Brokenhearted_girl Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 For some crazy self-destructive reason, I just feel the need to look up my ex on his FB, or even break into his FB account to find out what he's doing. I am trying to hold myself back, and so far I've been able to resist the urge... Just a brief background, a month ago my ex left me for a girl he met on FB. I knew his password so I checked his inbox and found he has been cheating on me for the longest time. I have not checked his inbox since that day we broke up. Now I am going crazy wanting to check his inbox again. It's so bad... Please help!
McGrupp Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 move on...why do u want too be with someone who cheated on you?
Author Brokenhearted_girl Posted February 12, 2010 Author Posted February 12, 2010 It's not the I want him back, I know I will never want to be with him anymore... I just want to find some validation that he regrets what he did... I know I sound like a crazy disturbed person.
bananaboat11 Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 BHG... you can never know. It's not healthy to know. We all WANT to know, but can't until THEY tell us... I'm sorry sweetie. Block his FB. I blocked Nicole's (my exes) when she unblocked me (for whatever ****ed up reason after going through a lot of trouble to hurt me and block me)... I left her unblocked for a few days to see if she breaks NC. She didn't... blocked her ass. SHe's been unblocked now for a week b/c I have no reason to hide from her anymore... and I haven't looked at her profile yet.. nor do I intend to. It gets easier... but block his ass for now. Be strong hun!
Author Brokenhearted_girl Posted February 12, 2010 Author Posted February 12, 2010 Hey Rob! Ok, so if I block him, I won't see his profile and he won't know about it right? Argggh... IDK what has gotten into me. I've been doing sooooooo well... Maybe cuz V-day is just around the corner. It's nice to know you are doing better! I get my usual ups and downs, today is obviously my "down". It started yesterday when I had a really bad day at work and my ex was usually my 1st person to call. I felt sad and felt sooooo sorry for myself, I cried... I know I need to snap out of this and get back to moving on.
bananaboat11 Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 Hey Rob! Ok, so if I block him, I won't see his profile and he won't know about it right? Argggh... IDK what has gotten into me. I've been doing sooooooo well... Maybe cuz V-day is just around the corner. It's nice to know you are doing better! I get my usual ups and downs, today is obviously my "down". It started yesterday when I had a really bad day at work and my ex was usually my 1st person to call. I felt sad and felt sooooo sorry for myself, I cried... I know I need to snap out of this and get back to moving on. hun, i've gone through it just as you are. I promise you it gets easier. and know I'm there for you ifyou want to talk... i'll give you my e-mail address if you'd like. Will you be my e-valentine? (I won't be hurt if you say no)
Author Brokenhearted_girl Posted February 12, 2010 Author Posted February 12, 2010 Yes I'll be your e-valentine! Yay! Send me your email addy on my FB. Or we can talk on FB or textmsg... lmao. I'll be in vegas getting drunk on v-day. I'll send you a drunk text msg. LOL.
skydiveaddict Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 For some crazy self-destructive reason, I just feel the need to look up my ex on his FB, or even break into his FB account to find out what he's doing. I am trying to hold myself back, and so far I've been able to resist the urge... Please help! Dont do it. You're just going to make yourself miserable. fb is the WORST thing EVER when it comes to heart break. Go for a run, call one of your friends, hit the gym, whatever. But forget the fb crap. Do ANYTHING but that. Be kind to yourself and forget about his fb page. good luck to ya
kwyser Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 Looking at it is only going to make it harder for you. Just leave it be and try not to think about it. Move on with your life and start trying to make yourself happy.
just1guy Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 It's not worth it. Trust me. I'm five weeks in NC and then one day, I wanted to check. Bad move..saw her with a pic of her with someone else and that set me back a bit.
GrayClouds Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 It's not the I want him back, I know I will never want to be with him anymore... I just want to find some validation that he regrets what he did... I know I sound like a crazy disturbed person. There a chance you will find he has no regrets at all. How would that make you feel? Keep the focus on yourself.
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