Awesome Username Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 (edited) I'm supposed to go to a concert with a guy, and he hasn't called me. It starts in 10 minutes. Grrrr.... I even did my eyeliner all cool and stuff. Kinda tired of being blown off. He is my friend. Should I yell at him? Edited February 13, 2010 by Awesome Username
You'reasian Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 I'm supposed to go to a concert with a guy, and he hasn't called me. It starts in 10 minutes. Grrrr.... I even did my eyeliner all cool and stuff. Kinda tired of being blown off. He is my friend. Should I yell at him? Yes. Call him tonight and tell him that its not cool.
USMCHokie Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Mmmm...I'm sorry to hear this...I am not a big fan of flakes...especially when it comes to friends...
skydiveaddict Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Yes call him and tell him you dont deal with flakes
Leia Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 I'm supposed to go to a concert with a guy, and he hasn't called me. It starts in 10 minutes. Grrrr.... I even did my eyeliner all cool and stuff. Kinda tired of being blown off. He is my friend. Should I yell at him? Maybe something more important came up? If not, then yes, do yell at him!
Author Awesome Username Posted February 13, 2010 Author Posted February 13, 2010 Mmmm...I'm sorry to hear this...I am not a big fan of flakes...especially when it comes to friends... I told him that I have a tiny little crush on one of our friends. I hope that has nothing to do with him blatantly not calling me or picking up the phone tonight. He didn't seem disturbed or pissed by it at the time...and he still wanted to go to this. I'm just trying to run through my head why he would do this. He practically wrung my neck to go to this thing. @#^%$@$^%!!!!! :mad: Angry Username
Author Awesome Username Posted February 13, 2010 Author Posted February 13, 2010 Maybe something more important came up? If not, then yes, do yell at him! Yeah, if it was something out of his control than I'm totally cool with it. It's not the concert; I actually have no idea who the band is. It's the principle of inviting me somewhere and not following through. This seems to happen to me a lot. Someone super excitedly asks me to do something and then they end up flaking, and making up an excuse practically in tears later on in the night apologizing. I wonder if I gave off a pheromone that makes people flake. Then again, I have been known to flake in the past...but I ALWAYS call the person before I cancel!
You'reasian Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Yeah, if it was something out of his control than I'm totally cool with it. It's not the concert; I actually have no idea who the band is. It's the principle of inviting me somewhere and not following through. This seems to happen to me a lot. Someone super excitedly asks me to do something and then they end up flaking, and making up an excuse practically in tears later on in the night apologizing. I wonder if I gave off a pheromone that makes people flake. Then again, I have been known to flake in the past...but I ALWAYS call the person before I cancel! Take matters into your own hands. Call one hour before the event in the future and confirm. Leave a message if he doesn't pick up. Call again 30 minutes - same thing. He should get back within 5 minutes if he is for real - unless something comes up...
USMCHokie Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 This seems to happen to me a lot. Someone super excitedly asks me to do something and then they end up flaking, and making up an excuse practically in tears later on in the night apologizing. I wonder if I gave off a pheromone that makes people flake. Get better friends...?
Author Awesome Username Posted February 13, 2010 Author Posted February 13, 2010 Take matters into your own hands. Call one hour before the event in the future and confirm. Leave a message if he doesn't pick up. Call again 30 minutes - same thing. He should get back within 5 minutes if he is for real - unless something comes up... I totally did, and he has not picked up at all.
Author Awesome Username Posted February 13, 2010 Author Posted February 13, 2010 Screw this. I'm gonna go up to North Beach with my awesome Cleopatra eye, hair done self. I'm gonna get some chocolate thing and look fierce doing it. AU stays home and waits for noone!
soulm8 Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 You go girl... I mean cleopatra eyes! Have fun tonight sweetie
Author Awesome Username Posted February 13, 2010 Author Posted February 13, 2010 what concert was it I still don't know. lol! He called me up thinking I stood HIM up. I wanted to prove that I didn't, so I went to his house at 1am (God I'm brilliant) and he was drunk as a skunk telling me how pretty I was. I yelled at him and left. He apologized this morning so he's still cool, but boy was I pissed off last night!!
Hot Carl Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 He apologized this morning... After he made you breakfast?
