phineas Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 When it comes to the OP's list she would only be able to pick men based on their looks because it takes time to get to know someone well enough to learn the truth about the rest i'd think.
alphamale Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 This is my personal wishlist. Do the following traits exist in one man? probably not
bananaboat11 Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 You just described me.. but I'm only 25.
phineas Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Could you be any more superficial? I didn't list criteria for looks.
greatgirlfriend Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 How long are you talking here? I don't consider myself in a relationship until there is sex. I don't consider myself exclusive with someone until there is sex. With so many options out there I could never become attached to a woman unless there was sex. A few months. He wants to wait for several reasons, including the vibe that we will actually have an pregnancy accident using condoms. I'm hoping that we wait long enough that we will decide by then to move in together.
angelaM Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 A few months. He wants to wait for several reasons, including the vibe that we will actually have an pregnancy accident using condoms. I'm hoping that we wait long enough that we will decide by then to move in together. Why would you want to move in with someone after only a few months, that seems kind of fast.
greatgirlfriend Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Why would you want to move in with someone after only a few months, that seems kind of fast. I'm thinking if it goes well then maybe around 6 months. I have known him for years so that might seem a short time, but not to me. It's still way too early to think that though, so I'll see where we are at that point.
greatgirlfriend Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Another superficial idiot Exactly what makes me a superficial idiot? Because we think a pregnancy that neither one of us wants now will occur? Newsflash, no form of birth control is 100% effective. So we'd rather wait and deal with the possible consequences instead of rushing into something.
skydiveaddict Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 This is my personal wishlist. Do the following traits exist in one man? You're 6'1" or taller You're between 38 and 44 You take care of yourself so you feel attractive You value honesty and practice it You can express yourself and you're a one-woman man You reserve "I love you" for when you truly mean it You balance compliments and sweetness with mystery, cockiness, flirting and teasing You understand and appreciate that a woman needs to feel special to you to feel secure in a relationship with you You're looking for your partner in crime You do not see children as baggage You like who you are You'd rather masturbate than have casual sex You know how to please a woman in bed Of course I know three men just like that: Larry, Curly and Moe
frenchgirl Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Since when are we all supposed to hold off on sex in order to do the "right" thing? Again, I repeat, if you use sex in order to gain something that you otherwise wouldn't gain, that is a different problem (and a much more serious one if you ask me).
greatgirlfriend Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Since when are we all supposed to hold off on sex in order to do the "right" thing? Again, I repeat, if you use sex in order to gain something that you otherwise wouldn't gain, that is a different problem (and a much more serious one if you ask me). If you are talking about me, no I am not holding off on sex. My boyfriend is the one who wants to wait, around 6 months, because he think a pregnancy is going to result. I am hoping around that time that we are at least talking about moving in together.
frenchgirl Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 If you are talking about me, no I am not holding off on sex. My boyfriend is the one who wants to wait, around 6 months, because he think a pregnancy is going to result. I am hoping around that time that we are at least talking about moving in together. I was reacting to the several threads that talk about this topic and meant no disrespect. Part of me is thinking "whatever floats your boat" but another part of me thinks this is unreasonable. Why would anyone want to kiss and hold hands for six months, talk about moving in together and then finally think about having sex? Sex should be enjoyable for both partners, it's an integral part of the relationship (not just some remote objective). Unless you're teenagers, I think this is extreme behaviour. I would strongly question the guy's mental health or moral values if I were put in that kind of situation.
angelaM Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 If you are talking about me, no I am not holding off on sex. My boyfriend is the one who wants to wait, around 6 months, because he think a pregnancy is going to result. I am hoping around that time that we are at least talking about moving in together. I commend you for waiting, whatever the reason. I don't sleep with a man until/unless I'm in a monogamous relationship and no one has ever left because of it. Don't know how typical that is but it works for me.
