Author guy.lepage Posted February 17, 2010 Author Posted February 17, 2010 I have no advice, but I feel your pain! Thanks Crazy Magnet! We spoke today and I think she felt that I was a bit weirded out. She suggested that we go for beer and sushi after the concert and that she'd bring some friends along. Now what do you think of this last change?
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 Thanks Crazy Magnet! We spoke today and I think she felt that I was a bit weirded out. She suggested that we go for beer and sushi after the concert and that she'd bring some friends along. Now what do you think of this last change? She sensed your reluctance and now it sounds reasonable. So go, but damn keep your eyes open. Your gonna see what i was talking about.
Author guy.lepage Posted February 17, 2010 Author Posted February 17, 2010 She sensed your reluctance and now it sounds reasonable. So go, but damn keep your eyes open. Your gonna see what i was talking about. Thank you. I've appreciated your responses through this thread.
bayouboi Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 Haha I already see what's coming. "Hey uh...so where are your friends?" "Oh they just called and said they couldn't make it do you wanna go back to my place?" lol
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 Haha I already see what's coming. "Hey uh...so where are your friends?" "Oh they just called and said they couldn't make it do you wanna go back to my place?" lol LMAO!!!! I expect something similar to happen too!!!!
oneheart Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 Not to pour water over yur fire but I think this might be purely plutonic. You are quitting, you give her a gift. She is grateful and in return, likes you enough to offer a gift to you too. It's a kind of thanks and maybe goodbye, but thanks all the same. She may be bringing friends because she sensed a bit of awkwardness so she is being sensible to get the message to you it's not a date. However - stranger things have happened. In my university tutors do go out with their post grad students (ofetn not far apart in age 30's 40's) for coffee and the occassional beer, exhibitions etc. because it is a shared interest. It's not anything to do with trying to get into bed with each other - well ok, you could say maybe it is - but this is a common thing I have seen where it is purely a blend of shared interests and a social activity. It's a music concert right? I may think the same as you that maybe it's something else, but I think if she is in a relationship I would be doing my best to stay out of PAIN! Enjoy your concert.
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 Not to pour water over yur fire but I think this might be purely plutonic. You are quitting, you give her a gift. She is grateful and in return, likes you enough to offer a gift to you too. It's a kind of thanks and maybe goodbye, but thanks all the same. She may be bringing friends because she sensed a bit of awkwardness so she is being sensible to get the message to you it's not a date. However - stranger things have happened. In my university tutors do go out with their post grad students (ofetn not far apart in age 30's 40's) for coffee and the occassional beer, exhibitions etc. because it is a shared interest. It's not anything to do with trying to get into bed with each other - well ok, you could say maybe it is - but this is a common thing I have seen where it is purely a blend of shared interests and a social activity. It's a music concert right? I may think the same as you that maybe it's something else, but I think if she is in a relationship I would be doing my best to stay out of PAIN! Enjoy your concert. Um you do know she was just a piano teacher not a college professor.
oneheart Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 Yes I do. She is still in the ethical framework of a teacher, just as a tutor of mine would say I'm going to such and such a talk on whatever day if you are interested in coming....
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 Yes I do. She is still in the ethical framework of a teacher, just as a tutor of mine would say I'm going to such and such a talk on whatever day if you are interested in coming.... Like i sad before. I sense this woman has ulterior motives and it's not so innocent as you believe. I brought up the whole ethics thing in the beginning of this thread.
Author guy.lepage Posted February 17, 2010 Author Posted February 17, 2010 In my university tutors do go out with their post grad students (ofetn not far apart in age 30's 40's) for coffee and the occassional beer, exhibitions etc. because it is a shared interest. It's not anything to do with trying to get into bed with each other - well ok, you could say maybe it is - but this is a common thing I have seen where it is purely a blend of shared interests and a social activity. It's a music concert right? Thanks for your reply -- but I must correct one thing. University teachers and tutors that hang with their adult students all have a hidden agenda (ok maybe not all of them, but very many). I've witnessed way too many awkward situations during my university years to believe in any kind of purity here...
Author guy.lepage Posted February 17, 2010 Author Posted February 17, 2010 You are quitting, you give her a gift. She is grateful and in return, likes you enough to offer a gift to you too. I think giving someone a pair of tickets is a gift. Asking someone to go with you is NOT a gift... I remember back in college, one of my friends' "tactic" was to offer a nice birthday dinner to the woman he was interested in. In his mind, it was a "gift". In everybody else's mind, it was a lame way to ask someone out on a date...
Author guy.lepage Posted February 17, 2010 Author Posted February 17, 2010 She may be bringing friends because she sensed a bit of awkwardness so she is being sensible to get the message to you it's not a date. I agree with this part. I really didn't seem like I wanted to go when she invited me so in her mind she must've thought she made a wrong move.
start-fresh Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 Have no fear OP, if she was romantically interested in you, that interest has probably taken a big ding as a result of your over analysis of the situation. She can sense it, and if you were also interested in her, you're blowing it. As far as the ethics of teacher/student goes... they're the same age, it was piano lessons, and she waited until he was no longer her student, so it's not really an issue I'd say. I think the whole thing was platonic in her mind to begin with, though, but you know the situation better than me OP.
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