singlelife Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 We are really cool. We have great sex and we go and have a good time enjoying each other. She has a guys that really wants to be her bf. She tells me that even though she wants to be his gf she wants to keep having sex with me and keep it a secret. We had great sex on it and sealed the deal. I am totally cool with the situation but I have a few questions for you ladies. Now I have a high opinion of my friend and she is a decent person and respected in the community and we are not in love. 1. From the perspective of a woman what is going on with my really good friend. 2. I don't think she wants more but just trying to make sure everything is really cool so we can stay friends. 3. We have been through this with a few guys she dated so what is she thinking about the dudes, again from a womens perspective.
SOLACEMENT Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 This would not end up good...I don't care what you say I really have no comment on the women or what she is thinking(who knows) But would you want someone you are in a relationship with to be ****ing someone as a secret I am not trying to be a prude or anything ..but this ain't cool
Brady_to_Moss Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 What a slut WHere they hell do people find these girls? I want one.
Johnny M Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Now I have a high opinion of my friend and she is a decent person and respected in the community and we are not in love. A decent person?? If you had a girlfriend or wife who was not only cheating on you but doing so from day one, would you consider her a decent person? This woman is trash, there's no doubt about that. Now the fact that she's cheating on her boyfriend is not your problem, so you might as well continue banging her if the sex is good (provided you are not concerned about the boyfriend's reaction once he finds out you've been sleeping with his woman - and chances are, he eventually will). But trust me, you don't want anything "more" with this slut, no matter how desperate you may be.
dreamingoftigers Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 From a woman's perspective I think it would mean that I have emotional issues, to enter half-heartedly into one relationship while having a friendship/sexual one would tell me that I am not honest with myself and those around me. I use people (even those that I care about) as some kind of drug to make myself feel better. I don't have REAL relationships. My self-esteem is the pits. That's what I think my perspective would be if I was that woman.
EYECANDY000 Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 wow, I dont even know what questions you asked. but this comment is about your friend. She is the reason why why men dont trust women. she is a filthy slut puppy.
Joe Normal Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 (edited) You are being reckless, here's why: 1. You will be at risk from STDs from this guy, who for all you know is a HPV, herp & HIV infected drug-using promiscuous bisexual. 2. You are sharing a bed with a confessed cheater/liar. Having sex with people of low morals is dangerous, they can easily get you in deep trouble (e.g. false rape accusations, "forgetting" to take contraception, conning you into false paternity etc). Only sleep with ethical/trustworthy people. 3. If the guy finds out, he may beat your ass, or mess up your life/reputation/career, or even kill you - ditto for your female friend. No woman, no matter how hot, is worth those risks. The icing on the cake is that you will be degrading yourself and abandoning any integrity by being a willing third party to potentially heartbreaking deception for an innocent man. Bros before hos. Edited February 14, 2010 by Joe Normal
calazhage Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 This topic was on another thread.. Women who have sex with lovers (sluts on one hand), then wear a different mask with another guy (the good girl meant for dating and a relationship). Sadly her behavior is not all that uncommon these days. If I were you I would try to detach myself from this situation.
carhill Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 From a woman's perspective I think it would mean that I have emotional issues, to enter half-heartedly into one relationship while having a friendship/sexual one would tell me that I am not honest with myself and those around me. I use people (even those that I care about) as some kind of drug to make myself feel better. I don't have REAL relationships. My self-esteem is the pits. That's what I think my perspective would be if I was that woman. OP, IMO, this is a relatively sensitive, yet honest description of the dynamic. I've seen the long-term results of this (as the man in the emotional receptacle box) for such an afflicted woman. IME, such people compartmentalize their intimate relationships, making it possible to have multiple partners, using each one for a different 'purpose'. Your friend may be an anomaly, but IME, over time, the receptacles get drained to whatever extent it is allowed. They get 'used'. You may not feel that way, since your noodle gets wet regularly, so such might not apply to you. It will apply to someone; with this psychology that's inevitable.
Leia Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 We are really cool. We have great sex and we go and have a good time enjoying each other. She has a guys that really wants to be her bf. She tells me that even though she wants to be his gf she wants to keep having sex with me and keep it a secret. We had great sex on it and sealed the deal. I am totally cool with the situation but I have a few questions for you ladies. Now I have a high opinion of my friend and she is a decent person and respected in the community and we are not in love. 1. From the perspective of a woman what is going on with my really good friend. 2. I don't think she wants more but just trying to make sure everything is really cool so we can stay friends. 3. We have been through this with a few guys she dated so what is she thinking about the dudes, again from a womens perspective. Nothing decent about that! Solacement is right, why would anyone want to be involve with a woman or man that is like your friend??
sagetalk Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 If my girlfriend was secretly sleeping with you on the side I would be so mad . What a rotten thing to do to someone. How can people ever trust each other when there are people like this in the world. Scary.
Ruby Slippers Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 She has some kind of significant issue: commitment, emotional, whatever. Be careful being involved with people with significant issues. They usually take their drama with them wherever they go.
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