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Can girls love you one day and suddenly not love you the next?

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bananaboat11 Established Member

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I could only hope that one day someone actually loves me that much.

 

 

I'm a ****ed up man... :(

 

i'm just happy I know what love feels like... it REALLY hurts to let go, but when it's rekindled somewhat.. it's better than losing it entirely... and I know it's probably foolish of me, but I'm content with our relationship now... we're not together, but we're still in eachother's lives...

 

my last relationship.. i've never used, nor been used... so I didn't know how to react to it... and boy, did I react poorly now that I look back on how awful she was to me... and how infatuated I was with the sex, sex, sex, sex, sex... i clearly have a HIGH sex drive. I'm not poorly endowed either and know how to last longer than 30 mins :rolleyes:

 

...that + being really horny (because of elevated testosterone levels b/c of my bodybuilding)... holy crap :laugh:

 

 

BUT.. I won't do ANYTHING sexual outside of a relationship. Never have. Never will.

annxxdisaster Established Member

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hi, I'm rob :D

 

;P we've been through this already.

remember? i love you because you're jewish.

bananaboat11 Established Member

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;P we've been through this already.

remember? i love you because you're jewish.

 

 

love is such a strong word... are you sure you aren't infatuated with me? :o

annxxdisaster Established Member

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I'm a ****ed up man... :(

 

i'm just happy I know what love feels like... it REALLY hurts to let go, but when it's rekindled somewhat.. it's better than losing it entirely... and I know it's probably foolish of me, but I'm content with our relationship now... we're not together, but we're still in eachother's lives...

 

my last relationship.. i've never used, nor been used... so I didn't know how to react to it... and boy, did I react poorly now that I look back on how awful she was to me... and how infatuated I was with the sex, sex, sex, sex, sex... i clearly have a HIGH sex drive. I'm not poorly endowed either and know how to last longer than 30 mins :rolleyes:

 

...that + being really horny (because of elevated testosterone levels b/c of my bodybuilding)... holy crap :laugh:

 

 

BUT.. I won't do ANYTHING sexual outside of a relationship. Never have. Never will.

 

that's how my last ex was, with the lifting and lasting part anyway, i think i was more sex-minded than he was. apparently, i was the 'first girl he really loved' and he 'couldn't stand being three hours away from me, so he distanced himself from me when he had to leave me because he kept getting depressed'.

 

which it's fine and dandy, i suppose this is what happens when a 21 year old falls in "love".

annxxdisaster Established Member

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love is such a strong word... are you sure you aren't infatuated with me? :o

 

:D i'm awfully sarcastic, and it doesn't really play so well over the net if you've never talked to me in person.

bananaboat11 Established Member

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:D i'm awfully sarcastic, and it doesn't really play so well over the net if you've never talked to me in person.

 

 

oh just admit it.. you fell head over heels for me the moment you saw me log on :laugh:

annxxdisaster Established Member

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oh just admit it.. you fell head over heels for me the moment you saw me log on :laugh:

 

you can't deny fate. :love:

bananaboat11 Established Member

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you can't deny fate. :love:

 

hubba hubba!:love:

annxxdisaster Established Member

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hubba hubba!:love:

here's you're one warning, us psych majors are known to have issues.

bananaboat11 Established Member

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here's you're one warning, us psych majors are known to have issues.

 

 

Hey... I'm the child of a psychologist... :laugh::p

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I regret every day I didn't profess my love to her when I had the chance. Now I live with the thought that I may never get that chance... she told me she can't handle any serious relationships right now, but doesn't want to lose me... and I don't want to lose her.

 

she told me after I broke the NC (me being the dumper...) 7 months later... she was so scared I'd never talk to her again. Her parents love me and told her she was stupid and she realized it the moment I was gone.

 

I'm completely ok with her not being mine... (ie, I am fine with her dating other guys etc) ...I'm just happy she's still in my life. And vice versa...

 

If this girl entered the picture again today (that is to say she told you she wanted more than friendship from you)...would you be prepared for it?would u be able to profess your love to her (which u say you regret not doing) . I think you still be need to get over the latest trauma of your ex. Have u ever stopped "loving" her. "Love" in the complete sense, not in the partial "i'll always love you as a friend" sense. Full blown romantic soul mate love??

