should I be worried about her cheating in the future?

[drewdude]

I know this might be a ridiculous question but I was just curious of what I should make of this. Im in a great relationship with my gf at the moment, though when the subject of cheating comes up she said she would never want to cheat on me but she said say if it were the extremely rare chance that it was a celebrity she found attractive that would be the only circumstance...I know its a crazy question but should i be worried? or am i thinking too much about this? thanks

[ducknrun]

Hope you don't live in California. Just kidding.

 

If your relationship is good you have nothing to fear. Keep honest communication at all times.

 

...but maybe look into moving into a very low population state with no stars. Ohio is a good state where nothing happens.

 

Now I’m just getting you all worried probably. Don't be. I think you honestly over thinking this one. Don't let this get the best of you. Continue to have a good relationship.

 

gl

[BG1985]

Cool, so she'd throw away a relationship over some celebrity who doesn't give a sh*t who she is?

[seibert253]

You can't stop someone from cheating. If they want to, they will.

Ask all the husbands, wives, guys, and gals, whose SO told them they would never cheat, if they thought it would happen to them.

 

Read here about the H and W's who said "my H or W, is the last person you'd ever expect would cheat".

 

It happens. All you can do is be vigilent, observant, and don't ignore the signs.

[Dexter Morgan]

I know this might be a ridiculous question but I was just curious of what I should make of this. Im in a great relationship with my gf at the moment, though when the subject of cheating comes up she said she would never want to cheat on me but she said say if it were the extremely rare chance that it was a celebrity she found attractive that would be the only circumstance

 

LOL, wow. I'd say bulls##t. If she found someone extrememly attractive and she knew she could get away with it and you'd never find out, trust me, it wouldn't have to be a celebrity.

 

She already just told you she would if she had a chance. Being it would be with a celebrity makes no difference.

 

Yes, I think you are going to have problems with this girl.

 

On another note, everyone is going to be attracted to other people, but as I told someone once, "you know, if you have the hots for someone else, I don't want to hear about it".

 

I'd say move on and find someone a little more sensitive and trustworthy.

[kardee7]

Seriously was she joking??? Was that said in the context: you can get with Julia Roberts if I can get with Brad Pitt then we'll come back together and live happily ever after! If not, slightly insensitive.

[wizer]

I guess it depends on her definition of "celebrity".

 

If she thinks the person who won that week on American Idol qualifies..well then you just might have a problem.

[Bryanp]

I think you need to reread Dexter Morgan's comment. He absolutely nailed it. The bottom line is if the situation is right she will cheat on you. I would doubt it would have to be a celebrity. She just told you all you need to know. Run Forest Run.

[meerkat stew]

Has a guy ever brought up this kind of thing? Seriously asking as I don't know. Have had several women bring this kind of thing up over the years, used to just laugh it off, but next time I hear it, going to break up there on the spot and let her go so she will be free when the celebrity pulls up in her driveway.

 

OP, you either have to just let comments like this roll off your back or make a stink over it. Pick your battles.

[tami-chan]

Has a guy ever brought up this kind of thing? Seriously asking as I don't know. Have had several women bring this kind of thing up over the years, used to just laugh it off, but next time I hear it, going to break up there on the spot and let her go so she will be free when the celebrity pulls up in her driveway.

 

LOL!:lmao:!!!! seriously. Gotta do, what you gotta do!

 

OP, you either have to just let comments like this roll off your back or make a stink over it. Pick your battles.

 

He is making a stink over it...or some posters are

[bluestraps]

No thats just a hypothetical but if she ever does cheat it may happen again

[samspade]

I know this might be a ridiculous question but I was just curious of what I should make of this. Im in a great relationship with my gf at the moment, though when the subject of cheating comes up she said she would never want to cheat on me but she said say if it were the extremely rare chance that it was a celebrity she found attractive that would be the only circumstance...I know its a crazy question but should i be worried? or am i thinking too much about this? thanks

 

The fact that she said this is a huge red flag. If you really LISTEN to a woman, she will tell you everything you need to know about her values, her past, and her interest in you. But you have to pay attention.

 

Think about this: What would be the point of her telling you this? It accomplishes nothing, other than to subliminally let you know her thought process, and possibly to shyte-test you. Otherwise, if George Clooney and Brad Pitt did approach her and take her to the hotel for a double-team, she probably never WOULD tell you, buddy.

 

Not only that, but she's given herself a wonderful escape clause. A "celebrity she finds attractive" could range from Brad Pitt to the local weatherman to a burnout guitarist in a garage band playing at the dive bar down the street. In the rationalizing mind of the female, it doesn't matter. Nor will it if he's not famous at all; she will still find a rationale. The important thing for you to bear in mind is she told you this, either to test your jealousy or to cover her rear. Either way, it's a mark against her and a reason to think about finding someone more mature.