2sunny Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 I still don't know. lol! He called me up thinking I stood HIM up. I wanted to prove that I didn't, so I went to his house at 1am (God I'm brilliant) and he was drunk as a skunk telling me how pretty I was. I yelled at him and left. He apologized this morning so he's still cool, but boy was I pissed off last night!! well here's the problem... pick better choices when you plan to spend time with someone. when asked out - set a firm day and time. this leaves no room for error unless the person is unreliable and undependable - which is what this guy is. words and actions must match in order to have some bearing on true character. why aren't you still mad? he apologizes and gives a compliment and everything's fine? woah... not in my world - never! YOU tolerate bad behavior - that's why he does it!
Author Awesome Username Posted February 13, 2010 Author Posted February 13, 2010 After he made you breakfast? LOL certainly not, I went home after that!
neowulf Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 why aren't you still mad? he apologizes and gives a compliment and everything's fine? woah... not in my world - never! YOU tolerate bad behavior - that's why he does it! +1 I see this a lot. I've got a friend who lets people walk all over her and I'm *constantly* amazed at the **** she'll put up with from people. The old expression "We train people how to treat us" stands true. Everyone's entitled to a mistake, but seriously AU.. friends don't disrepect each other like that.
Author Awesome Username Posted February 13, 2010 Author Posted February 13, 2010 well here's the problem... pick better choices when you plan to spend time with someone. when asked out - set a firm day and time. this leaves no room for error unless the person is unreliable and undependable - which is what this guy is. words and actions must match in order to have some bearing on true character. why aren't you still mad? he apologizes and gives a compliment and everything's fine? woah... not in my world - never! YOU tolerate bad behavior - that's why he does it! He apologized and complimented me last night, then I got really pissed and left. There was more of a formal, real apology this morning so I'm not pissed off anymore. I'm never going to go over to his house again beck and call, though. We're just platonic friends. He doesn't remember anything, BTW. He said, "Don't go to my house anymore when I call you at 1am!" I'm like "No kidding, dude! You're belligerent!" Other than this slip up he actually is a really cool guy. I've known him for a few months, ever since he came here (I used to work with him). and I'm sure this story will just be funny in the future. But again, I was sure pissed last night. I'm gonna take your advice on the firm time and date thing. I obviously need to get totalitarian on that in the future.
You'reasian Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 He apologized and complimented me last night, then I got really pissed and left. There was more of a formal, real apology this morning so I'm not pissed off anymore. I'm never going to go over to his house again beck and call, though. We're just platonic friends. He doesn't remember anything, BTW. He said, "Don't go to my house anymore when I call you at 1am!" I'm like "No kidding, dude! You're belligerent!" Other than this slip up he actually is a really cool guy. I've known him for a few months, ever since he came here (I used to work with him). and I'm sure this story will just be funny in the future. But again, I was sure pissed last night. I'm gonna take your advice on the firm time and date thing. I obviously need to get totalitarian on that in the future. Getting hammer drunk is not attractive - I don't care WHO you are lol
You'reasian Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 I'm sure the is so called "hot". If he was not hot, the friedship would be over. Perhaps. If a woman thinks you're hot, you can talk about taking a dump and she'll cry her eyes out laughing. If a woman dosen't think you're hot, you can talk about driving and she'll think you're eeeewww cree-pea! If she's your friend, she'll tease you right back! lol
amerikajin Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 He apologized and complimented me last night, then I got really pissed and left. There was more of a formal, real apology this morning so I'm not pissed off anymore. I'm never going to go over to his house again beck and call, though. We're just platonic friends. He doesn't remember anything, BTW. He said, "Don't go to my house anymore when I call you at 1am!" I'm like "No kidding, dude! You're belligerent!" Other than this slip up he actually is a really cool guy. I've known him for a few months, ever since he came here (I used to work with him). and I'm sure this story will just be funny in the future. But again, I was sure pissed last night. I'm gonna take your advice on the firm time and date thing. I obviously need to get totalitarian on that in the future. I'm confused. It seems like you were going on a date with him, but you mentioned somewhere along the way that you had a crush on his friend. Why would you say that? I wouldn't be too happy about it either, honestly. I mean, I would probably have the decency to make up an excuse and no go but I would probably not be keen to hang out with someone I'm interested in who's interested in someone else.
melodymatters Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 AU, you are a cool chick, but your actually being TOO cool about this situation ! Making plans, whether with ones mother, sister, BF or male platonic friend ALL have the same rule : RESPECT ! It's one thing if it's " yeah, maybe we'll get together friday and go out for a drink" and then somone just doesn't feel like it and e-mails, calls or text and such. BUT, a concert plan, pretty eyes, and hair, you turing down any other possible fun offers is just sucky and un-cool !
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