm belief that love cannot. Love is something that is developed. What is often confused for love at first sight is lust that later develops into love. That's not a bad thing, I'm not minimizing it, I'm just saying that love is not something you feel just by looking at someone. Simple sight cannot provide the emotional connections neccessary for love, it just can't. I just want to know if you can really fall in love at first sight. Something tells me that that's not what you "just want to know". Because all "love at first sight" is, is semantics, it's about the words you choose to describe a phenomena. What good is it to you if the people on this forum deem your attraction to this guy love at first sight? Anyway as for this guy being your dad's girlfriend's son, that's just weird. But I'm prejudicial, follow your heart. Edited to add the question: You met him eleven days ago, and that's a long-term relationship?
Emily55555 Posted January 5, 2004 Posted January 5, 2004 Well I think to aqquire love, you really have to spend alot of time with that person.. in person. Since you say you have only see eachother once a year, Its hard to believe that you really love him. There is a large difference between thinking you love someone, and actually loving them, and you really need to spend alot of time with that person to figure out which one it is. Oh yea, hopefully ur parents dont get married, you dont wanna end up being step brother and sister.
mintjulep Posted January 20, 2004 Posted January 20, 2004 Lust is an emotion that is based on butterflies. True. I get butterflies in my stomach when I see Orlando Bloom on the big screen. This does not mean he's the love of my life.
reasontosigh Posted January 20, 2004 Posted January 20, 2004 Edited to add the question: You met him eleven days ago, and that's a long-term relationship? Since she says he lives three days away, I think she means LDR. I've got to give her some credit for at least trying to learn the lingo around here.
dyermaker Posted January 20, 2004 Posted January 20, 2004 She said she met him Christmas night, and it was posted 11 days after.
reasontosigh Posted January 20, 2004 Posted January 20, 2004 hmmm...yeah, I think when I was 16 that was considered long term in my social circle!
Arabess Posted January 20, 2004 Posted January 20, 2004 I think it's possible to meet someone and know if they are the "TYPE" of person you may be able to fall in love with......but I'm not sure if you actually fall in love with them at that time. Someone meeting your emotional needs and truly loving you as an individual....is not one and the same. True love takes time.
sweetbilly Posted January 22, 2004 Posted January 22, 2004 Heck yes!, 19 years ago i fell in love with someone at first site, and the feelings were mutual, years later i found out that she had told someone else that i was the love of her life, and she would never love anyone else again. we were only able to be together--physically-- for about two-years; but even today i still get those butterflies when i think about her, "like now". i never got the chance to marry her, and because we were too young and 1000 miles apart (this didn't help) we couldn't nourish our relationship, but we managed 19 years of commitment to each other, and i knew i would love her for the rest of my life. Last year, Around Christmas, i found out she had gotten married to someone else, the feelings were so strong that i actually vomited! how's that for love at first site?
dyermaker Posted January 22, 2004 Posted January 22, 2004 Originally posted by sweetbilly the feelings were so strong that i actually vomited! how's that for love at first site? That doesn't sound like love. It's possible to have feelings for someone the moment you see them, but as you can see, if you don't develop those feelings, you end up with vomit.
doniker Posted January 22, 2004 Posted January 22, 2004 I suffer from lust at first sight whenever I leave the house.
metal_chik Posted January 23, 2004 Posted January 23, 2004 Love at first sight? The names Brad Pitt and Eliza Dushku come to mind
blackwidowspider Posted January 23, 2004 Posted January 23, 2004 Ummm....that is an interesting question no i dont believe it becuase "sight" is seeing and not feeling..the emotions are probably more lustful than love....but "love are second sight....." thats another story...hahahha either way you sholud get to know the person more before you think ur in love with them....its not easy to fall in love acutally in my opnion ...until you find the right person..but even if you do, its not like you can love htem the first day you meet o_O
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