NotNow Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 (edited) I'm probably over-analyzing, but I'd like to know what people make of this situation. When I was in college I had a few classes with this one guy (we had the same major). We were friendly toward each other: saw each other once or twice at the bars; our last year at school we hung out outside of class exactly two times. I never thought of those hang outs as "dates" because both times it was very casual (once at my house and once at his) with several other people, just hanging out watching tv or a movie. The last time we hung out he texted me afterward saying that he had really wanted to kiss me, but couldn't read me. Then it was the end of the semester/year, graduation, etc. He moved home, and I moved to a small city where I was offered a job. Fast forward and I receive a text from him one day saying that he was offered a job in my city and would be moving there in a couple months; I said great, let me know, let's grab or drink or something and I'll show him around. When he moved we kind of bull****ted back and forth about meeting up; it never happened. The last time I was the one who texted him, specifically saying let's meet on this day at this time at this bar. He never responded and I dropped it. All of that was months ago. A couple weeks ago he got ahold of me again, wanting to know why I never let him know when I was around/available for a drink. I said I texted him and he never responded; he claimed to not remember this (). Said to let him know when I was around. Last week I really wanted to get a casual drink/apps and didn't have anyone to go with. Also didn't want to go on a "date." I just wanted some company and good food/a drink. So I texted this guy "Wanna grab at drink at XXXX one night this week?" He responded by saying he was going out bar-hopping this weekend (Saturday) and I should join him. I just said "keep me posted." Tonight he texted me that he was having some beers at his place, and I should come over. So, what is going on with this guy? Is he just trying to hook up with me or something (in a lazy, roundabout way)? He's not really giving off a friend vibe anymore, and he's definitely not giving off a "I'm interested in dating you" vibe either. Edited February 13, 2010 by NotNow
skydiveaddict Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 That's wierd. I dont know what to make of that. I'd be confused too
Author NotNow Posted February 13, 2010 Author Posted February 13, 2010 I texted him back to get a better idea of what's going on with him tonight; he said that he's going out later, so my assumption is that he invited me over drinks, but it's not a party/he's not generally having people over. This is so bizarre.
soulm8 Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 He's going out later?? What happened to the original plans: A. Going bar hopping and you coming along B. You hanging out at his place He needs to make up his mind and stick to what plans he makes. The impression I get, is that he's stringing you along as backup. As for the "missed" text months ago... it *is* possible he never received that text. However, it took him an awfully long time to contact you again... I suggest making plans with your friends.
soulm8 Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Last week I really wanted to get a casual drink/apps and didn't have anyone to go with. Also didn't want to go on a "date." I just wanted some company and good food/a drink. So, what is going on with this guy? Is he just trying to hook up with me or something (in a lazy, roundabout way)? He's not really giving off a friend vibe anymore, and he's definitely not giving off a "I'm interested in dating you" vibe either. Maybe he's just as confused as you are! What do YOU want?
Author NotNow Posted February 13, 2010 Author Posted February 13, 2010 He's going out later?? What happened to the original plans: A. Going bar hopping and you coming along B. You hanging out at his place He needs to make up his mind and stick to what plans he makes. The impression I get, is that he's stringing you along as backup. As for the "missed" text months ago... it *is* possible he never received that text. However, it took him an awfully long time to contact you again... I suggest making plans with your friends. His first text said "I'll be going out Saturday night. You interested?" Then tonight: "Hey. What's up? Come over to drink some brews." When I asked him for more details he said "Probably gonna be out later not home." So...I have no idea. Normally I would agree that it's possible he didn't receive my text; but in this case I know for a fact that he did. We had been texting back and forth, and it ended when I suggested the day/bar/time and said to let me know if he was up for it. He said that he would let me know, but then he never did. I didn't hear from him for months after that. Maybe he's just as confused as you are! What do YOU want? No, I'm not confused about what I want; as stated I simply wanted some company. This guy is someone who I would've (until recently) considered more than an acquaintance and less than a good friend. Therefore, perfectly acceptable to see if he wanted to meet me to catch up and whatnot. We've never hooked up, and I've never wanted to. I thought he was sort of a friend...
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