sean1 Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 ryt this has got me straight into a ahh **** wtf mood! basically my ex has just text me. turns out shes been out and is in the same pub as my mum!!! arghhh it said hey can we be friends yet? hope ure ok just been talking to ure mum hpe ure ok xx ^^ feeder text all over! i have not text back and have no intentions of doing! but however i feel like i want to..shes set me back! shes pulling at those strings agen!!! sum1 please stop me from texting her!!! ahhhh
McGrupp Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 i think you should text yer mum and be like throw a drink on that ho!
Author sean1 Posted February 13, 2010 Author Posted February 13, 2010 i think you should text yer mum and be like throw a drink on that ho! now that is some funny stuff!!! seriously though..i feel like i want to reply...not to say awww hey yeah im gud...but more lyk i told you i do not want you as a frend. youve put me through so much and nobody should ever have to feel this way. ive told you im moving on. you had the chance to fight with me and take me back but you said no. so its over its done goodbye. can i not send that?
paleblue Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 its only a temporary set back. dont respond or you will feel worse. in a couple days you should start feeling better. you will feel stronger aboutyourself for not responding. too bad someone doesnt squeeze a lemon in her eye.
Author sean1 Posted February 13, 2010 Author Posted February 13, 2010 im not respoding ive decided. i gotta get past these test...got 2 fight strong and maintain exactly what ive sed 2 ova guys n gals!!! when its you though my god its harder!!!! its wierd...ive gone from 0% wanting 2 b wif her 2 90% wanting 2 b sat wif her ryt now.all cos of 1 text? my god!
McGrupp Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 I'd tell her I would call her when i will decide to hang out as friends and that i would try and call her next week so we could try and be friends. Then, 6 days later, with NO CONTACT WHATSOEVER, I would delete her off of everything possible, msn, contact list, facebook, blackberry messenger, anything and everything. Then I would post a witty comment on a common friends wall (pref a girl that i am already friends with) and then not talk to your ex or any of her friends ever again. This will breed results if you do it without cheating. Promise.
D-Lish Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Trust me, silence is your most effective weapon. It will bother her more than any response you could come up with. People hate to be ignored. If you want to send a clear message- don't send a message at all.
Author sean1 Posted February 13, 2010 Author Posted February 13, 2010 ive already blocked her on everything. i cant stop her texting unfortuantly otherwise i wud. we spoke last wekend 2 wer i sed. u no how i feel. i cant be frends wif the girl i love. its not going to happen. just leave me alone and we can both go our seperate ways in life. she text back saying ok. so why is she now texting me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! is it the fact she dusnt repsect me? i say i dont want to be friends. then she says hey can we be frends? wtf. gawd! its wierd. i really want 2 text saying **** off! but at the same time if she sed shall we giv it ago...i wud instantly say yes nw. wher as 15mins ago i wud of easily sed no! 1 text and i feel like ive ben pulled back to square 1..and i didnt brake the rules!!!!! and dlish. that is a very good post! but shes made the.."what if.." question reapear in my hed...
McGrupp Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 i would call up an escort and show up at the same bar. the hotter the better. and be like this is my new friend caprice. o, hey mom...
paleblue Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Trust me, silence is your most effective weapon. It will bother her more than any response you could come up with. People hate to be ignored. If you want to send a clear message- don't send a message at all. take it from D-Lish, a woman knows what bothers another woman the most. im not respoding ive decided. i gotta get past these test...got 2 fight strong and maintain exactly what ive sed 2 ova guys n gals!!! when its you though my god its harder!!!! yes it is harder when its you. i still struggle ignoring mine. i work with mine. get past this test. fight. maintain. be strong. she is just screwing with you. friends? give me a break. like you said if she said lets give it a go, thats one thing, these ridiculous breadcrumbs she is throwing at you - not what you want.
D-Lish Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Even texting her to eff-off would be a sign of your weakness. You can't control all the crazy stuff running through your head, but you can control whether or not you respond to her. Texting back in any form shows you still care- silence says you don't. That is the most effective way to handle this.
Author sean1 Posted February 13, 2010 Author Posted February 13, 2010 yes it is harder when its you. i still struggle ignoring mine. i work with mine. ^^ ouch that must be hard. its like avoiding her but avoiding avoidance.like not completly acting like a bastard and blanking them. im not texting. i aint falling for it. i think ill just face plant my mum into the door when she comes in! then ill go post in the mivering parent topic.
McGrupp Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 this is all around tough. i would call up veriozon/sprint/att whomever right now and blcok that beatches #. next time the text will shoot right back to her.
Author sean1 Posted February 13, 2010 Author Posted February 13, 2010 another text through. im sorry for texting you. i just hope we can be friends 1 day so basically breadcrumbs, its bothering her that she dusnt no what im doing and that i wont reply to her. another text like this one above though is smart. its a complete hmm fyn i dnt care either message 2 get me 2 reply.well shell be shocked when she wakes up to a blank screen still! d- i still do care. and how im feeling now i would want to fight for the love we had. but i dont want to chase her. if she wants me then she can come and get me herself. i dont see why i should try and do the work!
paleblue Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 its getting to her just like D-Lish said. your ex is getting desperate for an ego boost. fight maintain. be strong. silence. ya working with my ex is no picnic. i feel like im turning in to the darkside.
Author sean1 Posted February 13, 2010 Author Posted February 13, 2010 obviously because im still not 100% over her the questions going thru my mynd r wats affecting me! im stil saying lyk...if i ignore her then mayb shel just move on and then ther really wud b no chance. but i dont want a chance...i want her to want me...so y has my hed took 15 steps back! id already got past this! however though...i read a post earlier where someone said they sent a final message ie like i did a week ago saying never talk again. and their ex replied a few days later saying stuff and then the person replied to the ex. now there back into arguing and stressing out again. so i just need to focus! thanks guys! talking helps alot! now wer the **** is that mother of mine! in fact sod it. locked door, key in back.
D-Lish Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Keep talking it out- as much as you need to. Writing is therapeutic. When you feel the urge to make contact- post here instead and let others talk you through it. You're going to be okay.
Author sean1 Posted February 13, 2010 Author Posted February 13, 2010 i know i can move on. thats the thing, i have had the offer off a very nice girl. but i cant commit to anyone else. the ex is the only one in mind. she wont get out! and now cos shes text thats all thats on my mynd!!! ive gone from never wanting to be with her because of what shes done to me straight back to...hmm maybe if i did this then this could happen! 2 textsis allit took to break me! i agree though if i reply shes got the upperhand again! i would 100% still want 2 be with her if she asked. cos wen ure that strong together youno itl work out. just i fort i was passed all this. this is bad memories all resurfacing! arghhhh the only thing i can think of is as you said writing it down on here and listenning to others! it helps alot!
Sadbutrelieved Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 She'll only have the upper hand if you let her. Be strong!
Author sean1 Posted February 13, 2010 Author Posted February 13, 2010 i will b strong. but shes played her game and its in my head.very hard tonot retaliate. but its formy own good not to! i dont want square one again! i really dont. the only problem is with my ex. she stil isnt sure what she wants. rekindle or end forever. i dont wana miss on finding her answer wen she eventually lets me know it! obviously i expect the worse which is why i changed the whole thing round by telling her last week never to talk to me and we both goour seperate ways. it was like id broke it off then. *sighs* wish i had a time machine. i would sotravelback and stop this happening..
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