hellopeople Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 I feel like I was completely used and thrown away. The idea that a person could be so selfish that they use another for their personal needs is sickening. BLEH! When I think about the memories I want to cry because they might or might not be real. I feel so rejected and hurt. I try to move on but everything triggers a memory – I was so attached and so eager to please him. I went into the relationship with pure intentions. He was emotionally detached from the beginning even though he pursued me for a month. Ew. So how did/ are you all coping with the fact that you were a rebound and didn't know it? Because I am clearly failing at it. But yay to NC!
pureinheart Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Ya, I hear you...same story as yours. It's not just about being the rebound, these individuals are like this with everyone in their lives, they are simply users and losers and we should be GLAD that they are history and guess what....they did not destroy us or kill us...we will have good lives because YES yours motives were PURE....and please don't forget that. There are great people out there, I just happen to be a weirdo attractor, but no more....
pureinheart Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Oh....the NC....that starts today, now....I wrote about 3 emails priddy much saying how I felt....NC right now though...and I speak that into existance from here to eternity.... I also speak into existance the right people for you and me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Get ready, because our day is here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
bananaboat11 Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 I was a 4.5 month rebound for some emotionally unstable girl.. I thought she was falling in love with me... yet all her words were untrue. It sucks, but you just need to look past it. I find, with rebound... people tend to be shallow and look for someone that's physically attractive to them... so take comfort in that fact. When you rebound... you don't just go for the first piece of ass around the block... it's been almost 4.5 months since the bitch who used me dumped me over facebook + same time NC. NC has made it easier + LS! There are some REALLY good people here... I also take comfort knowing my ex who used me will never contact me again. And that she is a shallow bitch who boosted my confidence in my body & penis size... considering most guys question these things all the time. Take comfort in those little things he complemented you on... it's those things that are usually true... ...the i love you's are fake... but the I miss you's... the i can't wait to see you's... AT THE TIME were real... b/c it was YOU they wanted. It was YOU they used... and it sucks, but it should make you stronger so that next time you can more easily recognize these stupid, ****ed up little red flags... that perpetuate into larger problems in the 'relationship'... if you want to call it a relationship. **** Nicole (my ex) I'm better than her. I have so much going for me... I can do better... and I have a lot of people in my life telling me so. The WORST part about me is that sometimes.. I can come across as a little OVERconfident which is portrayed as arrogance/cockiness... and my face is symmetrical / handome/ cute but not 'hot' or 'bad boy look'... I'm not saying these are my only problems... but to me.. right now they're what's affecting me ... and i'm working on myself so that one day.. I can be a BETTER person, better lover, better partner, etc... and that I NEVER do to the next woman in my life what my bitch of an ex did to me... ...and you should heed my words... GROW. LEARN. LIVE. BE WELL. <3, BB.
tonyhk2007 Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 This might sounds stupid.. But can anyone tell me what "NC" means?
USMCHokie Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 This might sounds stupid.. But can anyone tell me what "NC" means? No Contact.
pureinheart Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 I was a 4.5 month rebound for some emotionally unstable girl.. I thought she was falling in love with me... yet all her words were untrue. It sucks, but you just need to look past it. I find, with rebound... people tend to be shallow and look for someone that's physically attractive to them... so take comfort in that fact. When you rebound... you don't just go for the first piece of ass around the block... it's been almost 4.5 months since the bitch who used me dumped me over facebook + same time NC. NC has made it easier + LS! There are some REALLY good people here... I also take comfort knowing my ex who used me will never contact me again. And that she is a shallow bitch who boosted my confidence in my body & penis size... considering most guys question these things all the time. Take comfort in those little things he complemented you on... it's those things that are usually true... ...the i love you's are fake... but the I miss you's... the i can't wait to see you's... AT THE TIME were real... b/c it was YOU they wanted. It was YOU they used... and it sucks, but it should make you stronger so that next time you can more easily recognize these stupid, ****ed up little red flags... that perpetuate into larger problems in the 'relationship'... if you want to call it a relationship. **** Nicole (my ex) I'm better than her. I have so much going for me... I can do better... and I have a lot of people in my life telling me so. The WORST part about me is that sometimes.. I can come across as a little OVERconfident which is portrayed as arrogance/cockiness... and my face is symmetrical / handome/ cute but not 'hot' or 'bad boy look'... I'm not saying these are my only problems... but to me.. right now they're what's affecting me ... and i'm working on myself so that one day.. I can be a BETTER person, better lover, better partner, etc... and that I NEVER do to the next woman in my life what my bitch of an ex did to me... ...and you should heed my words... GROW. LEARN. LIVE. BE WELL. <3, BB. You know what the BEST part about you is...your ability to conduct self inventories, which you obviously do. I know VERY few people that can do this. I think the best part of you is on the inside...she just was not right for you, there must be someone better.....
pureinheart Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 The WORST part about me is that sometimes.. I can come across as a little OVERconfident which is portrayed as arrogance/cockiness... and my face is symmetrical / handome/ cute but not 'hot' or 'bad boy look'... BB. Wait BB, in thinking and listening to a teaching a couple of weeks ago...why does being confident, even if you say it is overly confident, deem you arrogant or cocky? Knowing who you are, and communicating it is ok....you communicate possitives, I think that is a good thing...hey if your good, your good! Speak it loud!
bananaboat11 Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Wait BB, in thinking and listening to a teaching a couple of weeks ago...why does being confident, even if you say it is overly confident, deem you arrogant or cocky? Knowing who you are, and communicating it is ok....you communicate possitives, I think that is a good thing...hey if your good, your good! Speak it loud! Wow thank you I was going on a rational whim with my resposne... because it's what I feel is 'right'. Thank you
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