Kristine Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Do I break it off? One minute he's telling me he's buying a ring for me the next he's saying he's not ready to get married, or doesn't think he wants to marry, etc. I'm not pressuring him to IMO. It's all on his end. I was just feeling him out still trying to figure out if this is a guy for me, deciding if he's quirks weren't too quirky, etc. Yes eventually I'd like to marry someone and settle down but what is his deal? And should I just say see ya' because that's how I'm feeling right now even though I like him and don't really want to. HELP! I'm confused and this is confusing.
You'reasian Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Do I break it off? One minute he's telling me he's buying a ring for me the next he's saying he's not ready to get married, or doesn't think he wants to marry, etc. I'm not pressuring him to IMO. It's all on his end. I was just feeling him out still trying to figure out if this is a guy for me, deciding if he's quirks weren't too quirky, etc. Yes eventually I'd like to marry someone and settle down but what is his deal? And should I just say see ya' because that's how I'm feeling right now even though I like him and don't really want to. HELP! I'm confused and this is confusing. I would not take marriage seriously at this point. Be together, sure. Marriage, definitely not. What happened that causes him to be unsure?
mammax3 Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 If this is the guy you posted that you've known since the beginning of january, maybe it's a good thing to just keep it casual. Given all the tumultuous life events you've experienced lately, it'd be nice to just have some light fun with someone. Something needs to be done, because no one needs added stress in their lives. It sounds like you can talk to him about it (communication is always important if carried out in a mature and respectful way), or you can break it off, or you can just ease off a little bit. Good luck.
Author Kristine Posted February 14, 2010 Author Posted February 14, 2010 Thank you for your responses. Yes it's the same guy.
hoping2heal Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Do I break it off? One minute he's telling me he's buying a ring for me the next he's saying he's not ready to get married, or doesn't think he wants to marry, etc. I'm not pressuring him to IMO. It's all on his end. I was just feeling him out still trying to figure out if this is a guy for me, deciding if he's quirks weren't too quirky, etc. Yes eventually I'd like to marry someone and settle down but what is his deal? And should I just say see ya' because that's how I'm feeling right now even though I like him and don't really want to. HELP! I'm confused and this is confusing. WoW. Well, hot and cold is one thing. A man telling you he is buying you a ring one minute and the next telling you he doesn't know if he wants to marry / isn't ready is a problem. I don't know how you could ever feel safe in a relationship like that or build any trust in it. Sounds completely shakey and fumbley. Rollercoasters may be exciting at first, but enough go rounds and you just feel woozy.
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