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oh just admit it.. you fell head over heels for me the moment you saw me log on :laugh:

 

 

I thought what we had was special...but obviously you were just using me...:(

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36 replies in an hour dang.

 

Thing is everyone, i honestly would have noticed if anythings wrong. Tell then why would she ask me to come and see her for 5 min after not seeing each other barely 2 days? i was asleep and she woke me up begging to see me. i told her i have stuff to do and she was teasing me and telling me i cant live without her that i need to see her (she was just like joking). i was like but i cant stay long and she goes "just stand infront of my house and let me drive by and see u for those 2 seconds". i told her fine ill just come and see her. i went and we hung out and she just kept holding my hands. If i let go, she would get all mad and be like "what u dont want to hold my hand anymore?". a few days before that, we had a huge fight, like really bad. and i was like acting all cold and indifferent. she looks at me, cries her head out and runs and holds my arm, and begs me never to leave her. i was like whats wrong? and she goes "the way you look at me when u get like this, makes me feel like u might leave me one day".

thats why im so confused people. How can this girl, who is always afraid to hurt me, never does anything to harm me,cries when she doesnt see me only for one day(she cried one time because she had to go home early to meet her mom, then she found out her mom wasnt home when she got their and cried cuz she missed a chance to see me) leave me like this so suddenly? she was stressed out ALOT cuz shes in med school and her mom has a problem with me and told her not to talk to me anymore (2 years ago). we had alot, and she knows it. does she even care?

bananaboat11 Established Member

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If this girl entered the picture again today (that is to say she told you she wanted more than friendship from you)...would you be prepared for it?would u be able to profess your love to her (which u say you regret not doing) . I think you still be need to get over the latest trauma of your ex. Have u ever stopped "loving" her. "Love" in the complete sense, not in the partial "i'll always love you as a friend" sense. Full blown romantic soul mate love??

 

 

The one I love wants NC not...

 

the recent trauma... no, I can handle nothing emotional right now. I've agreed with you and Erica. I still do.

 

The fact that I can spurt the name Nicole and hold resentment towards her shows I cannot handle anything having to do with a relationship at this time.

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we were really stressed both of us, but because how crazy we were to each other, we never noticed, atleast i didnt. we both got controlling and overprotective, BUT HONEST TO GOD, i never noticed it. i am from America and shes high class Egyptian. so we both had free open mindes. but slowely, because of jelousy and being possessive we started putting dumb rules on each other. I used to walk around with girls and joke around and stuff. she used to hang out with my friends and hit them and run after them (we were young). she didnt like the fact that i talk to girls because they always tend to fall for me. so she got jelouse one day and we fought and such. so one thing we knew about our relationship: what goes for me goes for you sort of thing. so she stoped talking to guys, I to girls (except if they talk to us). we stopped doing this and that and this and that. it killed us little inside and i never noticed. i actualy was depressed for 3 month before the break up because all i used to do was go to the gym, college,see her and then stay home. cuz everyone was always out with bunch of girls at clubs and stuff and if i ever dare to go with them, oh boy. I did my share of **** to her too though. Anyways she broke it off. i asked if she still loves me knowing 100% she'll say yes, she said i dont know. even though the day before she was crying because she missed me and wanted to see me so bad and i was busy. 2 weeks and no contact. i was her first kiss and everything, and thats a big deal before marriage. mehhh. when should i try to talk to her again? i tried the day after the break up cuz she did it by text, ( i know, so dumb), didnt work out too good

 

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then explain to me why she was all over me and begging me never to let her go few days before. we had major arguments days before the break up, she just cried and asked me never to hate her and always love her. thats why im confused. if we fought and she left and said she been lying to herself, fine i agree. but thats not what happened. why would she look at me and say "i just want to eat u all up" the day before if she was deattaching towards me?

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It depends on the girl you are talking about. Everyone is different and it's quite hard to generalize. Immature girls, for sure, they'd just "loose their feelings", meaning they weren't really in love with you. For me, when I love, I can love for a long time, I don't get confused and I work on keeping my feelings for someone, because I believe it's worth it. I make the effort to do my best, because for me, loving someone is the best gift you can give. And the fact that I'm extremely faithful too =)

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