prach138 Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 Me and my 18 year old girlfriend have just recently broken up (I am 20). The reason for this was that we were on separate paths, she just started community college and I am in film school which means I'm very busy. What she wants is to get closer and possibly move in together soon while I want to work on my network at school and work on films. I can see a future with her and I love her to death but I don't understand why I don't feel the same way she does and why I cant say that I'm IN love with her. It's just so hard because I know things would work, we are great together, but things are so tough, especially when school starts. I want to socialize in the large city my school resides in but if I do that it would be like setting up a life in the city and then a life with her back at home (I commute every day into the city). We have recently gone into no contact, mainly because I don't want her to wait for me to be ready to get back into the relationship (If that time comes). It feels horrible to do this and I want nothing more than to be in her life and to have her in mine. I'm just afraid I'm not in love, I don't want to lose her. Should I just wait it out? Work on myself and then if things are meant to be, we'll get back together?
GrayClouds Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 I'm just afraid I'm not in love, I don't want to lose her. Should I just wait it out? Work on myself and then if things are meant to be, we'll get back together? Do not be selfish, if your not in love with her 100% then let her go. For if you do care about her you know she deserves someone who is not holding back. And by letting her go do not try to be friends, at least for a long while, give her time to heal. That is what a selfless,caring person would do. It sounds like your just getting involved with your own life. It is important that you become the person you a going to be on your own, this way your success and failure are your won. Right now focus on your life and your goals and let the future reveal itself.
skydiveaddict Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 I'm just afraid I'm not in love, I don't want to lose her. Should I just wait it out? Work on myself and then if things are meant to be, we'll get back together? If you're not in love with her anymore, why are you worried about losing her? I dont get it
brokenporcelain Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 Hi there, I can understand how exciting it is to be going to film school, meeting new people, and building your network. To experience all of these possibilities and all of these new adventures. I know that you want to pursue your dreams but you have a girlfriend who might be stopping you in the middle of it. A girlfriend whom you might not be able to see often. But you really like her and don't want to lose her. But unconsciously you knew it is not fair to have the cake and eat it too. I think you need to let her go and not hold her back for selfish reasons. And if you really love her then find out if you can maturely handle school and the relationship. =D goodluck, keep in mind that before we can take care of another person we must be able to take care of ourselves.
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