Author Brady_to_Moss Posted February 18, 2010 Author Posted February 18, 2010 Don't even get me started on Match. Why is that? lol I sent about 20 emails and got 2 responses...so 10% response rate....I was chatting with one girl on and off through email for a while and i mentioned if she would be up for a meet up for cofffee or something...never heard from her again...lol
Rulebreaker Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I don't agree with most of what people are saying. The fact that eharmony doesn't have a catalog full of people for you to meat-market-style browse can be a good thing. I feel a little bit uncomfortable putting myself up for everyone - it's a little better for me to limit it just to people that some algorithm/employee matched me with. That said, the pool of people is better on Match, at least for now. Eharmony is starting to get a contingent of jaded former Match (and Jdate) users and I think it's particularly well suited for that purpose. If you're trying for the first time, Match is probably the best. I also disagree re: online dating is for older people. I went on Jdate at 27 and there were a ton of guys younger than me on there. I did not want a younger guy so I was somewhat annoyed by this Generally eharmony trends older, but match runs the entire spectrum. The younger people on match might just be looking for hookups though. I know 2 married match couples that are probably the best couples I know.
homersheineken Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Why is that? lol I sent about 20 emails and got 2 responses...so 10% response rate....I was chatting with one girl on and off through email for a while and i mentioned if she would be up for a meet up for cofffee or something...never heard from her again...lol My advice would be to pick a day when asking for coffee, not just "sometime" or "something"
Crazy Magnet Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I know two couples who have gotten married from eHarmony. I met my current BF on eHarmony, and he's probably more compatible with me than any other man I've ever dated. That said, I went into online dating with an open mind and didn't expect some type of cookie cutter hot man to land in my lap. Although I signed up for two free sites as well, I got all these messages from guys who were completely NOT compatible with me in any way. They just wanted to get with the hottest girl and weren't concerned with the fact that we had ZERO in common. It was frustrating for me.
stevejohnson1976 Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Match worked for me when i put the time in. and when i say worked...i mean i got plenty of dates. didnt/havent found 'that' person yet.
sunrae Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I've done both Match and E-Harmony... E-Harmony people freaked me out, becaus eon the second date they wanted to run off and get married. We were "matched" so you must be the one for me... AAAHHHH!!!! Match- A few people I went out with, they just wanted to hook up, really didnt want anything serious... My friends father met his current wife on E-Harmony and they on one of their commercials and print adds. You get the good and the bad on both sites.
greatgirlfriend Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Although I signed up for two free sites as well, I got all these messages from guys who were completely NOT compatible with me in any way. They just wanted to get with the hottest girl and weren't concerned with the fact that we had ZERO in common. It was frustrating for me. I signed up with two free dating sites and most of the guys are obviously not compatible with me. Many have different views and hobbies and they don't even live near me. Many even said they were contacting me because I was hot.
txsilkysmoothe Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I tried Match and had good success. I've probably been on 15 first dates in the last year and two men became boyfriends. Obviously things didn't work out. Two of the men work in buildings adjacent to the building I work in and our paths had never crossed and probably never would have - something to think about. I want to be able to look at profiles. I like that I was able to sign up and pay for just one month, I don't think you can do that with eharmony. Isn't eharmony a lot more expensive? Good luck
Wallace1 Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I've got a current subscription on Match, and I've been on a few 'first dates' with less than stellar results. I don't have any problem meeting women offline, but I've struggled to find ones I actually wanted a relationship with. My attitude going in is "If I meet someone cool, great! If not, whatever" I took time to build a profile that I feel accurately reflects my personality. I get winks and emails from women all the time, and about 75% of the emails I send out get a positive response of some sort. The problem has been, each woman I've gone out with (22-26) has expressed some serious past relationship trauma on our first date, and said things like "have I scared you off yet?" after telling me some horror story about their ex. I'm not sure if those are the types that are drawn to Match at that age, or if I need to give it more time, but I'm beginning to lose patience.
Crazy Magnet Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I found a coupon for EH, it was around $30 or $40 for three months. Very cheap. And currently worth every penny as I really like my BF. I have determined that if dating in real life is easy for you, then dating online will also be easy for you. That's how it was for me anyway. Getting a date or a BF has never been something hard for me to obtain.
polksaladannie Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Friend Finder is garbage. 75% of the women on there are straight up prostitutes. Eharmony is a Christian site which parades itself as a mainstream site. They'll match you with women that don't live anywhere near you. I personally could care less who my match is since I'm just gonna troll the photos first anyway. Yeah, that's right I'm shallow. NO FATTIES!!!!!!!!! Don't even get me started on Match. OT but Sith Apprentice, is that you in your avatar?
flc Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 I tried a few and found Match worked best for me. 10% for men is probably a reasonable expectatation unless your Brad Pitt or Caliguy You will get a few wackos but I like to see the person I am dating and I found that the ones I did meet did look like their profile pictures or better in person. I was involved with Match for about 8 months and I got a few dates, went out with someone for 3mos and now I am with someone else I met there for the last year and a half.
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