You'reasian Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 If you wanna bang your girlfriend after the first few dates and bang alot, she thinks your just in it for the sex. If you hold off, develop the foundation of a relationship until you're comfortable, something's wrong with you... The key is to give her just enough to want a little more.
greatgirlfriend Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 I was reacting to the several threads that talk about this topic and meant no disrespect. Part of me is thinking "whatever floats your boat" but another part of me thinks this is unreasonable. Why would anyone want to kiss and hold hands for six months, talk about moving in together and then finally think about having sex? Sex should be enjoyable for both partners, it's an integral part of the relationship (not just some remote objective). Unless you're teenagers, I think this is extreme behaviour. I would strongly question the guy's mental health or moral values if I were put in that kind of situation. Not sure what you mean about his values. He has strong values and part of it is not rushing into sex. We are both Catholic and believe that if a pregnancy was to occur we'd get married. Neither of us can afford a baby so he suggested we wait 6 months or so. We haven't really discussed moving in together, but that's something I'd like if we are together in 6 months (or leading to it).
greatgirlfriend Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 I commend you for waiting, whatever the reason. I don't sleep with a man until/unless I'm in a monogamous relationship and no one has ever left because of it. Don't know how typical that is but it works for me. Thank you. I haven't always been like this, because I was too busy rushing. Most of the guys left so I learned a lesson. Several years ago I decided that it was best to wait. My boyfriend, the same thing.
frenchgirl Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 So if a man wait's 6 months, you'd question his mental health. First, I'd be frustrated as hell. Second, I'd think he wants to spend the rest of his life with me before we even have sex. That's nuts.
frenchgirl Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Thank you. I haven't always been like this, because I was too busy rushing. Most of the guys left so I learned a lesson. Several years ago I decided that it was best to wait. My boyfriend, the same thing. No disrespect intended but as a woman I think you read the wrong diagnosis. The guys didn't leave because you rushed in and had sex. They left because they either had no intention of staying in the first place -- or the sex was bad -- or it was simply not meant to be. Are you putting your heart on the line every time you have sex? Maybe that's what the real issue is.
bananaboat11 Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Wow. i'm definitely astonished at some of the responses in this thread...
You'reasian Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 No disrespect intended but as a woman I think you read the wrong diagnosis. The guys didn't leave because you rushed in and had sex. They left because they either had no intention of staying in the first place -- or the sex was bad -- or it was simply not meant to be. Are you putting your heart on the line every time you have sex? Maybe that's what the real issue is. The point is that she needs to do this for her, not for anyone else.
You'reasian Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 What do you expect? The only thing men and women agree on is dating is one great big game. :rolleyes: I spend hundreds of hours and all I get as lied to time after time. No one ever has time for anything. Not even for a hello or the courtesty to me me they are not interested. That's why I don't date If there's a mutual attraction between a woman and I, we can be friends and then it can go from there. I don't put myself out in the dating scene - and if I did, I'd go in with the understanding that nothing would go very far - but I don't.
You'reasian Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 You're just a f***ing liar. It's all a game to you too. :rolleyes: You're frustrated Learning from your mistakes does not constitue gaming.
neowulf Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Why not go f*** yourself? neowulf can f*** himself too. Report me if you want, fine. I'm tired of paying the price for the actions of other men. All incredibly superficial. wow.. touched a nerve did I? You know, that's pretty over the top for a simple statement that "qualities have a good and bad side".
She's_NotInLove_w/Me Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Everyone is going to have a slightly (or not so slightly) different view of this subject... In this society there is not nearly enough value placed on one's own body; (IMHO) it was not intended to be shared sexually at will with whomever you please. With one exception, I meet every single criteria in the OP's original post. The one exception is that I come up exactly 3 inches short of the height requirement... I have had only one sexual partner in my entire life. I hope that when I leave this earth my number is still the same. If my wife should be unexpectedly taken from me, I would hope that number would still remain only 2 or maybe 3 at the most. Some people make it seem like 2 or 3 different partners in a month is not unusal... I certainly hope that my 5 kids share my views. But if they don't, it's not the end of the world. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and I am not judging them; who knows, my kids or I could be there one day too.
PJKino Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Whats this be mysterious gabrage? You women get brainwashed by these novels/movies
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