[Zeegagge]

The fact that she said this is a huge red flag. If you really LISTEN to a woman, she will tell you everything you need to know about her values, her past, and her interest in you. But you have to pay attention.

 

Think about this: What would be the point of her telling you this? It accomplishes nothing, other than to subliminally let you know her thought process, and possibly to shyte-test you. Otherwise, if George Clooney and Brad Pitt did approach her and take her to the hotel for a double-team, she probably never WOULD tell you, buddy.

 

Not only that, but she's given herself a wonderful escape clause. A "celebrity she finds attractive" could range from Brad Pitt to the local weatherman to a burnout guitarist in a garage band playing at the dive bar down the street. In the rationalizing mind of the female, it doesn't matter. Nor will it if he's not famous at all; she will still find a rationale. The important thing for you to bear in mind is she told you this, either to test your jealousy or to cover her rear. Either way, it's a mark against her and a reason to think about finding someone more mature.

 

Yah this guy's right. She should never think or feel like that. Her first thought should be about you. I've been cheated on several times and it's not worth the pain. I mean, if you really really like this girl then you might could try and give it a shot, but I think this is a definite red flag. You should run.

[drewdude]

Woah didnt think more people would reply to this other than the first few I saw...go on and shoot me, but I decided im just going to let it slide off my back for now...Mayb ill take a stab at it again if our conversations lead into talking about celebritys. She also mentioned if it ever happened(as it would be a once in a life time chance for her), she would tell me too, other than that, she said she'd never wanna screw up/cheat on me. Soon after that I started talking about megan fox and she got really jealous...so mayb it was just all talk? Though i will agree that was slightly insensitive....

[CarrieT]

The fact that she said this is a huge red flag.

 

I think that's a bunch of bullsh*t.

 

In my last relationship, it was an ongoing joke that I would throw over my BF in a heartbeat for Gabriel Byrne and he would break-up with me for Kirsten Scott Thomas.

 

People just say these things and it does not mean a thing.

[lordWilhelm]

I think that unless it was in a clearly playful context, you should tell her that it bothers you.

[troggleputty]

I know this might be a ridiculous question but I was just curious of what I should make of this. Im in a great relationship with my gf at the moment, though when the subject of cheating comes up she said she would never want to cheat on me but she said say if it were the extremely rare chance that it was a celebrity she found attractive that would be the only circumstance...I know its a crazy question but should i be worried? or am i thinking too much about this? thanks

 

 

OP, she's told you what she really is, you've got a great bit of insight into your gf that most people don't get.

 

Who knows why she spilled this? Maybe she thinks she's grooming you, i.e. getting you mentally prepared for the inevitable cheating she's going to do, or perhaps has already done.

 

You have to interpret what she's really saying to you. Most women don't come straight out and tell you what's going on.

 

Listen, she's NEVER going to meet a celebrity to screw. What she's really telling you is if and when she runs across ANYONE she finds sufficiently attractive, celebrity or not, you're history.

 

And the worst part is she didn't even tell you she would break up with you FIRST. No, she ADMITTED she would have no problem cheating on you.

 

No it won't be with Brad Pitt or George Clooney. It WILL be with your replacement model, whoever that is. Maybe she already has her eye on someone--most likely, she does.

 

I would just cut her loose right now and find someone who at least thinks enough of your intelligence not to tell you TO YOUR FACE that she wouldn't have a problem cheating on you if the appropriate circumstances came up.

 

Which is exactly what your gf did.

[paperbag111]

Sorry for going off track but I got a question for you guys. My current gf confessed that she cheated on her ex once but says she will never do it to me because she's deeply in love with me. question is, should i trust her? she's moving overseas for work and i'm thinking of going with her. i don't want to move with her if there is a risk of her doing it again. she does however talks to this guy she cheated with once a blue moon.

 

what to do?

[paperbag111]

can anyone help me?

[Dexter Morgan]

Sorry for going off track but I got a question for you guys. My current gf confessed that she cheated on her ex once but says she will never do it to me because she's deeply in love with me. question is, should i trust her?

 

no

 

 

she's moving overseas for work and i'm thinking of going with her. i don't want to move with her if there is a risk of her doing it again.

 

if she cheated once, she can do it again. but she is moving for work and you are just "thinking" of moving with her? If she loves you, why is she moving overseas?

 

 

she does however talks to this guy she cheated with once a blue moon.

 

what to do?

 

oh hell no. Then you need to dump her NOW. She is still talking to her piece of ass on the side??? get rid of her and DO NOT MOVE to be with her. by her talking to the guy she screwed behind another man's back, she is disrespecting you. there are bigger, better, tastier fish in the sea my friend. what you have is a carp with a nasty mud vein.