tigressA Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 I dated a guy for almost two years who is 5'5" (I'm 5'7") and broke up with him for good in November after a failed reconciliation attempt after our first breakup in September. For about the last two months I've been seeing a guy who's 6'2" and I'm finding it frustrating. I have to stand on my tippy-toes to get kisses, and it's awkward in bed--he's very gangly, long-limbed. And I have a small bed (dorm furniture, I live on-campus). No, we can't go to his place because he still lives at home and his churchgoing mom would never let us share a bed. I've normally been in relationships with guys who are no more than 5'10", and have hooked up with guys 6' and above. There's just something about being at eye-level with someone instead of having them tower over you that I really appreciate, and that doesn't come with dating a 6-footer even at my height--unless I wear heels all the time, and that's not possible, especially in this recent weather. I like this guy and I'm trying to not let his height get to me, but I guess after all the time I spent dating "shorter" guys it'll take a little more time to get used to him. Perhaps I'll start feeling better when spring arrives and I can wear heels again. Anyone else ever feel like they have to adjust to someone's height/lack of it?
EM47 Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 holy cr*p, why did you make this thread. women...lol
AD1980 Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 See us short guys arent as bad as some of you women think;)
TheBigQuestion Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 This is a thread that OpenGL/betamanlet and all them should see. Or did they get banned?
Ingenue Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 It's only frustrating if you allow it to bother you. I'm 5'1" so every man I've dated is taller than I am. One guy was 6'5", another was 5'10" and my current guy is 6'1". The shortest one I've ever dated was 5'8" and he still towered over me. You get used to the small adjustments you have to make. So he looks down to meet my eyes and I have to crane my neck slightly to look up. I have to kiss him on tippy toes (at least I ditched the portable step stool). Think of it as a positive. If you see a person on the street you don't want to talk to, your bf's height will hide you. If it's a particularly cold day out, because he's taller, he can envelop you in his arms to warm you up. If I haven't let a whole foot of height difference get to me between my current relationship, you standing at 5'7" shouldn't either. You will get used to it. Just try not to put a negative spin on it. Imagine if you were my height...
Barky Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 Women are much more individualistic in their tastes regarding men, than men are in women.
zebracolors Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 Don't know I kind of like my guy being taller then me. It means that when we do finally get to be together, he'll easily be able to pick me up. From there anything can happen:o
Sweetie1977 Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 That leaves tall guys for the rest of us Tall Guys are gifts from God:love:
Crazy Magnet Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 Ha! I know what you mean! I'm 5'5". I had one LTR with a guy who was 6'4" and the sex was way awkward! I went on a few dates with another guy last fall who was the same height, and honestly that was a strike against him. I don't want to have the vertical leap of an NBA player to get a kiss. ha! The next R I had was short termish, but it was with a guy the same height as me. We just fit together so well! Plus he fit on my love seat which was nice. Now my BF hangs off. :/ Most of my BFs have been between 5'10" and 6'0". The current BF is 6'0" and that's about as tall as I'll ever date again. I wear heels a lot, so he always ends up within reach! *muah*
bananaboat11 Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 I'm 6'1"... and I've been in relationships w/ a woman who was 4'10" and a woman who was 5'11"
Author tigressA Posted February 12, 2010 Author Posted February 12, 2010 The next R I had was short termish, but it was with a guy the same height as me. We just fit together so well! Plus he fit on my love seat which was nice. Now my BF hangs off. :/ Yeah, that's what I miss about it--just fitting together really well. My ex is your height, but most of the time I hardly noticed a difference between us. Same with the other not-so-tall guys I dated.
Chitowngirl Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 Yes, I'm 5'8 and I dated a guy who was 6'6''. It was horrible!!! Being intimate was awkward b/c his limbs were so long and didn't really fit correctly with mine..and he was very well endowed and that didn't fit correctly either. It was just odd and I don'tt want to date someone over 6'4 now. I dated a guy for almost two years who is 5'5" (I'm 5'7") and broke up with him for good in November after a failed reconciliation attempt after our first breakup in September. For about the last two months I've been seeing a guy who's 6'2" and I'm finding it frustrating. I have to stand on my tippy-toes to get kisses, and it's awkward in bed--he's very gangly, long-limbed. And I have a small bed (dorm furniture, I live on-campus). No, we can't go to his place because he still lives at home and his churchgoing mom would never let us share a bed. I've normally been in relationships with guys who are no more than 5'10", and have hooked up with guys 6' and above. There's just something about being at eye-level with someone instead of having them tower over you that I really appreciate, and that doesn't come with dating a 6-footer even at my height--unless I wear heels all the time, and that's not possible, especially in this recent weather. I like this guy and I'm trying to not let his height get to me, but I guess after all the time I spent dating "shorter" guys it'll take a little more time to get used to him. Perhaps I'll start feeling better when spring arrives and I can wear heels again. Anyone else ever feel like they have to adjust to someone's height/lack of it?
Author tigressA Posted February 12, 2010 Author Posted February 12, 2010 Yes, I'm 5'8 and I dated a guy who was 6'6''. It was horrible!!! Being intimate was awkward b/c his limbs were so long and didn't really fit correctly with mine..and he was very well endowed and that didn't fit correctly either. It was just odd and I don'tt want to date someone over 6'4 now. That's something else I'm having to get used to with this guy!
EM47 Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 I can see your next posts... 1. His hair is so thick, my fingers get caught in it, I'm used to dating a blad guy, please help? 2. His abs are so hard, I can't even lay down on them, it's like laying on a rock. I am used to laying on layers of fat, it's so nice and soft, like a pillow. What should I do? 3. This jerk I'm seeing has too much money and insists we go to nice restaurants to eat. I am not used to eating a meal with a fork that isn't plastic...my last bf took me to Wendy's and it was great, now meals take 2 hours and I don't have time for this...please advise. 4. His house is too big, I keep getting lost...my last bf had a van by the river and it was so much easier. I need help before I get lost forever in the mansion....
