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Not really dumped, but was never really dating either. (rant)


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To put my situation in a few words, before I rant...

 

I had a dry spell of a handful of years. But I met a lot of people during those years that I tried to become interested in.. I guess because I was so willing to be involved with someone again. I became a little more worried that I wasn't going to meet anyone (how stupid of me to say that, I'm 24).

 

After meeting someone unexpectedly through some friends, I had felt excited again. She did too, and things took off quick. I learned more about her though, found out she had been through a lot recently, and after dating for a few weeks, I was broken up with. She wanted to take it slow. Honestly, does that remark even exist? Do people really want to take it slow? Does it ever turn out? Everyone tells me it's a lie.

 

I wouldn't have been so upset if I had not held on for dear life this whole time, haha.

 

Every other day, its something different. She's either in a great mood, telling me nice things, or the opposite. Never getting back to me, being evasive, cutting out in the middle of conversations. I guess she can't make up her mind, or enjoys having me as her 2nd place guy.

 

Well thats it, I'm tired of reasoning and always being nice and patient. It's become ridiculous. I can't focus on anything, probably because I'm waiting to see what happens next.

 

But yea, I feel like I'm just going to go NC. Even though I'm not always in favor for that, I'm left with no other choice.

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Sounds like you have a good understanding of the situation and your instincts are waving the red flag.

 

Ditch her by going NC, as 2nd place is always the 1st loser.

 

I think the whole going slow is to keep a persons options open.

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Thanks man, obviously I need a little support before I start this journey of mine.

 

Another friend of mine was talking to me and said the same thing, about going NC. He's not familiar with the term/text, but I laughed when he called the "mind eraser".

 

He also had me laughing when I was like, well what do I do if her friends talk to me? Or ask why I haven't gotten back to her.

 

He took a drag from his cigarette and said, "You tell them, 'it was time'".

 

In all seriousness though.. what do I do if her friend(s) get in touch and ask about me? Ignore them too?

Posted (edited)
Thanks man, obviously I need a little support before I start this journey of mine.

 

Another friend of mine was talking to me and said the same thing, about going NC. He's not familiar with the term/text, but I laughed when he called the "mind eraser".

 

He also had me laughing when I was like, well what do I do if her friends talk to me? Or ask why I haven't gotten back to her.

 

He took a drag from his cigarette and said, "You tell them, 'it was time'".

 

In all seriousness though.. what do I do if her friend(s) get in touch and ask about me? Ignore them too?

 

If her friends are asking about you, then they are showing more interest in you and she was. So if you like one them, then ask her out.

 

If they ask about what happen with so and so, tell them the truth that she wasn't giving you the attention you deserve.

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I figured that was gonna be the response. Thanks again, mang.

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