Ingenue Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 ...and he was very well endowed and that didn't fit correctly either. I have to agree with this. While the height of my partner doesn't bother me, the proportional fit does. I've been lucky in that I've dated men whose proportions haven't necessarily corresponded to their presumed size, except for one guy, who exceeded it. Blah is all I can say.
mem11363 Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 Height is such a big deal. I remember a 6' tall college professor (he was 6" taller than me) telling me - that in the military his CO told him - "you want something important done - ask the shorter guy, he will hustle more, will work harder for you." To compete for girls I had to learn how to be a good listener. How to be entertaining and fun to be with. How to be assertive without being combative. How to be aggressive and project a scorched earth posture when really pushed. I worked harder on the money side because I knew that a good career would tilt the odds even more in my favor. I had to learn all those things to get dates. And it was not fun at the time. I even resented it on occasion. But I am glad I was forced to pick all that stuff up back then, because it turns out to be the same skillset needed for a happy marriage. I feel sorry for the shorter guys who are so bitter about heightism. They don't see it as simply a situation where they have to adapt and find a way to outperform the taller guys. My wife admits her "target profile" was - catholic, 5'10", really handy around the house. Eventually the lack of those 3 things was outweighed by the presence of the other stuff I had learned in order to compete with bigger guys. That's something else I'm having to get used to with this guy!
pandagirl Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 I'm 5'3" and I've always dated guys who were 5'10" +. I've always had to stand on my tippy toes to kiss them, but I guess I've never been bothered by it because it's just what I'm used to. My current boyfriend is 6'1", which is almost a whole foot taller than me! It doesn't bother me, but if he was 6'5"+ it would be a different story!
Eeyore79 Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 Oh I like taller guys... the taller the better! My current bf is 6ft2 and I love it; his height is so sexy and it makes me feel protected, and I go all weak at the knees from gazing up at him. But I guess different girls like different things! I've dated shorter guys but never really overcame my preference for taller guys; I just find height sexy. If you prefer shorter guys, maybe you always will...
Barky Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 I'm a short dude who definitely sees what women see in taller dudes. I'm straight but I can look at a tall, well-proportioned guy and go "yep, that dude is attractive." There's just something more physically powerful about taller guys, as long as they're not rail-thin. I tend to get chicks in the 5-6 range on the attractiveness scale. Rarely, rarely a 7. Never an 8-10. I have a feeling that if I were taller these numbers would improve. But then again, I have a big shlong, which gets me some attention. I once saw an article in Esquire mag that asked: "would you rather be 6'2 with a 5" shlong or 5'7 with a 7" shlong?" 75% of guys answered the latter.
Crazy Magnet Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 I guess I've never associated tall and sexy together. Rock hard abs, yes, toned arms and legs, yes, fantastic butt....oh yes (and baseball pitchers always have the best ones!). And weiners are not always proportional to height. My super tall boyfriend had an average one, and the current BF, though he's shorter, invoked thoughts of "Where is that thing gonna FIT!?!"
Sbrizio Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 I can see your next posts... 1. His hair is so thick, my fingers get caught in it, I'm used to dating a blad guy, please help? 2. His abs are so hard, I can't even lay down on them, it's like laying on a rock. I am used to laying on layers of fat, it's so nice and soft, like a pillow. What should I do? 3. This jerk I'm seeing has too much money and insists we go to nice restaurants to eat. I am not used to eating a meal with a fork that isn't plastic...my last bf took me to Wendy's and it was great, now meals take 2 hours and I don't have time for this...please advise. 4. His house is too big, I keep getting lost...my last bf had a van by the river and it was so much easier. I need help before I get lost forever in the mansion.... ...I rolled off my chair
sally4sara Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 Yeah, I dated a guy not much smaller than myself and really appreciated the way we fit together. Too bad he couldn't appreciate his height. He was insanely insecure and the most jealous, suspicious, controlling person I've ever dated.
Stung Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 .and he was very well endowed and that didn't fit correctly either. Experiment with this problem a little, some positions which allow deeper penetration and are painful might not hurt at all depending on the time of the month. Your interior anatomy changes subtly depending on where you are in your cycle, I actually pay attention to this now because I can only manage certain positions with my H at certain times. As for the height thing, I'm six feet and have never had a problem with anyone from 5'7" to 6'5", but I did once date a woman who was only 5'0" and of very petite structure and that freaked me out a little, to be perfectly honest. I have friends who are that height and I never thought twice about it, but when I was in bed with someone that small it felt wrong somehow, she was so small and slight that even though visually I found her quite lovely when I was in bed with her I had this visceral reaction like she was a child and it was a turnoff. <Shrug> I didn't date women very often but I learned to stick to the ones who were a bit closer to my own stature when I did.
You'reasian Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 I'm just under 5 feet tall. Yep. 5 feet. I'm about 5 feet wide as well. The ladies love me. They call me puck and wanna roll me around on the ground.
Author tigressA Posted February 12, 2010 Author Posted February 12, 2010 Oh I like taller guys... the taller the better! My current bf is 6ft2 and I love it; his height is so sexy and it makes me feel protected, and I go all weak at the knees from gazing up at him. But I guess different girls like different things! I've dated shorter guys but never really overcame my preference for taller guys; I just find height sexy. If you prefer shorter guys, maybe you always will... I don't really like that "protected" feeling--I never felt like I needed or wanted a guy to make me feel protected, which is maybe why I tend to gravitate toward shorter guys normally--I feel like I'm on the same level with them, which is nice. This also could explain my build preference--I like guys whose build reflects mine--lean, thin.
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